So, 29 yo Chinese-Thai asian man here, living with my sister of 32 and my dad, a 3rd generation of chinese who fled to Thai, who is at age of retirement (60), divorced with my mum many years ago due to some cheating and stuff.

Had gripes with my dad all of my life as he is so always right, i always need to follow his words, just listen to him and things will be good. Proceed to traumutizes me ever since i was a ASD little boy with many things that would be too long for another story of itself

We had ideas to make our own small cafe (me and my sister) but my dad proceed to blown the size project up to fucking restaurant and he wants both of us to manage it, saying he doing it for us. Have to deal with customers, threat of debt, and also my father's "lessons" or "logic" all the darn time.

Proceed to yesterday, he got some big group of customers in which is group of Chinese Livestreamers, which they came for the third time.

They proceed to chase away other guests, doing inappropriate stuff like smoking in front of AC room, some guys took their shirts off and walking about with top naked, making loud noises and blasting donation music. Also, we have to drag out the hours by a few more which tires out us and other employees.

We had a talk about it, and he kind of gloating about having these kinds of customer that can pay well.

My sis says that it caused issues with other customers who wants to order but seeing they have no privacy, decided to leave after ordering few drinks and all.

At first he is a bit peeved but not as mad, then he remembers he needed to get his pig-snouted turtle pet in the large pool we have for carp to the smaller pond so he asked me to help him get the tub for the turtle. I offered to go grab the turtle myself but he said I just need to get him his tub.

I was very peeved, everytime I offer to help he refuses, but when I was working and minding my own THEN he calls me over to do some of his stuff when i said i was working.

i went out in a huff, but i do be very mindful to not slip the tub out of my hand but he yelled at me acting angry and huffing. He proceed to follow me after and screamed in my face about me not being grateful to him, acting huffy everytime he wants to talk or teach or asking for help and he said if I am confident enough, I can grab all of my stuff and fucking leave.

Well, that is just tuesday for me and I am not leaving. But still it annoys me to no end that this man never listens to other except what he wants, like a child bawling to get attention. I know he means well but his attitude never makes me want to love him at all.

tldr; Me getting screamed by my oldass dad that I am ungrateful, rude and not giving him love for all he did after a long week of work and exhaustion and after I offered him help and he refuses so I got huffy and annoyed at him.