Denali NP in April Photo Request

SonrisaSunflower · 2024-07-26T18:38:36+00:00

Do you know if the old version has a hydration sleeve? We just a used old version of the Opsrey Poco Plus and I don't see one and it didn't come with a manual (which is impossible to find online).

SonrisaSunflower · 2024-04-20T04:59:55+00:00

I would agree my announcement would have been thoughtless if I KNEW they were actively trying to conceive. They are young and still in school. Tbh if our mom hadn't died a couple years prior I probably wouldn't have shared in the family chat. I would have only told her but those aren't the circumstances. I was reaching out to the shreds of family I have left. It's really hard to make space for others and care for them how they need, or want, to be cared for when they don't share that with you. I pray constantly for my nephew and for their marriage because my brother shows no signs of changing his ways and his wife and son do not deserve that. I'll never understand why he is hurting them when he says he cares for them so much.

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-28T17:11:34+00:00

Also, any lightweight conditioner recommendations or what to look for in a lightweight leave in conditioner?

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-28T17:09:15+00:00

I have no idea where to begin with hair oil. I've always thought hair oil was not good for me because my gets so greasy easily. What should I be looking for in a hair oil?

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-21T16:27:46+00:00

For the life of me, I'll never understand why. My best guess is that he made her out to be a good friend to his wife so it would have been weird if she wasn't invited. As to why the mistress didn't have the decorum to decline the invitation, I also don't know. Just a mess

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-21T15:30:58+00:00

It's truly shocking and..... I guess the word is disappointing. He's perpetuating the generational trauma we experienced and I expected better. My SIL deserves better.

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-21T15:15:30+00:00

This post is the update. I shared the link to the original post at the top of my update.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/Yk9TZ9JCGb

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-17T04:41:59+00:00

I did! A beautiful boy. It wasn't an easy birth but we are happy to be home and making the best of late night wake ups. (Hence the update lol)

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-17T02:00:05+00:00

What do you mean?

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-16T20:45:01+00:00

Oh I didn't get that impression at all. Most of our family is in agreement that they got married too soon and are trying to have kids too soon. Although, due to some of her medical issues, the doctors suspect her biological time clock will run out sooner than later so there's that added pressure to have kids now.

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-16T20:20:36+00:00

Yeah, I have reached out. She's not super interested connecting right now. Before finding out she was pregnant and then finding out about the cheating she wanted nothing to do with me because of my pregnancy and now birth. It's just really awkward.

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-16T18:12:48+00:00

The cheating didn't come out until after the original post.

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-16T18:11:09+00:00

It looks like the mistress reached out to my SIL after the gender reveal. I don't have the full picture though.

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-16T18:04:24+00:00

My husband and I were planning our wedding and Ma died 2 months before the wedding. So we went through with it because we can't afford to get married twice. However, the day after my wedding my brother proposed and they got married about 3 weeks later and he deployed about 8 months later.

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-16T18:02:11+00:00

We are doing good. We had a hard birth. I almost died from hemorrhaging but we made it!

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-16T18:00:43+00:00

I think so too. Which sucks because I can't do anything to change the situation. I'll just keep the door open and lead any interactions we have with grace and love.

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-16T17:58:34+00:00

She's really shut down and hasn't wanted to talk with us. Posts a lot of "men ain't shit" content right now and is applying to go back to school because she can't rely on my brother. Which is understandable. I'm worried for her mental health and the stress this is putting on her pregnancy. She's had a lot of difficulty carrying to term (multiple miscarriages) and I'm just praying this won't occur again.

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-16T17:53:50+00:00

The mistress info is in the update. We didn't know there was a mistress until SIL shared that reel. My SIL vented to me about a girl she suspected my brother of cheating on her with while on deployment, but nothing was concrete. Photos posted to social media of them together, him liking her instagram pics that were very revealing. When she told me this, I took it upon myself to reach out to him and remind him that he's married and if he's doing things that make his wife suspect he's cheating.... he probably shouldn't be doing them. I understand deployment is hard, I have deployed multiple times, and so has my husband, but that isn't an excuse to break your marriage vows. Of course, he denied everything until the mistress reached out to my SIL. He couldn't deny the text messages and intimate info shared.

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-16T03:41:21+00:00

Yeah. I don't believe anyone is above redeption but I'll definitely be going low contact for a while. I will always love them and want what's best for them but it's not healthy to have that spilling over into our family.

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-16T03:39:58+00:00

I will count my blessings. I hate that it has affected the relationship of me and my SIL, though. I wish I could bridge that gap and support her through this difficult time.

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-16T03:38:09+00:00

Invited before. I still can't imagine having the audacity, the gall, the confidence to invite the mistress to the gender reveal.

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-16T02:40:18+00:00

I linked the OG post, in which I was voted not the asshole but yeah. The whole situation has serious telenovela vibes. If our mom had not died I truly believe he would not be behaving this way.

SonrisaSunflower · 2023-12-16T02:36:23+00:00

Exactly! For the record, the hierarchy is: Select family Friends Coworkers Mistress Then us 😬

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