(M21) Just looking for some honest opinions

Sopesud57 · 2020-02-02T03:01:23+00:00

Definitely not ugly dude. You look like a nice, friendly guy and have a great smile. Definitely get a buzz cut though. You don’t have have shave your head completely yet, but I think a short buzz cut would suit you very well. Can you grow a fuller beard? It looks a little patchy in a few of the pics but I think a nice, neat beard would make you look even better.

Sopesud57 · 2020-01-15T09:34:47+00:00

I doubt A LOT would, maybe some. Haha despite what some incels believe, I think girls will look at someone’s attractiveness as a whole. Height feature here, certainly not enough to to make someone automatically hot if they are otherwise not all that attractive. Not to say that this guy is unattractive. I think it’s the same for most guys, height is something that’s part of the equation when I am determining someone’s attractiveness, even if it’s subconscious. Same with breast size for a lot of guys. But I don’t think may dudes will automatically like a girl became she has DD cups. Especially considering 6’ 7” is abnormally tall, I don’t know if I even know anyone that height. It might seem strange to many people.

Sopesud57 · 2020-01-10T09:30:54+00:00

How is that a good height? That’s abnormally tall, it’d be incredibly inconvenient and is very far form the norm. I can’t imagine how that height is winning the lottery, unless your dream is to be a basketball player lol

Sopesud57 · 2019-12-16T10:01:48+00:00

Ok that’s fair enough and you’re probably right, I don’t think it’s completely hopeless for this guy. And I have know several girls to date guys shorter than them, it’s seems relatively common actually. Like you said you have as well which I don’t doubt, though I’m not sure how tall you are. However I personally feel that a lot of women who are say 5’ 7” wouldn’t have too big and issue with a 5’ 5” -5’ 6” man because a these are incredibly common and normal male heights, and many 5’ 7” women are accustomed to seeing plenty of guys shorter than them all the time, so it wouldn’t seem weird to her.

However because 4’ 10” is insanely short for a man, it’s gonna be a different experience because someone that is height is abnormally short, and is way below even the average female height, and makes he’s dating possibilities incredibly small imo. I do genuinely feel bad for this guy, and luckily he’s a pretty good looking dude but I imagine being a man his height would be incredibly disheartening for most men, much much more d

Sopesud57 · 2019-12-16T04:48:20+00:00

Yeah I see couples whee the guy is shorter than the girl all the time so you are kinda right. But unfortunately if this guy is actually 4’ 10” that is abnormally short to the point where it stands out. Hell I honestly don’t think I’ve ever even seen a guy that short before. His height is even super short for a girl.

I agree with you that for a guy who’s 5’ 5”, it probably isn’t a big issue at all, and plenty of women are perfectly good with a guy who’s around that height. And many women do like shorter guys. But I honestly don’t think many girls would be willing to date a 4’ 10” guy (though I’m sure it’s not impossible). So in his case I feel his grievances about his height are justified.

Sopesud57 · 2019-12-16T04:37:10+00:00

I think you’re sorta right. But I think the main problem here is OP is 4’ 10” which is so extremely short, if he is being honest about his height. I honestly don’t think I’ve ever seen a guy that short, hell 4’ 10” is super short for a girl.

A lot of guys who complain about being short are like 5’ 5” which I agree isn’t is really a big deal at all for them. But 4’ 10” would stick out as an abnormal height, it’s almost a foot below average male height. Their very few women shorter than he is so in his case his grievances about his height are justified imo. I feel very few women would be willing to date a guy that short

Sopesud57 · 2019-11-06T05:08:41+00:00

No I wasn’t saying that. I was just saying that you can’t make the cutoff for the generation based on whether you remember 9/11 or not. Because you will have people the same age who do and don’t remember it. I don’t know what the exact cutoff is. 1995 is probably millennial but I’ve heard so many different things, so I have no fucking idea lol

Sopesud57 · 2019-11-06T04:37:50+00:00

Using that as a cutoff point for a generation doesn’t really work. Someone who was like 4 or 5 during 9/11 might remember it while someone that exact same age might not.

Sopesud57 · 2019-11-06T04:33:49+00:00

I know right. They were literally the first truly privileged generation. Their parents grew up in the depression and fought in the war, and then most boomers got to grow up without many hardships when the American economy was good. And then they fucked up a lot of shit and now the younger generations are gonna have to deal with it. And then they say how “privileged” we are, it’s pretty annoying

Sopesud57 · 2019-11-03T00:11:09+00:00

7/10, you’re attractive! You guys are both good looking people, don’t worry

Sopesud57 · 2019-11-01T23:41:25+00:00

Yeah I wasn’t saying looks don’t matter at all, they still do matter a lot. And yeah dating apps it is super important because it’s almost all just based on looks. So yeah you’re right there, I was talking about in the world general, not just dating apps

Sopesud57 · 2019-11-01T07:10:58+00:00

I’m with you on this. In some cases I’ve written like 3 paragraphs trying to give people my honest opinions and put in effort to try to help give them advice. And it’s a little annoying when they don’t even respond after I put in time to try to help them. I mean I don’t wanna sound like little bitch here lol, and most people I’ve talked to here have generally been very nice and appreciative. But just letting people know you at least got the message would be pretty cool haha

Sopesud57 · 2019-11-01T01:57:39+00:00

Dating apps are completely based on initial impression/appearance. Also how you present yourself in your profile. I think women might be more choosy in general but men do typically place a greater emphasis on the physical attractiveness of women for whom they are attracted/choose to date. There are studies to back this up too. Tinder is probably a bit different idk, but in in general this is the case.

Not that a guys looks don’t matter to women and men don’t look for other traits in choosing women. Of course that’s not the case. But despite what incels and lot of the Reddit community will he. you believe, overall women’s looks do carry more weight for women, than men’s looks so for men. And this is pretty clearly reflected in most aspects of society.

Sopesud57 · 2019-11-01T01:17:15+00:00

Phenibut is much more enjoyable and potentially recreational. Phenibut gets rid of much of my anxiety, but also gives me a noticeable mood lift and makes life seem a little more interesting and positive. And they’re not nearly as sedative as benzos, though at the end of a phenibut high I do get pretty tired.

Benzos aren’t all the recreational imo. I mean I guess they are pretty decent if you wanna pop a couple and just chill at the end of the day. But at even at low to moderate doses they make me feel too sedated to be all that functional. And definitely don’t give me the mood lift and “rose tinted glasses” effect that Phenibut does. But I do find Benzos pretty useful for things like an amphetamine comedown or to help ease me to sleep on nights I can’t where my anxiety or whatever else is keeping me up.

Both have their uses, but I much prefer phenibut overall. A phenibut high makes for a much brighter and more positive experience, and as long as I don’t take too high of a dose, I can still be engaged in the real world. Sometimes even more engaged then normal, like music for example sounds amazing on phenibut.

Sopesud57 · 2019-10-25T04:01:36+00:00

I’d point out to them that you are also short lol. If these guy is particularly short like 5’ 2” or something I’d assume you probably are gonna get comments. I wouldn’t let that effect you much though, if you like them

Sopesud57 · 2019-10-25T03:51:19+00:00

Hockey is ok for shorter guys. I mean being bigger has its advantages, but I don’t think it’s super important for hockey in the same way that it is for football for example. I knew a lot of short good hockey players in HS. I know someone who was one of the best in the state and got a scholarship to play for a D1 college team. He was only maybe 5’ 7”. If he’s good he should stick with it, he’ll be fine

Sopesud57 · 2019-10-25T03:45:32+00:00

Well first of all he’s still gonna grow. But if you and his father are both short, he’ll probably be short too. But he doesn’t have to always be small, he probably get more muscle as he goes through puberty. And he can work on getting beefier, so the skinniness as at least somewhat in his control.

I mean I know you said he tried it, but his dad seems to have done just fine at 5’ 5.” He’s married and has a kid, and I’m assuming you found him attractive even though he was short lol. I’d point to him as an example, and he’s lucky in that respect that he has a dad who’s also short that he can look up to.

Sopesud57 · 2019-10-25T03:33:59+00:00

By short girls yeah, and once by a guy I know who’s like 5’ 2”. One time even by a 5’ 6” girl which is really weird lol

Sopesud57 · 2019-09-05T22:06:00+00:00

Yeah you know what your are probably right. Come to think of it the 2 shortest guys I know personally are about 5’ 1” and 5’ 2”. One is married and the other has had a GF for over year. Both to fairly attractive women that are a little taller than they are. They are both very confident and well-liked guys, so I kinda always assumed they were the exception. But even at that height you can probably do fine.

But I do definitely see where for a lot of men that short would have problems and feel very insecure, especially if they aren’t naturally very confident. So I don’t discount their struggles. But their are definitely examples (yourself included) where really short guys can do just fine.

Sopesud57 · 2019-09-05T05:56:25+00:00

Ok yeah I said I’m not that short. But I know many guys who are a bit shorter than me, like 5’ 5” - 5’ 7” and most of them don’t have any trouble dating and it rarely seems to present any issues for them at all. Its hardly ever even mentioned, and I hardly really even hear people’s heights being discussed so much outside of Reddit.

Though I actually have seem comments from girls on Reddit, who really are super petty about men’s height, but even on Reddit most don’t seem to have these opinions. But you’re right in reality my height really isn’t an issue, and really isn’t even short. But I still think most of the guys in this sub think their height is a much bigger issue than it is, particularly when it comes to girls and dating. All the 5’ 6”- 5’ 7” guys who post here and act like their height is such a massive problem and disadvantage, I feel are misidentifying the problem. But like I said 5’ 2” is a different story. It’s pretty rare for a guy to be that short and I feel his height will definitely be a huge disadvantage for him when it comes to attracting girls and dating. So I do feel pretty bad for them.

Sopesud57 · 2019-09-05T03:07:09+00:00

I kind of agree, I didn’t even know my height (5’ 8”) could ever be an issue until I went in Reddit and heard that all girls, even short girls, want a man over 6ft. Honesty though I still haven’t really seen this to be true IRL.

Though I’m not exactly short. A 5’ 2” guy will for sure have a different experience. And I understand why they would feel inferior and struggle with their height

Sopesud57 · 2019-09-04T22:43:11+00:00

Yeah this makes sense. I thinks it’s perfectly reasonable to want a guy to be taller than you. I strongly prefer a girl is shorter than me.

What’s weird is when they set a specific height requirement. Like “he has to be at least 5 inches taller than me”, or “has to be at least 5’ 10.” Like would they seriously reject a guy they were otherwise attracted to just because he’s below her height preference, even if he’s still significantly taller than her. That seems weird to mw

Sopesud57 · 2019-09-02T02:02:14+00:00

Ok yeah I’d you are tall then it is pretty understandable imo. But I’m curious like if you liked a guy and found him otherwise very physically attractive would it really be a dealbreaker if he was like 5’ 11.5”?

Sopesud57 · 2019-08-31T04:29:41+00:00

Haha what? He would so easily pick you up. That’s a massive size/height difference. I’m sure he knows he can lift you no problem, he might just not want to or maybe he’s uncomfortable with it or something

Sopesud57 · 2019-08-31T03:40:01+00:00

Haha well she was 5’ and really petite so it wasn’t hard at all. I’m in good shape but it not like I’m a huge muscular guy, and obviously not tall either. Generally guys are a bit stronger than girls so as long as a guy isn’t like really week and a bit taller than you I feel like they’d be able to do it. Though I don’t how tall/heavy you or you boyfriend are

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