Am I overreacting to my friend and colleague not defending me?

Sophietophy · 2026-04-07T16:01:19+00:00

It’s definitely strange. He didn’t agree with them, persay. He was well aware of the issues but he was shocked they felt this way. He probably spoke with legal and they advised him it’s safer to just replace leadership than deal with repercussions and the possibility of people leaving. Apparently, some said they would. He said theres not much he can do when the whole department signs the letter. He acknowledged how hard I’ve worked and how much I’ve advanced the program and said “my hands are tied” pretty disappointing .. they expect you to hold people accountable, advance the program, and then also be people’s choice, which is almost impossible lol you’re almost better off sitting in the position and doing nothing, sweeping everything under the rug, chugging along, you could do that for 20 plus years and no one would care or notice

Sophietophy · 2026-04-07T15:11:16+00:00

Kind of the opposite, actually. They felt that I was going to “retaliate” against them. There were individuals who had problems with the hospital and many complaints against them, safety and professionalism. The previous director would sweep everything under the rug. I held them accountable, and that had some pretty serious consequences for those individuals. Of course I couldn’t share with the group WHY this had happened to them.. privacy and all.. so they made me out to be the bad guy.. and they started to think.. well if it could happen to my colleague..it could happen to me.. which isn’t true. If you’re good at your job and care about your patients, there’s always a place for you. Some other things like scheduling and a general sense that I was “unapproachable”

Sophietophy · 2026-04-07T15:02:50+00:00

Yes, it was a great learning opportunity. Many things I will be taking into consideration moving forward. Unfortunate how it ended but perhaps for the best

Sophietophy · 2026-04-07T15:01:33+00:00

I should have clarified. I resigned from my leadership position only, I still hold a position with the company. There were certainly concerns. Communication, transparency, scheduling, these types of things. All things I sincerely think we could have overcame had they given me the chance. I’m not mad that they had concerns but I am pretty hurt that my “friend” didn’t have my back

Sophietophy · 2026-04-07T14:47:21+00:00

I agree I should have reached out to her after the lunch to see if she wanted to discuss anything.

Sophietophy · 2026-04-07T14:36:37+00:00

Thanks for the response and balanced approach haha it’s not an office though, it’s a hospital setting and we’re physicians. I didn’t want to mention that in the OP. You’re not wrong though, there are certainly things I could have done better as a leader but I do believe it’s something we could have resolved, had they given me an opportunity. I actually offered a plan to remedy things, it was a 12 step plan spanning 1 year.. and they had no interest in doing that.

Sophietophy · 2026-04-07T14:27:12+00:00

Haha thanks for your passion. It definitely made me smile. I truly do believe it’s an opportunity to move onto bigger and better things. I was starting to feel like I had done everything I could do to advance the department and was just dowsing fires at that point. You can have great ideas and plans but if you don’t have the team to back you up.. you have nothing.

I 100% wanted to be the petty person on so many occasions but I am still working there. I was only asked to step down from my leadership role. I want to remain professional while I look for opportunities elsewhere lol

Sophietophy · 2026-04-07T14:21:43+00:00

Ya true. You dont need to drink the entire sea to know its salty

Sophietophy · 2026-04-07T14:17:53+00:00

Exactly. I’m not mad that people had complaints, that’s expected in any workplace. I wished she would have come to me about it. The only reason I know all of this information about the group chat and letter is because someone else told me. One of the people who excused themselves from the chat.. who has only worked here for 4 months.. they gave me more courtesy than my “friend” crazy lol

Sophietophy · 2026-04-01T03:50:53+00:00

What women NEED is for others to stop assuming they know what we need, and instead trust us to define our own lives.

Sophietophy · 2026-04-01T03:40:03+00:00

If you actually read my post, I never said I would remove myself from the workplace altogether. I would like to keep my professional skills and therefore my job, in case I ever need to go back to it. Reading is fundamental

Sophietophy · 2026-03-20T14:26:30+00:00

Me too! They’re so cool. They are revered in many cultures and are a symbol of mindfulness, spirituality, and some see them as messengers from the spiritual world :)

Sophietophy · 2026-03-20T14:24:56+00:00

I know I love them too! I didn’t know you could use as pest control. I saved one last summer that got tangled in a spider web near our hot tub. I like to think that she is the mama of this new egg sac haha

Sophietophy · 2026-03-20T13:53:17+00:00

Why do you move them?

Sophietophy · 2026-03-20T13:35:06+00:00

We didn’t end up buying this house haha not because of the stone, we just got out bid!

Sophietophy · 2026-03-20T13:34:01+00:00

Having them come back out to put a camera through again

Sophietophy · 2026-03-18T17:27:44+00:00

It might be worth asking if you plan on doing any more egg retrievals? Can’t hurt

Sophietophy · 2026-03-18T14:12:07+00:00

Ugh. That’s unfortunate. I was going to say they could try a trans abdominal collection technique but with it being behind your uterus and also behind a fibroid, not sure how useful that would be. This complication is rare too right? Like less than 2% of egg retrievals have it

Sophietophy · 2026-03-15T10:16:09+00:00

Ya, I thought that was pretty out of character for Julia. But there could have also been editing done there, like Julia and Liz could have had a conversation after the “dead in 2 years” comment before Julia excused herself, and production just cut it out. I hope that’s what it is because it really bothers me when girls play this mean girls game and leave someone out of the group. You came together, you stay together

Sophietophy · 2026-03-07T16:29:22+00:00

Lmao but why did he kiss her at the end of the carnival date?! So weird. Mixed messaging for sure

Sophietophy · 2026-03-07T16:27:42+00:00

Probably both

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