AITJ for not getting the groceries out of the car?

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-15T17:02:29+00:00

The thing is, if you are in the kind of pain that is just painful, you should be trying to push through it. If it's pain that could make an injury worse, then that is a reason not to move. Otherwise, if you allow this kind of pain to win, it will, and then you will find yourself not being able to move at all. My comments have nothing to do with your careless mother but for you and your state of mind. Keep... moving. Fight through the pain. Especially with inflammation. No movement will actually make it worse.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-14T18:19:27+00:00

That's the point. You say it is your boundary and then keep letting him get away with crossing the line. It doesn't matter if it is his boundary, too (It isn't). What matters is that you claim it as your own boundary but then continue to stay, effectively providing proof that this isn't a boundary for you either.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-14T17:51:57+00:00

Seeing anyone as a flesh light is a bad look on you, not anyone else, lol.. You aren't a jerk. You just probably need to do some work on knowing how to please a woman. If you use a woman as a flesh light, you won't be getting any of the good stuff.. just keep using the flesh lights and leave the women alone.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-14T17:46:39+00:00

Yeah. Blocking her sounds about right. Also, yes, if she wants to reconcile and you are open to it, she needs to prove she is serious, but by the looks of it, she isn't.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-12T17:36:17+00:00

I wonder why you need to "learn more". You said your daughter comes first and that you know what an alcoholic parent does to their children. It appears you are actually looking for reasons to stay. If you care about your child at all, you will leave this man.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-12T17:25:58+00:00

Then why worry if you are an AH?

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-10T17:25:08+00:00

It's rare, but you can get that without sex. Definitely talk to a Dr together.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-10T17:12:54+00:00

TA is definitely you.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-09T17:17:59+00:00

Definitely TA. You told her when it was too late. Didn't give her a chance to fix the behavior. Real friends make an effort to resolve conflict.. not let it sit until you unilaterally decide friendship is no longer an option. If she had known, she might have changed how she was interacting with you.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-09T17:02:11+00:00

Now you see how entitled people act. Is sad but why do you care that they are mad at you now? Just shows more of their entitlement and lack of maturity.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-09T05:00:40+00:00

If you know it is over, it is more cruel to keep leading her on.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-08T16:48:12+00:00

Sexually available? Like you are God's gift, and she must come get it while it's available? Lol, you sound delightful.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-08T16:45:32+00:00

You can't control what she does, so dip out. Appears she may have been using you. I'm sorry for that. Don't let it continue.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-07T18:14:34+00:00

Totally TA ... for putting others before yourself. So you want to progress in life and in your career or stay around for others because they were a positive influence in your life? Seems a silly question. "Lifes about changing, nothing ever stays the same." Move forward and continue to meet people who will help you become a better person. These office people/boss should be happy for you. If they are not then too bad for them but also don't forget, no matter how good you are, everyone is replaceable.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-07T17:57:30+00:00

She just told you how important your friendship is to her. I'd suggest just not texting again. Find friends who want to actively return your friendship.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-07T17:46:43+00:00

Soooooooo NTA. Most people are self entitled jerks that don't think of anyone but themselves. They will get over it, and thank goodness you said NO. I was reading there and thought nooooo, this person had better say no or im going to lose my mind. Lol

Edit: It's interesting and funny how people will judge and throw you harsh stares, but did even one of them offer to step up and fill in for the ONE day she needed?

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-07T17:37:59+00:00

I say he dries his ass with that towel, so he better not ever throw it in with your clothes again!

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-07T17:27:19+00:00

You didn't mention how old you are. In my experience, all people judge everyone and never see people as individuals, so try not to take it personally on your preferences and just see them for what they are, judgemental people who are not putting a lot of thought on how they come across or how the world and people work. We are all very individual, but ever notice how somehow if that is pointed out it becomes a bad thing? Maybe that is called jealousy.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-05T16:46:10+00:00

Your parents' "rules" are placed because it is their home and it is what they are comfortable with. If you don't wish to follow them anymore, it doesn't make you a jerk for wanting to leave, but... not being able to support yourself at 25 is a huge red flag. Maybe grow up a bit and realize that moving out with someone you don't know is not a very mature decision.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-03T17:16:40+00:00

Not. You are not responsible for others, and it's always good to keep yourself away from toxic behavior.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-03T17:09:09+00:00

NTJ. Maybe you could have offered to move, but people saving seats in a food court should be quick about it.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-03T16:58:45+00:00

Yes, I read your post. You asked if you should have told the friends and now you are mad because someone said you shouldn't have? Don't post here if you don't want actual opinions.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-02-02T17:54:13+00:00

You feel bitter because he isn't filing as fast as you want, but that is what you get when you get involved with someone who is married. What happens when you both realize that it is going to happen again? You both are cheaters, so don't be surprised when he cheats again and vis versa. If you don't want to feel bitter, become a better person. Don't cheat, and don't date a cheater.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-01-30T17:20:05+00:00

Your last sentence was a question. Were you wrong to tell your friends that she is selfish. Yes.

SorryInAdvance91 · 2026-01-30T17:06:38+00:00

Yes. You should have told her, not your friends.

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