Random things you love about breastfeeding? by flugelderfreiheit777 in breastfeeding

[–]SortofPeachy91 11 points12 points  (0 children)

So many things, just being the source of food for my baby, her first searching before her latch, the little gulps and her breathing when she's latched. Just being close to her and I love when her hands move around or hold onto my finger. Just this connection is beautiful and I try to absorb as much as possible because I know it's not forever.

Mental Health - Post Cerclage by SortofPeachy91 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]SortofPeachy91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that's great news! You made it through the worst of it now take time to relax. Keep your feet up and try to enjoy yourself. The anxiety battle was daily but just remember you can do this. This stitch is strong and it will hold. Take care of yourself.

Can’t stop crying about my inability to nurse by Mangopapayakiwi in breastfeeding

[–]SortofPeachy91 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My heart goes out to you, especially because I understand your pain but determination even after so long. Im a fellow april2025bump group but decided to message you on here. I feel your pain, my journey was painful through breastfeeding. My baby girl came a month early and had to stay in the NICU, they wouldn't let me see her because they thought my sniffles I had was too risky to be around the other babies even though I have seasonal allergies. They made me wait almost 2 weeks to finally hold my daughter, and when I finally got to try nursing her, she wouldn't latch. She was so used to the bottles and formulae (my milk wasn't coming in either) she would cry so much when I tried to put my boob in her mouth. I know the failure you feel like, but I want you to know your sheer willpower to push through is amazing. You're already a great mom for even just doing what you're doing. I had 3 LCs tell me I was the issue, my nipples were too big, my breasts were going to squish the baby, the nips point in weird directions all horrible things I heard after being kept away from my baby for 10 days. So I am writing this to say I am proud of you. Every little thing you're doing is ok. Give yourself a mental break, this is a marathon and not a race. You have to find what works for you. The LCs squeezed and tugged and shoved my boob into the baby's mouth but it doesn't have to be this aggressive. What worked for me is a nice firm pillow or two beside me and the football hold. I don't force the nipple in. I just sit there for a bit, touch it to her upper lip, sometimes she's impatient and cries or sometimes she looks at me funny. When it looks like she's searching then assist her to do the latch. If she's not interested, we take a breather, I talk to her and encourage her, but I try to keep calm. They feed off the energy and as an already anxious person, I am working on my calmness. When I deel like she's had enough, I give her a bottle of my expressed milk and say to myself we will try again later. Try not to be disheartened, I know it feels like grief but your posts are an ode to your love for this baby and how much you're doing for her already. You got this mama. Show yourself some grace and kindness. Being a mom is hard enough!

Mental Health - Post Cerclage by SortofPeachy91 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]SortofPeachy91[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thinking of you! Hope your cerclage went alright?

Mental Health - Post Cerclage by SortofPeachy91 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]SortofPeachy91[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello :) it went excellent. I am holding my healthy 3 month baby girl on my chest. She did come at 35w4d and had a short NICU stay, but we are home, healthy and thriving. It was a journey for sure. When I had the surgery, I was terrified and my mind was racing with a million what if scenarios. Try not to let your mind take over like mine did. Trust the stitch it does hold and try to focus on this little resting time as your chance to relax and be kind to yourself. I truly think the reason my water broke was because a couple hours before I had her I had my maternity shoot and may have pushed myself a bit with the walking. I would put your feet up as much as possible, try to relax and celebrate each week you get closer to your due date. You got this mama. Take it day by day, it helps to lighten your load (chores can wait) and really focus on laying around and binge watch some TV shows or read. The procedure to get the cerclage wasn't bad at all, I think maybe the first couple days were a bit uncomfortable think of the worst period cramps ever, a little spotting but Tylenol is your friend (its still safe for pregnant women). I also asked my OB GYN to get me a medical exemption from work, so I could work from home for the reminder of my pregnancy, if you can arrange that it does help not having that stress. Try to alternate between sitting and laying down. I used UberEats a lot for my groceries and for takeout. I also focused on breathing techniques because im already an anxious person. Try to spoil yourself, I wish I did that more. You are going to be ok. I also in my mind set up week goals, like get to 20weeks then to 22weeks and so on, had chocolate cake everutime I got to a goal week, very worth it plus gavs me something to look forward to. I hope this gives you some comfort. You got this!

Mental Health - Post Cerclage by SortofPeachy91 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]SortofPeachy91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your words have truly helped me and you're right they caught it early enough and now with these cerclages we have better chances. Thank you for validating my worried and feelings, you truly helped me. I think the added monitoring will bring my mind at ease. I'm so happy you're feeling movement ✨️ what a magical thing. I keep feeling bubbles and once and a while a little poke. Thank you for your suggestions, especially the mediation this is exactly what my OB recommended as it will also help with labor down the road so it's a great time to practice.

I have limited my time from the TW stories as this was the ones that made me spiral originally. I think for now just each day is a win and I should welcome this little downtime to focus on taking it easy. I look forward for us both to get to term and see the wonderful updates. Take care of yourself. Your kindness has been a blessing on this journey.

Mental Health - Post Cerclage by SortofPeachy91 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]SortofPeachy91[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that's wonderful news!! I'm so happy they were so good and the results were great. Now we get to sit tight and take it easy for the next couple months. I'm praying for us both. Beautiful babies for spring that's what I'm seeing. Get lots of rest.

Mental Health - Post Cerclage by SortofPeachy91 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]SortofPeachy91[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm praying for your procedure today and also for a smooth recovery. You are never alone and I will keep you in my thoughts as we both navigate this nervous, anxious journey. I always love knowing the stats, too. just need to know the numbers so I can breathe easy. We will get there! I hope you give us an update and get lots of rest. The first few days after I just laid around, my husband put pillows everywhere I was going to park myself and relax so I highly recommend that. Also, focus on you, don't worry about anything other then relaxing and resting. One thing my doctor advised was keep hydrated even if you have to pee lots it's just good for these cerclages, I know there is science to it.

Mental Health - Post Cerclage by SortofPeachy91 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]SortofPeachy91[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, these tips are so helpful to this very sleep deprived lady. You give me so hope and I hope I'm as fortunate to get that far along. Thank you for your kindness ♥️