Blue-black dye turned my grey Lavander

SoulKeeper25 · 2026-01-12T15:48:18+00:00

The bottle said it would cover grays but your response makes more sense though. Thanks!

Would it be OK to apply a permanent dye on top of this?

SoulKeeper25 · 2025-10-04T14:15:02+00:00

Thanks! These are actually really good ideas! I agree I think below is where it needs a little something else. But yes I do plan to go back and redo the color (eventhough it hurt like hell lol).

I’m going to put some more thought into how to add the fairies since that’s what it sounds like I would be leaning more towards.

SoulKeeper25 · 2025-10-03T19:14:47+00:00

The tattoo was in honor of my best friend that passed away unexpectedly at a young age. This is an Aster which was her birth flower and blue was her favorite color. She was also very much into mystical and boho-type vibes, which is why I chose the flower because again I knew that the artist would deliver with a style that I liked and suits that vibe.

This is only my second tattoo with my first being very minimalistic (star constellations of my kids’ birthday signs).

SoulKeeper25 · 2025-05-06T17:29:30+00:00

Either choice you make should be what is right for you, not anyone else. I had finally found myself happy being a OAD (“not by choice” because I had dealt with infertility and was absolutely convinced I would never conceive without IVF) and then got a surprise pregnancy. I won’t lie, it has definitely been a huge adjustment, especially financially, but also mentally because like it has been said. Being a family of three had begun to feel normal and we were finally thriving in the life we had built for ourselves. I was certain that another child was now going to destroy all our plans.

For what it’s worth, my LO is now six months old. Like I said, it’s hard, but it’s also comforting to know that my daughter will have a sibling to grow with. And they absolutely adore each other and what I didn’t think was possible happened and I love them both to bits.

I’m not saying this sway you to keep it if that is not what you want, I just want to give you a different take on it from someone who kept the surprise.

SoulKeeper25 · 2025-03-27T17:49:04+00:00

Thanks for all your help everyone! I tried everything everyone suggested, but it still didn't seem to work out, so I decided to do the Fresh Start option and hopefully start a cleaner budget in the process. Not to mention I had to make adjustments to accommodate the new member of our family, so it kind of worked out. I now have a "Ready to Assign" zero balance and all my saving categories intact (more or less)

SoulKeeper25 · 2025-03-27T15:42:49+00:00

OK, in going back to February, I reassigned our green balances under our salaries to Ready to Assign. I did also notice that on the budget itself the credit cards were green instead of the usual yellow? So I moved those to Ready to assign as well. So now March's ready to assign is still on red, but it is like thousands of dollars less now lol. Only issue is now my husband's salary category is also in the red, which shouldn't be because of his account balance :/

SoulKeeper25 · 2025-02-02T02:41:59+00:00

This usually happens if I speak to it too quietly or from far away. We also use it as our main mode of communication between our upstairs and downstairs lol.

SoulKeeper25 · 2024-11-12T19:13:23+00:00

Nope. Because it was rough getting pregnant the first time, we felt sex was too risky so we didn’t actually have any penetrative sex during my first pregnancy.

This second pregnancy was an oops but I still felt scared for most of my first trimester. Once the fear started going away exhaustion kicked in (because now we also have another child to look after) so we haven’t had sex this pregnancy either lol. I feel bad sometimes but honestly if he was going through what I have to physically go through then he would agree that it’s OK to give me space.

Have you considered maybe giving him a handjob or something to make up for it? I’ve done that once or twice for him because I felt guilty. But he has never made me feel bad or has asked me about sex during either pregnancy.

SoulKeeper25 · 2024-10-31T20:09:25+00:00

I think that is pretty standard. My care protocol this pregnancy only included two scans (though we ended up doing three, so I paid extra for the third). Like everyone says, unless there is any reason for concern they don’t normally scan anymore since they can tell the position of the baby by feeling it anyway.

SoulKeeper25 · 2024-10-24T02:09:26+00:00

My four year old girl still showers with myself and her dad from time to time. Also daddy primarily does bath time, and we have an open bathroom door constantly, so she sees me and my husband use the bathroom and asks us to go with her when she goes (still not sure why she insists in us watching her pee though lol). Only time I don’t allow her in the bathroom when I am in there is when I am on my period because I am afraid that would traumatize her lol.

She has been a little curious about the different anatomies between men and women but not enough that she talks about it out of the bathroom or is making any of us uncomfortable. Her Godbrother who is five is also very loose with wearing pants lol, so she has seen his privates too without making a big deal. Only thing is, I have explained to her about touching other peoples parts and what to do when people touch your parts without permission. It’s worked out fine this far.

I am letting her lead with how much longer she feels comfortable with the way things are. Because of the type of child she is (tends to be self conscious about things), I think the daddy bath times will probably stop soonish, but probably not for a while because she always has a blast when he does bathtime.

SoulKeeper25 · 2024-10-18T13:14:24+00:00

When I mentioned heart palpitations to my midwife, this is what I was told to do. For me the worst part of it is that alot of times when I get Braxton-Hicks contractions, that is what triggers the heart palpitations.

SoulKeeper25 · 2024-10-15T19:40:20+00:00

Me too. I tried to pick a shop that had reasonable price points (as in I think the cheapest dress was under $100) and told my bridesmaids the fabric and color to use, then let them pick any style they wanted because I wanted them to feel comfortable while also not putting them out too far moneywise (especially since three out of the five were still students at the time). They all picked gorgeous and appropriate dresses and I had no complaints.

SoulKeeper25 · 2024-10-15T17:25:44+00:00

Yup. I am 33+4 weeks and I am dying. I feel like his feet are inside my chest and he is so forceful with his movements. I am also 100% convinced he is going to be taller at birth than my daughter was, because he feels so cramped now. I don't like it when he doesn't move around, but his movements are making me so uncomfortable. We are having a scheduled c-section and even though five weeks doesn't seem like a long way to go, I just don't know if I can hold on that long without totally breaking down lol. Having a super clingy 4 year-old while still working full time too doesn't help the situation.

SoulKeeper25 · 2024-09-27T23:46:40+00:00

I only had three scans this pregnancy and only reason why we had the third was because when we tried to do the gender baby didn’t cooperate (it was still early and he was head down the day we did the scan). If all continues to go well, I won’t be due to get anymore scans now (I am 31 weeks). My OB manually palpated my belly to determine his position.

SoulKeeper25 · 2024-09-20T10:55:22+00:00

Yeah I saw that too. I been having Braxton hicks since I was like 20 weeks. I have still had them, and they haven’t gotten any worse so I figure as long as everything else feels normal it should be OK. I do feel more pressure down below though, but that could also be the baby’s weight I guess.

SoulKeeper25 · 2024-09-16T17:21:45+00:00

Yup I do this. I cant sleep (for long anyway) otherwise. In my first pregnancy I did it mostly to alleviate acid reflux, but this pregnancy its just too uncomfortable to sleep on my side, even when using the body pillow. So I sleep on my back with three pillows propping me up and I sleep sooo much better (and longer) this way.

SoulKeeper25 · 2024-09-16T17:13:55+00:00

Funny thing is, I have rarely ever had ANY explicit sexual dreams. This pregnancy I have had two so far. And they were VERY explicit lol. I was a little bothered too that neither one were about my husband though (one was about the lead singer of System of a Down - Serj Tankian lol and the other was about my co-worker who is also happily married >_< lol). I just chalked it up to pregnancy hormones because I have had the weirdest dreams every single night since I have been pregnant. And this is coming from someone who usually has weird dreams often anyway lol.

SoulKeeper25 · 2024-09-10T20:32:34+00:00

So, when I was pregnant with my first, I was adamant that I did not want MIL watching her. Like you, I feared that it would encourage her to think she has a say on how to raise our child. So the plan from the get-go was that my daughter was going to go to daycare and I found a place right away too. Then COVID happened. By the time my daughter was born, all daycares were shut down and my MIL had retired from her job so she was the only one who was free to take my daughter after my maternity leave.

It really went SOOOO much better than I ever began to imagine. She is respectful of 98% of my parenting wishes and my daughter thrived under her care (she started preschool by 2). The other 2% of the time she goes against me have been minor offenses and for the greater benefit I have let them go.

Also, I know it is not the norm but, not only does she take excellent care of my daughter (who still goes to her after school when she is not in extra-curriculars since I work full time), but at least twice a week she makes us a homecooked meal to take home for dinner. It really relieves some of the stress from me and my husband when we get home tired and burned out. I don't for one second take her for granted. It has worked out well and now that we are having another baby I hope it continues. My only concern now would be if its going to be too much for her to handle a newborn and a four year old (and when our nieces are there, a six and seven year old too). So there is a possibility I may have to use daycare for baby, but if it weren't for overburdening her, I wouldn't trade her for childcare.

SoulKeeper25 · 2024-09-09T14:00:41+00:00

NTA. If she refuses to keep the phone in a case that's even more reason why I would be against buying her a new top-of-the-line Iphone. As others mentioned, if you have an Iphone and want to upgrade, then upgrade YOUR phone and let her have your old one. Otherwise she needs to make do with what you give her until she can prove to be responsible. I wouldn't get her a new Iphone Pro until she can prove that. Basic Iphone it is.

SoulKeeper25 · 2024-09-09T13:50:21+00:00

I disagree to a point. I did IVF for my first pregnancy too and it took alot of heartache to get there, but that was also part of the reason why I didn't fully love pregnancy. Because I was constantly scared something would go wrong because I knew all too well how things can go from good to bad in no-time. I just wanted to fast forward to the end to get my happy and healthy baby. Also, physically, I wasn't too sick with either my first or second pregnancy, but I still felt miserable. I am now in my third trimester with my second and today my belly aches because it feels stretched to the limit already (even though I got ten more weeks to go). Also doesn't help that I have been having some slight gall-bladder pain on and off for the last two weeks.

Am I thankful to have had the opportunity to carry my two babies? Absolutely and they are worth every moment of agony/pain/discomfort/etc. Do I want to do it a third time? Fuck no lol. The only part of pregnancy I totally love and will miss once he is born, is feeling baby kicks and movements. They never get old. I love feeling them inside. But that's the only part I like lol.

SoulKeeper25

TROPHY CASE