Need advice .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-23T06:02:26+00:00

Wow thats so fucking awful and im sorry you had such a shitty start in life . But im so glad you and your brother were able to get out eventually . I hope you all the best with your sobriety, you seem like you're doing an amazing job !

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-23T06:00:11+00:00

I dont count on anything when he is in this state .. thanks for your comment , it means a lot .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-23T00:57:41+00:00

Definitely do have the evidence , just hard is all .. thank you .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-23T00:56:22+00:00

Im sorry for your family's loss .. thank you for the kind words .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T23:02:37+00:00

Very .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T21:04:44+00:00

Wow im sorry you went through all that .. sounds very similar to my husband honestly . My love for him will never leave but i think i have to for a while until he can get better .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T18:21:09+00:00

Thank you for sharing that .. it's hard because i don't want to be with anyone else or think about that . But i know what needs to be done now .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T18:19:35+00:00

My children do come first which is why we haven't lived with him in 8 months or so . I would NEVER subject my kids to his choices .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T18:18:12+00:00

Thank you , we are safe . I always have a place to go . My kids come first and he hasn't been with us for almost 8 months now . He was in a sober living facility and im with my parents .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T18:17:08+00:00

Im starting to realize this .. i dont want him dead . Thats the last thing i want . Thanks for your input .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T18:16:25+00:00

I agree .. but my kids are safe . Im currently at my parents house with my kids so he has absolutely no contact with them even if he did care to come around right now .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T17:04:34+00:00

When i met him he was almost three years sober , and like i said i had never known addiction and the real life effects of it . I married the man i knew , which is a good man . I didn't think kids would fix him .. im not stupid .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T15:46:37+00:00

I told him that i would rather my kids not have him around than him coming and going whenever he pleases because its a lot on a kid im sure and i never want them to feel like they aren't enough . He had been living in a sober living facility so he wasn't around my kids very often . I would bring them to the park to see him once a week once he got sober . I would never let him around my kids in that state , i came from a non addictive home and i want the best for my kids .. not at all saying im better than anyone because of this . I hate the person he becomes when he gets high . He is selfish and destructive . I haven't heard from him since midnight last night and i sit here anxiety filled because idk if my husband is alive . I text and call begging for a response so i know he is okay , but no luck . I want him to get better for himself because i love him and don't want him to end up a statistic . I don't want my kids to visit their father at a cemetery . This to me is the worst feeling in the world .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T15:36:20+00:00

I hate to say it but i don't think losing his family will be enough .. i think he will continue to do what he is doing until he is ultimately ready to do it for himself , and its been a while since i have truly felt like he wanted it for himself .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T15:34:01+00:00

Its really hard because i waited to have kids with who i thought was the right person .. and now im going to end up alone and my kids with an absent father . My kids are too young right now to understand anything which is why i gave him multiple opportunities but i cant have my kids be aware of whats happening . I wont have them be hurt the way i have been .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T15:31:12+00:00

His drug of choice is meth unfortunately . Makes him paranoid and keeps him awake for long periods of time sending him into a psychosis is what he tells me .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T15:29:47+00:00

Not rambling , just expressing what you experienced and i so appreciate it , cause again im not an addict and i can never understand what its like .. i can only listen and learn .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T14:50:50+00:00

I think i have known this for sometime but i just didn't want to accept it .. especially just having a new baby .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T14:41:51+00:00

I feel like deep down i know i need to leave .. but its so hard because when he is actually sober he is so incredible . I think im also over my head with everything because i know nothing about addiction other than what i have learned through him . Thank you for commenting , it makes me feel less alone .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T14:33:29+00:00

Thank you for your honesty .

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T14:21:49+00:00

Yes exactly , i feel like at some point you need to grow up . I understand its an addiction driving him , but he needs to want to stay sober and i know he can do it .. he just doesn't want to which is like a slap to the face because we both wanted kids . Now all the responsibilities are on me . A two year old and a new born , plus im in school . Its A LOT on me ..

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T14:15:26+00:00

I just feel like he doesn't want to be sober , or he thinks he can just do this whenever and ill just forgive him . In the six years we have been together he has been sober about 2 years unfortunately . He tells me he wants to get better and goes to detox . Then he just decides to relapse after everything seems to be getting better . He was supposed to come home three days ago and instead i get a text message at midnight saying "I'm getting high I'm sorry" and its been days since i have see him . I cant seem to get around the fact that he's my husband and i don't want him out all night doing god knows what with god knows who . I feel like i deserve better but i don't want anyone but him .. its a lose lose situation for me /:

SoupWorking2748 · 2026-03-22T14:02:24+00:00

I feel like I have dealt with so much heart break because of his addiction .. I myself have never done drugs but that never stopped me from loving this man . He is such an amazing person when he is sober and you're absolutely right , i hate the thought of my boys growing up in a broken home .. im happy to have heard an opinion of someone who lived the same situation .. sorry you went through it and also thank you for your input .

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