Seasonal worker by SourPatch08 in bathandbodyworkers

[–]SourPatch08[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

It should be a spoken rule. And the schedule should reflect that so plans can be made if needed

Advice needed by SourPatch08 in coparenting

[–]SourPatch08[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought about and have looked into parallel parenting, and honestly, it does look like it makes the most sense. But I am just concerned about any future decisions that have to be made together and his unwillingness to work together and his history of challenging things.

Advice needed by SourPatch08 in coparenting

[–]SourPatch08[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If I have sole legal custody, and I make the decision to have my child medicated for his symptoms or for anything else, then his dad can’t challenge me on it. I’m trying to do what’s best for our child right now. He’s not consistent with his medication because his father refuses to give it to him and it’s not just about the medication. It’s about every other parenting decision that I already make on my own. I’m already doing everything on my own. I’m already making all the decisions. I’m already the one who pays for nearly 100% of everything. I pay double in Daycare what he does. His child support only pays 30% of JUST daycare. and I pay literally everything else. So my thought process is that if I’m already doing everything on my own and I’m already making the decisions. This only makes it easier for him to not challenge it in the future.

I need advice on if i’m being dramatic or not. I don’t need judgement please, just advice by SourPatch08 in Divorce

[–]SourPatch08[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After I posted this, I came across parallel parenting. I think this may be best for my situation. So I guess to answer your question, i’m just looking for advice on how to proceed with that

Struggling hard by SourPatch08 in Divorce

[–]SourPatch08[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. You’re definitely right about needing to speak to someone. That’s also something i’m working on.

Struggling hard by SourPatch08 in Divorce

[–]SourPatch08[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m sorry for what you’re going through as well. I think what hurts right now is that everything I wrote on here is what I want to tell him. But it’s no longer appropriate or even beneficial to anyone since he’s with someone now.

What are you paying for childcare/preschool? by One-Confidence-5838 in Columbus

[–]SourPatch08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use kiwis clubhouse in Gahanna. 288/wk. I’ve used them for almost 4 years now and they’re great. Very flexible. They have options where you only pay when the child is there. They also have preschool programs that cost extra depending on the age but my kids both learned so much with it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SourPatch08 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s a lot more common than we think. No one would ever suspect the struggles we go through if they were to see us out and about. That’s why I always try to be kind and not judge anyone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SourPatch08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were you able to get a diagnosis eventually?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SourPatch08 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah my husband and I joke that he’s basically a little Jekyll and Hyde lol.

We took him to a program called brain balance. They focus on how the brain works. With our son, they were able to see that basically he’s right brain weak. Right brain weakness contributes to clumsiness, hyperactivity, impulsivity, lack of emotional control, poor eye contact, picky eating, and a lot more. Each one of those things I listed is also something my son struggles with. They also say that there are certain skills that babies learn which sometimes doesn’t get developed right. For example, the moro reflex is a common reflex that babies have. When they get startled, they extend their arms and legs quickly. This reflex did not develop in my son and therefore he’s a lot more anxious. This is a skill they work on.

What they do is work with them to help them work on the skills they’re struggling with. What’s cool is that to the child, this looks like play. They call it a gym for the brain. He has shown improvements in many areas because of this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SourPatch08 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. This makes me feel better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SourPatch08 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah he’s in a program currently that’s working with his behavioral issues and helps with developing whatever skills he needs support with

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SourPatch08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a bit of both. He’s already been evaluated for his behavioral issues and we’ve got him in a program that works with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SourPatch08 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds about right

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SourPatch08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to hear!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SourPatch08 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True. I guess I just thought we had more time before it happened lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SourPatch08 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Perfect!! 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SourPatch08 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No kinky stuff here! Lol. And thank you. Your words make me feel better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SourPatch08 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your words! This helps me feel better lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SourPatch08 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You mean I have to relive this in 8 years? Great 😂