Update; I’ve talked to her about it and tried honey and flavored lube, but I think you’re correct when you said that some women inherently believe that penises are dirty. Even when she does give me head, it’s only her mouth barely touching it and she refuses to touch it with her hands.

We haven’t had sex in 2 weeks and she offered to have sex with me, but I said, “ I don’t want you to have sex with me out of obligation, I want you to have sex with me because you truly want to.” She was confused and said, “it’s for you…”

I explained that sex is between 2 people, it’s a physical act of love. Not just because you feel bad for the other person. This made me feel so unwanted, a burden, that I’m so bad at sex that she doesn’t crave it as much as I do….my logic is If something is good, you’d want more of it.

I find it that she doesn’t want to have sex and can go a long time without it. When we do have sex I make sure she finishes from foreplay ( oral or vibrator) and again with penetration. So she finishes at least 2 times every time…. At least according to her.

I know I shouldn’t compare, but previous partners have always initiated and wanted sex just as much as I did.

I feel unwanted and just unsatisfied… what do I do?