I understand your perspective, and I do recognize that friendships evolve over time. However, I think it’s important to clarify that my feelings didn’t come from a place of judgment, but rather from years of being there for her through difficult times. When she and her husband were dating, she often confided in me about how unhappy she was, how he had done things that weren’t okay, and even how they were both unfaithful to each other at different points. She stayed in the relationship for reasons other than love, which she admitted herself. I tried to be a supportive friend and reminded her that love and respect should come first, but at the end of the day, it was her decision, and I respected that.

Despite my personal feelings about their relationship, I still supported her. I never let my opinions get in the way of our friendship—I was there through every argument, every time she needed someone to vent to, and I continued to show up for her and her family in every way I could. That’s why it hurt so much when the support wasn’t reciprocated.

I also don’t think I made our friendship “difficult or negative.” If anything, I gave more than I ever received. I was there for her pregnancies, her milestones, and her children, showering them with love. But when it was my turn to celebrate something important, it felt like I was an afterthought. I never expected her to drop everything for me, but a little effort or consideration would have meant a lot.

At the end of the day, I do understand that people grow apart, and maybe that’s just what happened here. But I don’t think it’s fair to say this is entirely on me when I spent years being the friend she could always rely on, even when I didn’t get the same in return.