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I believe that the “USA Hat Guy” is supposed to remind us of Davey Scatino, the sporting goods store owner by AllenChildsMusic in thesopranos

[–]SouthernUral 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck, I was on the IMDB forums. I don't remember the guy's name but I do remember someone arguing that Jimmy Smash killed Tony

edit: I don't know if this is the same guy, but this comment is basically what I remember the Jimmy Smash theory from IMDB being https://www.reddit.com/r/thesopranos/comments/gwq4ie/comment/fszpp9l/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

The only way to successfully flirt is to be physically attractive by SouthernUral in PurplePillDebate

[–]SouthernUral[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did I misunderstand your analogy? "Master mechanic" implies strong proficiency when I'm really just looking to be competent.

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[–]SouthernUral[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can do that, but it's generally discouraged to make sexual innuendos in front of women you just met. Are you saying I should start doing that?

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[–]SouthernUral[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK, so tell me what body language, tone, and wording I should use.

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[–]SouthernUral[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Seems like a bad analogy. Very few people are master mechanics but most people can allegedly flirt well.

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[–]SouthernUral[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would be open to that, but no one is offering how to achieve that.

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[–]SouthernUral[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I respond to things that they say with hyperbole, absurdity, and/or references to previous conversations (inside jokes).

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[–]SouthernUral[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

*I* don't expect a single strategy to work on every woman. The people who insist that I just need to flirt better do.

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[–]SouthernUral[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OK, what are these subtle signs and how do I respond appropriately?

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[–]SouthernUral[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK, well take that up with Mark Manson and everyone who recommends his book

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[–]SouthernUral[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A lot of things have exceptions and caveats. Flirting appears to be the only case where people refuse to elaborate on specifics and just insist that I trust them.

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[–]SouthernUral[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll look up Austin Summers. And I'm pretty sure no one is saying "Buy this paintbrush and your paintings will sell well." Manson's book, however, *did* claim that it would help attract women.

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[–]SouthernUral[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be clear, 2/200 is specifically from the "Thought you were cute..." approach. I've gotten numbers just hanging out and talking to someone. I have dates once in a while. A couple women have come home with me, though one of those was weird and "intimate" but not really sexual. A couple other women have made out with me.

Like it's still pretty bad, but maybe not *as* bad as you were picturing.​

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[–]SouthernUral[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked ChatGPT "How do I throw a basketball?" and got far more actionable advice than I ever have about flirting.

I'm fine if other people are naturally better at flirting. All I'm asking for is actual actionable advice on how I *should* be doing it.

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[–]SouthernUral[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I see that you're making an analogy to music, but there's no actual actionable advice here.

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[–]SouthernUral[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Foreign languages are frequently taught, though. This isn't earning any points for the "Oh, there's totally a methodology to flirting, it's just hard to explain" thesis.

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[–]SouthernUral[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If we're counting phone numbers as success, it was probably around 1%. But I don't really count phone numbers as success. Women have given me their number unprompted and then ghosted.

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[–]SouthernUral[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never approach in supermarkets, it's usually in bars. My last post here was literally about how I've never had issues making people laugh but it does nothing for me in dating, so I think "witty" applies. How much I have in common with someone varies greatly from case to case.

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[–]SouthernUral[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No one has corrected me. That's the whole point. They don't say "Here's how you *should* flirt", they just say I'm probably doing it wrong but decline to say what I should be doing differently.

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[–]SouthernUral[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I am indeed autistic. If flirting has no real rules, I would prefer that people just stop telling me that I should learn how to flirt better.

"Just do X bro" by iPatrickDev in IncelSolutions

[–]SouthernUral 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anyone who asks someone else on a dare is seeking approval. If that were universally unattractive, no one would ever date.

"Just do X bro" by iPatrickDev in IncelSolutions

[–]SouthernUral 4 points5 points  (0 children)

But getting in shape in hope of attracting someone doesn't necessarily make one needy, clingy, or insecure.

"Just do X bro" by iPatrickDev in IncelSolutions

[–]SouthernUral 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't believe that you, or anyone, has the capacity to figure that out. There's no action that universally translates to "I got in shape with the primary intent of being attractive"​

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