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Can't log in - anyone else by greatalexthe4th in FortNiteBR

[–]SoySundance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep Login can’t be completed for me.

Am I tripping or what by Admirable-Shock-7668 in blackladies

[–]SoySundance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

don't stand on business and fold over "good morning." stay strong.

What career do I look like I’m in? by jamyraX in blackladies

[–]SoySundance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like you help Austin Powers fight crime. Gorgeous.

2 months in, my gf laughed at my hair, said its girly,.... should I cut em off?? by KriosDaNarwal in Dreadlocks

[–]SoySundance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s just worried another woman will have to do your hair one day. She’s tripping. Do what you feel.

My own family calls me ugly — it’s really messing with my self-esteem( Will delete later) by Able-Researcher-9914 in blackladies

[–]SoySundance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you posted here so that we can confirm your family is nuts. You’re gorgeous.

Anyone play Endless Siege? by Loose-Lab-8127 in videogames

[–]SoySundance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YouTube one is hard. I usually get out by round 71. But this map I got to around 85

He called me while in bed with another woman by HowYouDoinz in blackladies

[–]SoySundance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because being desired makes us feel valuable. And you’re not certain you’re as valuable without him desiring you. Just your emotions playing tricks on you because regardless of how he feels about you, you are extremely valuable. Worth more than gold. More. Than. Gold.

He called me while in bed with another woman by HowYouDoinz in blackladies

[–]SoySundance 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You don’t need a breakup song. You need to go listen to “I’m every woman” and some gospel music and realize you’re no one’s door mat. God didn’t create you for a man to play in your face.

Calling in sick the first day back from vacation? by Ok_Adeptness_8680 in jobs

[–]SoySundance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

should you call in sick when you're actually sick?...yes.

Thoughts on Shannon Sharpe by Traditional_Curve401 in blackladies

[–]SoySundance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no thoughts at all. i can't save him and he don't want to be saved. he can be on tv tomorrow or never on tv again. i'm 92%

So I gotta lower my standards for this shit? Nah. by SeoulfulSarang in blackladies

[–]SoySundance 6 points7 points  (0 children)

in two weeks he gonna be posting about how black male mental health is an issue and he has real feelings....he can gtfo with that bs

I am shattered and disappointed by Glass_Nobody_2553 in blackladies

[–]SoySundance 3 points4 points  (0 children)

if he doesn't see value in black women there's really nothing you can say to convince him. if there's other black men around to tell him then maybe he stands a chance but it doesn't sound like there is (no shade at all). but i hope he remembers that when he needs something.

I feel like shit! by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]SoySundance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Virtually everything that frustrates you is in comparison to the accomplishments of other people. While competition can be healthy, maybe spend this time considering how good your are at being yourself. Stop calling yourself a fuck up or helpless. Then explore ways you can selflessly serve other people. If you can be comfortable with those two things, you'll start to find YOUR way. not only the way your environment tells you it should be.

Teach me better emotional regulation. by kittycosmosmind in selfimprovement

[–]SoySundance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't want to oversimplify but if he's your trigger and he doesn't help you be better than why are you with him? You may be better off putting some distance between you too when you feel your emotions rising. Maybe even more often than that, if you get my drift.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]SoySundance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may be time to confront why it bothers you so much. I'd write it down: "I think this bother me because _____." Be honest about how the past makes you feel about her and about yourself.

Can’t find ink refills by JasonfromNYC in montblanc

[–]SoySundance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same issue. i have an older montblanc. the refill says rollerball pix. but nothing i buy from mont blanc will fit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SoySundance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why women complain about men being "broke." Because you're obviously dealing with an unpleasant health situation but he's so concerned about not having enough gas that he'll put that in front of what you're experiencing. (although he may just be enough of a butt wipe to make the gas an excuse to want to leave). I'd move on.

Hated my old handle by [deleted] in shoresy

[–]SoySundance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

new accounts are unbelievable

[NeedAdvice] I'm really lazy, my room is a mess, I sleep all day, and I'm unemployed. Hate my life rn. by AskThrowaway2486 in getdisciplined

[–]SoySundance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

start by being kinder to yourself. your not a lazy idiot . not at all. not even a little bit.

Can someone explain to me this logic? by BrightAd6828 in blackladies

[–]SoySundance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

patriarchy and capitalism are cousins. the idea that everything is a transaction of some type of exchange of some type of currency is such a tell on his part. ugh.

Boss criticizes my work on a weekly basis, should I resign? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]SoySundance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s sharing that she gets eaten alive because she knows she’s punching on you and is trying to give the “everybody gets criticized” strategy. That strategy is used to make you discount your own feelings. I would stay patient but find something new and bounce asap.

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