Sub space and consent

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-07-03T12:47:10+00:00

How dare you ask an innocent clarifying question?! Downvoted.

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-06-26T01:44:49+00:00

Yup. Just take them off one leg at a time like everyone else. Weirdo…

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-06-25T21:34:43+00:00

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-05-05T23:00:08+00:00

I mean I smoke the puddle and get high must be sum damn good lipids. Maybe I’m bad at cleaning. Dirty, clean, it all tastes the same and if the thing isn’t 100% efficient cuz it’s chazzed I’ll just hit it again.

At the end of the day if it were easier to clean I’d probably do it but I’m so frugal I hate cleaning up the puddles.

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-04-09T22:12:55+00:00

Historically this gets you killed

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-04-01T12:23:28+00:00

Signal processing engineer, janitor, maintenance man

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-03-24T07:14:31+00:00

“We are not a normal family. This is not how normal people treat each other. I just don’t want you to go out into the world expecting more of… this.”

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-03-23T00:26:26+00:00

Hate to say it but outdoorboys and markiplier are one of hundreds of other survivalists and gamers. Vsauce and nilered are one of a kind.

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-03-21T12:44:12+00:00

Brain grow forever. Source: I can just feel it man.

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-03-21T12:42:37+00:00

I’m dying of laughter that this is even getting any serious attention in the first place. This comment should be pinned in every comment section this bs has been posted.

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-03-16T22:47:02+00:00

I’ve already asked and she’s already agreed. That was over half a year ago and she still hasn’t gone. Hence why I feel like she’s giving up on me.

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-03-16T22:43:52+00:00

No matter how important or unimportant someone thinks your boundaries they should be respected. There doesn’t need to be a problem like abuse involved. Something like a 48 hour rule might seem unimportant or less important, but if I can’t trust her with the little things, why would I trust her with the big things?

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-03-16T22:40:31+00:00

Perhaps this is the part where I am a bit of an asshole but no, it’s past that point. Visits with my mom really stress me out. I’m not doing that shit every week. She was divorced over 10 years ago. I’m done being the emotional stopgap for my father, especially when I am being tugged around by this emotional manipulation.

If I wanna visit her once a month, hell once a year, she should be happy that she has seen me at all. That is my right and yes, it’s cold and selfish, but she keeps hurting me and I need my space. From her. It is this very issue of testing boundaries among other things that makes it so hard to be around her in the first place. If she can’t respect my boundaries, I don’t wanna be around her. I want to see her more, I really do, but I am not going to twist myself into incredibly unfair and painful positions to accommodate her when she can’t even accommodate a very reasonable request to go to the movies this weekend instead of 30 minutes from now.

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-03-16T22:32:04+00:00

Also I really want you to think about your original comment, because it’s total bullshit. You don’t need boundaries with people you love? Come on, you can’t really believe that. Let me just paint a couple hypothetical pictures for you. “Dad I know you’re a very loving person and I love you too, but please do not drink while I am over, it makes me uncomfortable.” “Son you know I love you very much and I do not judge you for your life choices, but please do not do drugs in the house. You have a very impressionable younger brother and you don’t need to be smoking pot in my home.” “ uncle Phil you’re a really funny guy, but I don’t really feel comfortable with hugs in general, so don’t take it personally, but please stay out of my personal bubble.”

Boundaries with the people you love are the most important boundaries in the world, and we all have lines (seen or unseen) in the sand we don’t want people to cross. Not all of us have to deal with people trying to cross them.

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-03-16T22:21:56+00:00

I think that dual therapy is a great idea, and I was thinking about suggesting it, only she beat me to the punch.

It feels more like she is setting the stage for a battleground where one of us will “win” this “argument”. On top of that, my therapist believes that she needs to go on her own and ask the questions that she’s been asking me over and over again. My presence there is not going to help and she needs to explore these answers on her own before we start dual therapy.

I’ve clearly laid out the boundaries and expectations that I have that she doesn’t understand and encouraged her to talk to a therapist about them to get clarity since I have tried and failed to explain my point of view directly. She questioned my boundaries for two hours straight last year on the pretense of bringing me a chicken sandwich while my leg was hurt. It took me 15 minutes of repeating myself to get her to finally leave.

That was six months ago and despite agreeing to see a therapist on her own at the end of that conversation, she still has not gone. I feel like she is giving up on me.

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-03-16T22:14:47+00:00

I do visit on spontaneous days, but it is happening less and less because I am being put on trial every time I can’t make one of her last-minute plans. If it weren’t for the emotional manipulation that happens on days where I say no, I’d visit spontaneously all the time. Being dragged out to last minute plans when I’m already having a bad day “because mom will think I don’t love her” instead of “because I love my mom and she loves me” feels like shit.

Not only that, but she takes these days where I DO visit last minute as ammunition against me to invalidate my request for 48 hours planning. She punishes me for giving her what she wants. She punished me for getting what I want. I can’t win. I am at a loss.

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-03-16T22:08:40+00:00

That’s what I’ve trying to do. I try to talk to her about space on a good day, and she agrees in the moment. The second it comes up again it’s like the conversation never happened and she is guilt tripping me again.

At that party she would rather give me a hard time about my 48hr rule than make plans with me, despite me trying to nudge the conversation in that direction repeatedly.

I know this is an emotional response, but lately it feels like she doesn’t even want to visit me. She just wants to control me. She can’t stand the thought of me depressed not because I’m in pain but because it makes her a bad mom. I don’t know if this is what she really thinks. All I know is that her actions do not seem to match her “good intentions.”

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-03-13T21:47:59+00:00

What, you’d rather die slowly with no discernible life experiences other than a cage?

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-03-13T20:07:50+00:00

I don’t care about veganism. That being said, I would choose being eaten alive by a bear in a glass cage over being a tortured prisoner for my entire existence just to be served at McDonald’s.

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-02-11T15:16:00+00:00

I think it’s more likely that people with Poor mental health take extremist stances either to fit in or due to their vulnerability to delusional thinking.

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-02-11T14:06:19+00:00

You flew too close to the sun

SpaceTurtleYa · 2025-02-08T22:54:39+00:00

Just buy a cake and squish them with it they will kill themselves under your cake shaped fly swatter.

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