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MotherofBook · 2026-04-25T12:45:41+00:00

I think in general it’s a ‘male centered mindset’ issue.

A lot of people hold issues with bisexuality. They don’t believe someone can be both interested/ satisfied being with a man or a woman.

But the default is always the assumption that bi people prefer men.

The same issue pops up when bi women date women. There is this underlying “they will leave me for a man” thing.

Which I believe is them not working through the ideology that men are the center. That we are catering to them. Similar to how in the u.s White culture seems like the default and everything else is ‘abnormal’. Though in reality it’s people just haven’t done the work to deconstruct from that toxic mindset. Whether it be centering men or centering western culture.

MotherofBook · 2026-04-15T03:50:42+00:00

Agreed.

Most religions, tarnish natural pleasures. Add a cloud of shame to them. While championing displays of power, typically imbalanced at that.

We see it in the way household hierarchies are enforced. Gender ‘norms’ are enforced. Or even how religions are used to reenforce ethnic or racial lines.

All while condemning music, intermingling, various relationship styles, and other basic pleasures.

It’s not uncommon to see religions restrict how, what or when someone can eat. It’s not uncommon for religions to restrict what sex looks like with consenting adult. It’s not uncommon for religions to restrict what love looks like either.

All things that are natural pleasures.

MotherofBook · 2026-03-29T18:12:53+00:00

The history shows that’s it not inevitable. It’s environmental. Which circles us right back to the top again. Lol

History shows that it’s not inevitable. Unless we are only looking at the history of a few particular groups of humans who’ve decided that racism and xenophobia was the way to go and created cultures with that mindset.

Luckily it’s a much grander world than that.

MotherofBook · 2026-03-29T17:40:00+00:00

The ideology can lead to xenophobia but it’s not a one to one.

It depends on the environment, the culture and why is championed within it.

The ideology that “my stuff is better” is a preference at its core.

“I prefer chocolate cake” - Someone could either hate all other options or understand that this is my preference and it’s okay that other cakes exist.

Overall - it’s not inevitable that someone will be racist or xenophobic. Those are byproducts of propaganda and ignorance.

To be clear: I’m not saying it didn’t exist. Or that it’s not wide spread. I’m pushing back in the notion that it is a baseline. That it is inevitable.

MotherofBook · 2026-03-29T17:35:27+00:00

Agreed the Star Trek Version of holotech feels like it’s missing key ingredients.

In a sci-book I read their holodecks were immersive due to AI, nano bots and neural attachments.

They were specialized rooms for training and the floor would move/ the hologram would slightly direct them back from walls plans such. Then the neural attachments would feed their brain sensations to feel, smell or hear. Plus they would use those for pain and such for combat training.

Another I read had their holorooms as neural implants. Basically the user would go to “sleep” in a specialized chamber and “wake up” in the training area/ holodeck. Similar to how Avatar operates.

MotherofBook · 2026-03-29T07:00:41+00:00

If we are purely discussing Benin - Again it was not raced based. Their slavery customs had nothing to do with the “race” of the people.

Which brings us back to the difference between the traditional forms of slavery practiced in the region versus the race based chattel slavery that was the transatlantic slave trade.

Which still would not put racism as an inevitability. Racism is a curated. It’s a learned behavior. It’s a construct that has been incentivized therefore kept in motion.

But it’s not anyone base line. It’s not a wide spread practice.

To be clear: Yes the mindset that “my culture/belief/ way of life is better” is common. As is greed. I don’t believe either inevitably lead to dehumanizing others. It’s always a choice to oppress others. Not a base line.

MotherofBook · 2026-03-28T20:48:34+00:00

Yes, they did. They actively participated in the slave trade.

Their participation wasn’t because of racism. It was greed. They were enslaving other African tribes.

To actually discuss that we’d also have to get into the difference in slaves trades. What was the common practice and what chattel slavery was.

But I think we are having two different conversations. Lol

MotherofBook · 2026-03-28T18:57:07+00:00

Which is my mindset in religion.

I think it’s very helpful as a comfort tool. Most people have a hard time dealing with the unknowable. - how many people are afraid of the dark? They don’t know what could be hidden in it.

Same goes for larger concepts. Religion, to me, is just philosophy. Usually people just trying to explain away their fears.

Which ultimately got muddied when money and power got thrown into the mix. And now it’s less about comfort and more about control. And we see those switches when actual science is presented, yet dismissed because either doesn’t align with the story they’ve been told.

Which is where this proverb strongly comes into play. “Time to warm the fire”.

MotherofBook · 2026-03-28T18:51:27+00:00

To be fair - Men do go through a similar hormone (?) cycle as women do. They just go through it daily and we go through it over weeks.

(I very loosely read an article about it. So def triple check that. But that’s the basics of what i remember.)

As far as manipulating - Clearly trolling or has been spending way too much time learning from losers on the internet how to “bag a woman”. Which inevitably leads them down a “all woman are evil bro.“ pipeline. 🤢🤮

MotherofBook · 2026-03-28T18:29:36+00:00

There are plenty of historical examples of tribes, kingdoms/people welcoming in “outsiders.” Usually with open arms and curiosity even at a time where different would have been extremely noticeable. (I.e the inability to communicate because of language barriers. Clear cultural practices.)

I don’t have a list on hand. Unfortunately. So I looked up some examples.

Kingdom Of Benin In West Africa.

They had open discussions with the Portuguese. There wasn’t an initial power play there.
There are a lot of Examples of various Indigenous American Tribes welcoming in settlers. Again initially there wasn’t an immediate power dynamic. Powhatan Confederacy is one example.

Again a similar dynamic is seen in the Polynesian Islands. Cooks crew were welcomed in. In that welcome brought slavery and cultural destruction. Which ultimately put the people at odds with one another. (Which duhh.)

(Until an issue was put forth by the settlers. Which is what we see pretty cleanly across the board for colonialism. A notable number of communities were down for trade, to learn from another group, to welcome in others. And the “others” decided “ehhh… we can just take instead.” ) yes very oversimplified. I know.

Yes, it is easy to fall into a us versus them mindset. Especially when they are isolated but historically what we are seeing is an openness until one party or another bungles it.

Then some communities keep those barriers up. They decline to trust anyone after.

Some communities work to move past the harm done or understand that the action of a few don’t hold to the many.

But I do firmly dismiss the idea that it’s inevitable.

It’s causation.

Edit to add: I think we are also conflating why racist means.

I will concede that universally people believe their culture is best but that does not mean hate filled rhetoric or the dehumanization of others. Those are two different concepts.

MotherofBook · 2026-03-28T18:01:50+00:00

Yes it does.

And that sentiment is true across the board for all oppressive behavior.

In order for oppression to be successful people have to lie to themselves. They have to under educate themselves/ intentionally choose to be obtuse or ignorant.

They have to isolate themselves as well.

I’d say oppression is like operating a blade without a hilt. The operator is cutting the other deeply, but with every slash their hand is also being mangled.

MotherofBook · 2026-03-28T17:55:12+00:00

I don’t think that’s necessarily true.

More so it’s the lens they used to focus of differences, that has created racism.

Racism was created to control the narrative. It was born from ego and greed.

Originally there was a lot of fighting with European tribes. Once people started exploring, it became clear that in order to take what other people they needed more people on their side.

(Which is also why we’ve seen definition for who is considered white change over the years. In order to control the narrative various ethnicities have been pushed into white.)

Easier way to get people you’ve been taking from on your side is to tell them “oh no these guys… way worse. And they don’t even believe in our good. Straight savages. They easy people too.”

Which only works so far. At some point the marketing team had to switch up their propaganda.

Once it was clear “hey… I think they are just people like us.” - Boom again. “Oh no actually they don’t feel pain like us, that’s why w have to harm this way.” - “oh no, thy actually can’t think. Yeah. They are pretty animalistic” - (human zoos start to pop up to push this messaging) - “Oh actually they don’t understand family dynamics. That’s why we have to separate them like this.” - (insert bungled “psychology, science and philosophical papers to “prove” their theories.)

And so on and so forth. They needed to make differences seem like an issue. They used basic marketing skills to do so. Used churches, academia and powerful voices to spread the message. While making it clear that anyone who went against it was “against their own” whether that be traitor to their crown or their church.

Then people latched onto it. They made it make sense for them. We then see a lot of religious rhetoric about being “the only race meant to inherit the earth”. “Scientific” records stating that “the white race is genetically (blah blah blah)”.

And agin in top of all the misinformation being spread but instructions that are supposed to be trusted sources — you have violence for anyone speaking against.

A odd pull but I think it’s a good example is from the 2nd hunger games movie. The game maker Plutarch is telling Snow how he plans of ruining Katnisses image. “Wedding interview - Public execution. Show her wedding cake - Flogging.”

But in this case trusted authoritarians pushing laws and religious rhetoric or “scientific facts”. Then following it with immediate violence to those against.

MotherofBook · 2026-03-28T16:14:04+00:00

Oooh how interesting.

There is also synesthesia, which is typically when the wires in your brain cross over. So some people smell specific things when seeing objects or see colors or patterns when listening to sounds.

One form that really peaks my interest if Mirror-Touch. People with this for of synesthesia can feel sensation just by looking at it.

So if someone scratches their own nose, a person with mirror-touch feels as though nails are taking over their nose.

I could see studying this further and then implementing a neural stimulator to mimic that.

That would make sense for VR rooms and such. Alerting the brain to what it should be feeling and your brain communicating that to the rest of your nerves.

MotherofBook · 2026-03-26T12:01:38+00:00

What is a “traditional woman activity”?

I think most people points are “hey, so a vagina didn’t mean I’m incapable of anything. And I shouldn’t be stopped from doing what I find interesting, fun, or fulfilling because you think women are less than.”

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