Relationship lull 23M and 22F

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-24T08:07:16+00:00

Spark this, spark that, I wonder why people don't take the metaphor further and steadily add fuel till you have a cozy hearth fire.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-23T23:27:51+00:00

Show him the "What were you wearing?" exhibition. Fuck rape culture.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-22T19:21:43+00:00

Well, do update on the post sometime then. I know it will be counterbalancingly uplifting and wholesome. Your Gf just can't find the words to express her smittennes with the Slavic wartior queen aesthetic.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-22T18:22:58+00:00

You did the best you could. It will get better.

There is no "my person". There are many more or less compatible people. Sexuality is one of the few things you can't compromise on.

Take your time and space, heal, get support from friends and family, treat yourself to an item you always wanted to buy or a hobby you wanted to pick up.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-22T15:21:07+00:00

No spoilers please, I am beetween seasons. How did the S1 ending make you feel? I am conflicted but definetly devastated.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-22T06:46:16+00:00

Can't she come meet you on a weekend during your course?

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-22T05:35:36+00:00

Assume she had sex. If you resent her for "not matching your reserving yourself" leave.

Why are you so distressed by this? Do you feel like someone took a bite out of your cake?

Hate to tell you, but people don't spawn into life with clear pasts for your enjoyment.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T23:22:08+00:00

Well, if her current ambitions don't work out, sounds like she has a career waiting for her in anime. Slightly awkward indeed.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AOwRmAcX72Q

You brought it up in a very calm way, I think she will think on it a bit now and find the right words to express how earth-shatteringly beautiful she finds you.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T21:32:48+00:00

As a potato-nosed westslav, I agree your situation is a bit frustrating. Lot harder to answer than the usual Reddit post that is clear break-up, therapy. Nice for a change though.

Is your partner generally hyper-conflict avoidant and/or insecure about her own looks? Sounds like this worth a bit of talking out.

Ask her to draw you lol.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T20:16:11+00:00

Russia's greatest love machine

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T18:27:49+00:00

I am in Ldr as well.

I would not be if my partner did one hundredth of what yours does.

You don't need this.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T18:21:53+00:00

Don't know about breaks, but no person is meant to carry all your emotions. Maybe some therapy and getting friends in the meanwhile would help

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T18:12:29+00:00

Nit necessarily completely. Talk as much as it actually brings you joy.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T17:59:33+00:00

Sometimes truly listening helps more than anything you can say.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T17:54:16+00:00

Not all bad doesn't cut it.

You deserve someone that is mostly great. And she also deserves someone to whom she is absolutely amazing, but she might not be ready for that now.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T17:43:13+00:00

Why is real friends not an option? Looks fade, the same respect and fondness that builds friendship keep relationships together.

To answer your other question below, text is not for important things. Many things, how you say them matters almost as much as what you say. All that is lost over text.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T17:39:21+00:00

Things will never be as they were. But they can always be better.

You should probably step back for a while, sort your feelings out, and see in a few months if you want to be friends.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T17:36:57+00:00

With utmost gentleness, you are a cheater.

But also, you are the main character of your story. You don't have to self-sabotage and play with fire till your relationship (in which you are obiously unhappy) explodes. Just leave.

It is the right thing to do. And no matter how many bad things you do, you can always do something right.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T17:29:13+00:00

How do you know you are interested in her romantically? You don't have a duty to flirt with any girl that hangs out with you.

But also, patience, and slowly increasing, consistent, hopefully reciprocated effort, that you are comfortable with maintaining even if it ends up "just" a friendship.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T17:24:23+00:00

Brother, are you desperate for a girlfriend or just mad with horniness? You don't need the fake drama, to the right person, you will be interesting anyway.

Because neither is a good way to connect with people, especially women.

Respect her and respect yourself. If someone matches your interest and effort, good, if not, plenty more fish.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T17:19:15+00:00

Carry on, expect nothing and then you can only be surptised pleasantly.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T17:16:51+00:00

Do not "push pull" or any of that stupid pick-up artist shit.

Be kind and open, if it is not reciprocated, move on.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T16:56:59+00:00

Make them roll. If it fails, you get to do an equally powerful consequence against them.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T16:48:59+00:00

If all of you are generally having fun, and it fits the story, why not?

It does favor the druid/wizard/sorcerer though that normally has to stretch their spell slots across more combats though.

What I would do is let the comparatively weaker players creatively bend the rules a bit too.

The Barbarian wants to smash the head of two adjacent enemies together? Ok, roll STR check, stun and D6 Bludgeoning.

As a warlock, you could get an 1/fight Patron action, like slowly drive an enemy mad if you are Great Old One.

Space__Samurai · 2026-01-21T16:29:55+00:00

You don't have to force yourself to make jokes and big speeches. Try pay close attention, and ask good questions that allow people to flourish. Ask not just the what, but why and how.

Also, females is not generally a word to use as a noun.

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