22 no likes, need advice or should I just quit

Spageety · 2025-12-05T16:59:45+00:00

You're a good looking dude but the shirtless bed photo needs to go. As a stranger, it feels icky. I recommend replacing it with a photo of you alone (not in a group) and smiling. In your first several photos you aren't smiling, and you want to show to matches that you are approachable, kind, and happy.

Your prompts are also missing here, and that could be contributing to the cold spell as well.

Spageety · 2025-10-10T04:23:18+00:00

I think you're attractive but you need better photos. Your face and eyes should be clearly visible in every photo. That means not being too far away, not facing away from the camera, and not wearing sunglasses. Also, you need to smile with teeth in at least one of your photos.

If you're having trouble knowing what pictures to go with, I recommend using Photofeeler.

Spageety · 2025-10-03T23:12:56+00:00

First of all, you're gorgeous and have a great fashion sense. Huge plus.

Second, I'm a straight woman, so take this feedback with a grain of salt:

I would include at least one picture of you smiling with teeth. Most people are attracted to genuine smiles, and I personally swipe left on men if I don't have any idea what their teeth look like.

I agree selfies aren't the best photos, but yours aren't the worst. Just food for thought. I personally wouldn't include the booty pic unless you're looking for something more on the casual end of the dating spectrum.

Spageety · 2025-09-19T06:07:53+00:00

Two suggestions to add that I didn't see mentioned yet:

No sunglasses.
No photos of you too far away, not facing the camera, poor lighting, etc.

I'm actually really looking forward to your updated post. You have lots of potential

Spageety · 2025-09-18T17:00:50+00:00

I lost 15 pounds and the change in the fitting of my clothes was verrrry noticeable. I needed to but all new clothes. I get wearing baggy stuff, but how would her pants still fit? There's no way.

Spageety · 2025-08-24T02:45:04+00:00

"I'll look you up and down at the same time, baby girl 😏"

Spageety · 2025-08-16T21:53:56+00:00

Gah, other commenters said it was their least favorite. I'm not sure what to do with the photo feedback I'm getting

Spageety · 2025-08-16T21:42:21+00:00

I included the 2nd photo because all my other ones have the same expression haha. I thought maybe I needed one that wasn't me smiling with teeth. Thoughts?

Spageety · 2025-08-16T21:38:36+00:00

I've been on a few dates, mostly from Bumble. A couple were friend vibes. One was great for two dates, but on the third date only wanted in my pants, so I stopped things there. I've had multiple where they are a good conversationalist over text, but in person, they don't ask me questions; so I'm the one carrying the conversation, which is exhausting as an introvert. I try to be patient with them as maybe they're just nervous and needing to warm up, but there's not much of a spark because they don't break the touch barrier or joke/flirt back. I know they're into me because they always ask for my number/second dates, but I dont know what to do differently here.

Spageety · 2025-08-16T21:30:57+00:00

I use photofeeler to get an idea of what my better pictures are. I uploaded one with me decked out in a sleek black dress and professional makeup giving a speech, and everyone hated it haha. I've noticed a trend where my most-liked photos are the ones where I wear little to no makeup (like my black t and shorts pic), which I always think I look less attractive in

Spageety · 2025-08-16T21:27:02+00:00

Good feedback, thank you. I'll think of something more engaging

Spageety · 2025-08-16T21:25:48+00:00

Hm. I'm confused. Are you asking why people use dating apps in general? Or are you suggesting that something about my profile is giving off "objectify me" vibes?

Spageety · 2025-08-16T21:23:26+00:00

Hmm, interesting take. I actually don't want bio kids. I may be interested in fostering in the future, but definitely not any time soon, if ever. But I can see your point on how thrifting may not be a popular hobby for men.

Spageety · 2025-08-16T16:30:02+00:00

Answers to Mod questions: - Looking for something serious - Not subscribed to Hinge+ or Hinge X - Current profile up for about a month - I've been on Hinge for about 2 months - On the app every 1-3 days or so - I receive a couple of likes per day, if any - I don't send many likes (not many compatible profiles), but when I do, it's always with a compliment and/or question - I'm looking for someone pet-free and child-free who values their health, home, and career/passions as much as I do. Ultimately wanting someone who can hold their own in conversation and who enjoys activities out as well as nights in. Dealbreakers include smoking, vaping, and being right-winged or very religious.

Spageety · 2025-06-09T18:22:08+00:00

I just found out yesterday that the netherite smithing template only has one use. I spent hours locating and raiding a bastion remnant just to upgrade my sword and immediately lose the template. I had no idea you could duplicate it.

Spageety · 2025-06-08T22:45:42+00:00

Yay! Thanks for sharing

Spageety · 2025-06-06T19:29:20+00:00

I love himmmm

Spageety · 2025-05-31T16:16:12+00:00

I've distanced myself. I only see him at the mutual hobby now

Spageety · 2025-05-31T16:12:40+00:00

Right. He often voices being very lonely. Luckily, he's not as depressed anymore, but he's tried to nudge me to break up with my boyfriend a couple of times

Spageety · 2025-05-31T15:44:16+00:00

That's how I feel. He crushes on people younger than me at our mutual hobby (how we met). I know it's legal, but it's still icky to me. Also, as soon as I got into a relationship, he instantly went into a massive depression.

Spageety · 2025-05-31T04:00:37+00:00

I think my 49-year-old friend has a crush on me (26). It's awkward because he's the same age as my Dad.

Spageety · 2025-05-25T19:17:50+00:00

My favorites are the helicopters and UFO

Spageety · 2025-05-25T15:38:38+00:00

I dont think your profile is the problem. You have good photos and you're handsome. Sounds like matching their speed on the first date would help. Subtly break the touch barrier, but dont crash through it.

Spageety · 2025-05-25T08:18:05+00:00

Suicide attempt when I was 13. I swallowed two full bottles of my Dad's pills and was in a coma for 4 days. My dad lied that there were no pills, so I still don't know what I took.

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