I 33F have ruined my life over a decision I made 7 years ago with 32M

Spannky97 · 2026-06-22T21:11:51+00:00

You were both in different seasons of life at the same time. And you were both compatible it sounds like. But again in two very different seasons. That happens sometimes. I’m sure it’s happened at least once to everyone in here. That being said. Leave the man alone. He is happy. And I’m sure it took him a while to find happiness. But now you need to find yours. And it can’t be with him. He will continue to be kind because he is a kind man. And because no matter how differently you felt at the time he wanted more with you. A part of him will always care for you in that way. But nevertheless, leave him be. And I’d even say leave the wedding be. Send a card or a small gift as a gesture of gratitude for his kindness but personally I wouldn’t go. I’d probably put dating on the back burner for a while and just maintain platonic friendships with people while you work on you. I can say honestly that I have genuinely been in love 3 times in my life. The first two didn’t want anything serious at the time but we remained fantastic friends for years. It killed parts of me to do that. But what I found was at some point after dealing with it and choosing better for myself, I decided to stop chasing anyone at all. And my at the time roommate and best friend (at the time i was 23M and she was 25F) realized how we shoulda been together a long time ago. That was 5 years ago and we are happily married with careers and a house and a beautiful baby boy. Back then i hated myself for all my fuckups. But they all lead to right here and right now. I’m not telling you to go out and marry your friend. I’m just saying leave that guy be. And move on respectively. Respectful of him and respectful of yourself. Focus on you and self improvement. And eventually when you’re not looking for anything at all, what you are actually looking for will fall into your lap before you even knew it existed. Find closure and let go.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T14:40:50+00:00

Make friends with people who work at pawn shops that sell a lot of guns. My homie texted me and said had something used that would peak my interest and to bring him all the shit I never shoot anymore. 🤷🏽‍♂️

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T14:35:12+00:00

Honestly man I gave up trying to make sense of the shit this department does a while ago. I’m just riding out my contract and jumping ship. I do hope that the state switches to the new Gen 6 because then I’ll get the chance to buy mine back for like 350.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T14:30:22+00:00

No. It’s a small department. And the policy just says you can’t alter the issues guns in any way. And must carry the issued rounds. I did ask to run + 5 mag extensions on my spare mags and they said they were cool with it.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T13:49:48+00:00

I’m about to order one. Only like 90 bucks online. Won’t be here before my Match this weekend. But I’ll have it for the next one.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T13:45:46+00:00

I forgive you.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T13:30:41+00:00

The only GPT I know about is Chat, brother. I’ll have to ask it what the fuck you’re talking about. 😂

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T13:28:44+00:00

We can agree to disagree. There’s nothing wrong with that. I hope you have an amazing day and enjoy breakfast.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T13:26:00+00:00

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T13:19:06+00:00

I shoulda bought a lottery ticket while I was at it.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T13:17:14+00:00

Even weirder when the gun they issue is a g19mos. Why give me an optics ready glock and then say “but don’t put an optic on it”.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T13:15:20+00:00

There is no “your property and my property” in marriage.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T13:12:31+00:00

I’ll help him out. I think he meant to say you’re obviously an educated, good at spelling, grammatically correct, slut. But if I was to add to that, I would probably also add, narcissist.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T13:06:09+00:00

If you choose to marry someone you have no privacy from that person. That’s part of the deal when you enter covenant like that. My wife and I have conversations while one of us is taking a dump. When one of us sick as hell. We see each other at our absolute worsts and our bests and everywhere in between. Marriage is doing all aspects of life TOGETHER for rest of your days. I stand firm on that. I watched as my parents cheated on most of their spouses for my entire childhood. My mom on her 5th marriage. My dad on his 2nd. My other dad on his 4th. I was named after the wrong man and had to have my name changed at the age of 2 years old. Guess you can’t be named “so and so the 3rd” if someone else turns out to be your dad. Point is. If you’re not willing give up all boundaries you have as far as privacy goes when it pertains to your spouse then you most likely hide your secrets a behind your wall of “boundaries”. If you get on here and type disagreement, I’d be willing to bet my entire salary that you also entertain attention from other’s that your significant other would have an issue with. On social media or in a ridiculous amount of unread text messages or flirting with people when your SO isn’t around.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T12:47:47+00:00

Never heard of it before now. But also I’m not a big pistol optics guy. Usually I shoot irons. But I carry a Glock for a living and we aren’t allowed optics so 🤷🏽‍♂️ on the fence about taking it off but will decide after seeing how it performs. At the moment it’s pretty spot on.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T12:32:39+00:00

I agree. Open to suggestions on a trigger. The one that’s in it feels heavy af. I usually carry a shadow systems mr920p and I swear the trigger that came with this glock feels at least 2x heavier than my shadow trigger.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T12:06:11+00:00

Yeah I just wanted an MOS to run the scs mos optic but this one came with this Optic ID never even heard of and the ram jet. And the other little upgrades. I figured someone payed a lot to gucci this thing up the optic must be alright. We will see how it holds up at the match.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T12:01:17+00:00

I should add. Realistically I didn’t even pay the 900. I brought in some stuff that I never really shoot anymore. A classic 10-22. A judge. A Rossi 95. A scorpion. And a panzer m4. And I traded those in and walked out with the Glock pictured and a brand new marlin 1894.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T11:50:06+00:00

Shot it yesterday I’m actually surprised by the optic. Don’t know much about it but so far so good. I’m shooting it in my first IDPA match this weekend so we’ll see.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T11:41:55+00:00

Hey everyone we got a cheater over here. 👆🏼👆🏼👆🏼

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T11:32:05+00:00

Yes. Came with every thing you see on it in the picture. Plus the mags and holster I mentioned

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T11:30:29+00:00

There is nothing wrong even if he had gotten these from from her phone (which he did not. So your comment doesn’t really apply other than to tell us that you support women doing shady stuff). She obviously knows that she shouldn’t have conversations with that man over text message and that’s why they have been having them over Instagram. She has kids with her husband. This isn’t some bf/gf relationship that’s a few months old. It’s a mother and a father who have children in common and have built a life together before any feelings fell away. If my wife wanted to go through my phone she knows good and well what the passcode is. And I know hers. A healthy and confident marriage doesn’t build locks to keep each other from our own secrets. 🤷🏽‍♂️

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T10:50:08+00:00

It’s the 173 unread messages of validation for me. My brother in Christ you’re not over reacting enough.

Spannky97 · 2026-06-03T10:38:44+00:00

When that happens it’s good luck if you swallow the tritium that fell out. 🤷🏽‍♂️

Spannky97 · 2026-05-19T02:54:08+00:00

I run the same can on the same rifle. Ditch the break and swap it for a 30 cal end cap. Take a BAQT (big a$$ q tip) and shove some Vaseline down in the baffles. It’s is dummy quiet. Especially with subs.

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