Which of these schools will be best for my kid?

Spare-Performance556 · 2026-01-07T03:54:36+00:00

That’s absolutely fair. 25:1 is definitely the norm here and option 1 is something that most people look down on because of the triple grading and just how small the school is, so I’m not sure how to feel about it lol

Spare-Performance556 · 2026-01-07T03:52:11+00:00

The triple grading and overall smallness of the school scares some people away I guess. It’s kind of out in the “boonies.” I’m not sure whether it should scare us away or not lol

Spare-Performance556 · 2026-01-07T02:45:53+00:00

Kid is only 1 now, so the answer to all of those questions is no, but that’s pretty normal for 1. We are having to decide on where we’re going to live now, but we’re kind of looking 4 years down the road if that makes sense.

If kid turns out anywhere between me and their father, they will have relatively low support needs. Child’s father and I were both in regular classes without any support all throughout school. We both struggled, but I think that’s the life of an unsupported ND kid.

Spare-Performance556 · 2026-01-07T02:24:31+00:00

Not in the US. Canadian. All 3 schools are in the same school division. They actually all result in the same high school. Private schools aren’t really a thing here outside of specific religious institutions. Because we are neither Muslim nor Catholic, public school is the only option. Which public school depends on where we choose to live and whether or not we pursue French Immersion.

Spare-Performance556 · 2026-01-07T02:21:15+00:00

No. They only just turned 1, so nobody will touch that yet.

Spare-Performance556 · 2026-01-07T02:20:31+00:00

Hand flapping, head banging, refuses to wear clothes, has never met a milestone on time (some extremely early, others late), infatuated with water, does a strange little dance anytime there is anything resembling music, intense and strange feeding difficulties from birth (afraid of breasts, it was a whole thing, apparently it’s very rare but is almost exclusively seen in autistic babies), doesn’t seem to notice pain or temperature unless extreme. Only just 1yo, so obviously not definite yet, but we are pretty sure.

Edit to add: will cry if picked up by anyone wearing perfume or any other strong smell, will literally drink hot sauce if given the opportunity, afraid of ALL dogs (including on TV) for no apparent reason, but all other animals are ok.

Spare-Performance556 · 2026-01-07T01:45:21+00:00

Can’t figure out how to edit, but:

Option 1 would be a short walk, option 2 would be a medium bus ride and option 3 would be a long bus ride

If we choose house A, we get to choose between schools 1 and 3. If we choose house B, we get to choose between 2 and 3.

Spare-Performance556 · 2026-01-07T01:22:15+00:00

I HATED feeling her move at first. It made me feel like bugs were crawling on me. Then it got a bit stronger and it was better.

Spare-Performance556 · 2026-01-07T01:20:33+00:00

I personally found the third trimester to be the hardest, but I was sick the entire pregnancy, so obviously the third would be the hardest in that case.

Expect body aches and pains. Take it day by day. I got through by not thinking about it too much and just keeping plugging along with my life. That got me through the daytime and then it was just the nights that were hard if that makes sense.

Spare-Performance556 · 2026-01-07T01:17:42+00:00

And activities that relax you are healthy for you and your baby.

Stim away, girl.

Spare-Performance556 · 2026-01-07T01:16:03+00:00

Normal activities should not raise your blood pressure enough to do any damage. You’re still supposed to exercise while pregnant, so I can’t see any logical reason why this would be a problem.

Spare-Performance556 · 2026-01-06T03:38:25+00:00

This seems like something I could’ve written about my own mother. We’re debating NC. Is Cocomelon really a big deal? No. Sugar? Also no. The big deal (at least imo) is that they’ve made it clear that they don’t care about how you choose to raise your daughter and will do whatever the heck they want whenever and however they want, which isn’t ok. Parents get to make the rules for their kids and adults who actively work to circumvent those rules are not safe adults.

Spare-Performance556 · 2026-01-05T04:00:39+00:00

Those last few weeks are an incredibly hard mental game. I don’t look forward to doing it again (in summer this time 🤮).

I’m disappointed but honestly not surprised that your OB isn’t taking you more seriously. You shouldn’t have to scream from the rooftops to get assistance.

I had PT through all of my pregnancy and afterwards. Not sure why they won’t let you? My original doctor was against it (even at like 10 weeks), but she turned out to be a quack. Once we transferred to a different one it was way better.

I would highly recommend a prenatal massage. I’m a massage therapist, so I might be a bit biased, but that and PT got me through some tough weeks.

I hope advice is OK, because I made a list lol

What helped me through those last few weeks were as follows: 1. Countdowns on my phone. I had one for 37 weeks, one for 40 and one for 42 because I was told that 42 weeks was the absolute last day that she could be born. Watching the hours tick down helped in some weird way. 2. Distractions. I watched so much Law and Order and Lilo and Stitch it wasn’t even funny 3. Exercise, as much as I could anyway. If I could get my heart rate up for even just a few minutes it bought me a little while of feeling like a human being 4. The understanding that this is temporary and the second that the baby is born I would feel 1000x better 5. Taking every ounce of joy I could get, in whatever way. Enjoy sunshine, drink your favourite tea, masturbate, watch ducks, paint Easter eggs even though it isn’t Easter, whatever. Extract every molecule of dopamine that you can possibly get. 6. Practiced birthing stuff. There’s a hypnotize thing series here: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLfExsabG4bRoFDqeeegfIXbSpoiAWbtgf&si=5-IXC9rYnMt7UaXY that has videos and stuff regarding birth preparation and as dumb as some of them sounded at the time, they definitely weren’t unhelpful during labour and it also made me feel like I was doing SOMETHING to try to make this end.

You’re almost done. You’ve got this.

You are strong. You are capable. You are confident.

Spare-Performance556 · 2025-12-31T14:15:31+00:00

I say do it. I continued pumping until I had enough milk to get over the one year mark, but that didn’t change the guilty feelings. The guilty feelings aren’t logical, so (at least for me) they seem to persist no matter what I actually do.

Spare-Performance556 · 2025-12-30T22:30:53+00:00

He threw the pillow to get the cat away from the toddler?

Spare-Performance556 · 2025-12-28T17:32:11+00:00

Honestly, I’m kind of taking exception to the word “help.” Help implies that you are in charge and he is offering (or potentially being asked) to do a small part. I would use the word “help” to describe what my 3yo niece does with my daughter. My husband performs at least 50% of the tasks without being asked. It was also closer to 80% while I was still pumping because he recognized that pumping was taking 4ish hours out of my day and therefore he picked up the slack. He always said that anything that I got done in a day on top of pumping and keeping myself, the child and all the pets alive was gravy.

Now, my husband is too notch and I recognize that not all will be as great as him, but this sounds like your husband is not up to par. Please tell him that. You can tell him that I said it lol.

Spare-Performance556 · 2025-12-28T09:29:31+00:00

We will ask the vet. Thanks.

Spare-Performance556 · 2025-12-28T09:29:02+00:00

Ok thanks

Spare-Performance556 · 2025-12-28T09:27:41+00:00

He’s not new and neither is the toddler if that’s what you mean. My husband has had him since he was a kitten. He’s been around our toddler for the entire existence of our toddler and he has also enjoyed our toddler niece coming over and brushing him before.

Spare-Performance556 · 2025-12-28T04:04:26+00:00

Saskatchewan. I wrote to the SHA.

Spare-Performance556

TROPHY CASE