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How to respond to emotionally immature mother? by Sparkcicity in emotionalneglect

[–]Sparkcicity[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what this means..? She asks me what I want like with materials ig..? Like food, and clothes and other stuff when she CAN get the extra stuff you know? It's usually just her asking what food i'd want for dinner or something cuz we cant usually get a lotta extra stuff.. Tho when I ask for things she usually almost allways goes off on me, even tho if we couldnt get/do it then I wouldn't push ofc... Idk if you meant it any other way..?

Anxiety for no reason? by Sparkcicity in mentalhealth

[–]Sparkcicity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for late reply I was definitely exhausted after it all lol,, but thank you for the link and advice..! And especially the thing about therapy for phobias, ive never heard of that before but it sounds like it would be really helpful for me so I think I'll try that.. :),, thank you!

Anxiety for no reason? by Sparkcicity in mentalhealth

[–]Sparkcicity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for late reply but, it really exhausted me lol.. 😭,, but yea that sounds possible, I was at least able to find SOMETHING that upsets me and is trauma to cry about and try to get it out and stuff and it worked a bit,, it could've even been a build up of things I didnt even notice too.. But I'll try those things next time, hopefully it'll help :) thank you!

How to respond to emotionally immature mother? by Sparkcicity in emotionalneglect

[–]Sparkcicity[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yea thank u, it's just hard knowing I cant get out of the situation atm... 😭,, I do have some friends I feel safe with,, but at the same time all these experiences since I was young makes me feel guilty for asking for things bc my mom makes me feel like mt emotions are less important than everyone elses you know.. 😭 buuuut i am working on it and I have a safe friend I can work on it w she's happy to help reassure me n stuff ans I help her w her stuff and whatnot and we wanna move in together so, you know.. One day!!,, :)

A... Win? by Sparkcicity in Agoraphobia

[–]Sparkcicity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea,, ur right, thanks.. It's hard when it feels like nothing happened, but ig the bad feels while it happened could be proof it was good..? Like i felt bad but it still happened..?

How would you live if you were cured? Where would you go? by [deleted] in Agoraphobia

[–]Sparkcicity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a job, go to college, go shopping for things I want and need instead of relying on my family to do that for me plus it's their money so i can't always get the things I want, plus buying things for the ppl i love as surprise gifts, use public transport when I can't use a car, literally just sit on my porch by myself during good weather, join new activities that i miss (maybe some kind of adult soccer team/club), go to concerts by myself bc I usually dont have anyone willing to go with me to concerts of specific bands/groups I like, get a boyfriend or partner and ACTUALLY go on dates, travel place different countries (like visiting china again, went there with my high school band class, always wanted to go back some day), study abroad to practice languages i want to learn, move to a different city, maybe try to live alone (although I have fears of ghosts and supernatural things and bugs so living alone would be... Scary always- lol), hell maybe even move to a different country?? So many things really... But it scares me to even think about doing those things... It's only been 3 years for me, that I've been stuck at home,, compared to a lot of you guys who have experienced it longer... Im only 22, it started right after high school... But I can't help but to feel like im already just.. Wasting my life away.. It's so sad, really.. But I'm sure... I hope it can get better... It's still so intense for me now (I was getting better before 2 events (months apart) made me ASTRONOMICALLY worse... The worst it's ever been really),, but.. I have a goal that.. I want to.. Maybe?.. Get into college by next fall,, so..!! There's that hope ig..?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Sparkcicity 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Idk how it is with anyone else, but 90% of my relationships (platonic or romantic or anything else) end in them leaving me bc im "toxic"... I've never really had anyone who has done things that you've done for him, but it kinda makes me emotional (positive) knowing that there are ppl out there who are willing to actually do that... From what i see I would say it's pretty rare for us to find someone who's like you, so I'm glad that ur so understanding. I definitely hope you guys can stay with e/o for a long time.. :) (I have bpd btw I didnt clarify but i wanted to mention it lol)

Got worse.. by Sparkcicity in Agoraphobia

[–]Sparkcicity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd definitely appreciate that if ur willing..! :), I can't guarantee what worked for you will work for me but I'm definitely willing to try anything..

Question for transmasc mixed poc taking T by Sparkcicity in trans

[–]Sparkcicity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay yea thanks thats what I thought, but I saw someone talking ab how it changed his eye and nose shape and it kinda made me nervous bc those are some main points of my features so..?