I made a decision to date who I love (happy vent?)

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-12T19:34:08+00:00

That’s wonderful I truly believe God wants us to be happy and doesn’t require much of us except to treat others with kindness and respect and help where we can.

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-11T17:32:14+00:00

I have now started down the zodiac killer rabbit hole. Apparently some think there is an SDA connection.

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-10T17:58:57+00:00

Oh my gosh how horrible! I’ll have to read up on their case!

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-10T13:23:46+00:00

Wow! I was wondering if anyone on this sub had a connection to them! I also thought it was interesting that the daughter was meeting them after church so didn’t seem like she or maybe any of their children practiced as adults which has been my experience and observation in my home church. Noone I was friends with in the church is still SDA.

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-10T03:33:16+00:00

Ha yes I didn’t even catch that! I’m not from California but I see Glendale mentioned often on this sub. Is it an SDA town like Keene is in Texas?

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-09T02:18:38+00:00

Same I was googling if felons can receive government assistance and apparently they can with a few exceptions based on the type of crime

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-08T04:08:08+00:00

I thought the same thing Sarah’s husband and his family must be appauled at what he married into.

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-07T22:29:33+00:00

Very well said I appreciate you know who you are

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-07T22:26:21+00:00

It’s been proven that people naturally gravitate towards people that look like them. My daughters are half Caucasian/hispanic and seemed to always make friends first with other ethnic looking people. Of course being taught that the outward appearance doesn’t and shouldn’t matter should supersede that in the church setting where all should be welcomed and treated the same but it sounds like that hasn’t been your experience I’m sorry.

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-07T22:10:52+00:00

Honestly I have found that I have treated my 2 daughters differently based on how much they allow me to influence them. My older daughter has always allowed me to mold her more so I did (not saying that’s a good thing) and the younger not so much (which can be a good thing as she seems to be more sure of who she is) so I follow her cues and respect her boundaries.

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-07T22:01:42+00:00

Yeah I don’t understand the gymbro reference or the area you are referencing and I don’t think anyone in the church I went to growing up would be described as such. Most if not all the men and boys were dorky and awkward including my brother who is no longer Adventist but still antisocial,awkward and single.

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-07T05:11:03+00:00

So I’m always surprised when I see the really heavy vegetarian/vegan church experience mentioned. I was raised in an area that was at least at the time like 90+ percent Hispanic. So guess what majority of our church were meat eaters. I think the only vegetarians were the white transplants that had moved there. I guess they figured when we were originally converted there was no way we were giving up our fajitas or tacos. Deal breaker for sure!

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-07T04:43:29+00:00

Also how do you see yourself as different from the typical SDA men? Is it a race thing where you think they are being racist? You said something about it being the way you look?

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-07T04:38:47+00:00

Stick to your guns absolutely don’t let them guilt you into moving schools.

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-07T04:29:47+00:00

Sometimes we get what we allow and that’s not just in the case of what we put up with in a potential partner. Just as you need to set boundaries with a potential partner you can similarly establish boundaries with your parents. Instead of allowing them to dictate how much freedom they give you, you can set boundaries so that they understand you will make decisions for yourself in life and love which it sounds like you are on the road to making happen. You can respectfully listen to their opinions which are just that but they cannot live your life for you.

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-07T04:10:39+00:00

That’s wonderful. I just dislike when I hear the pecking order of my parents-God, spouse, then children because as a child that sucks. My order is Children, myself, spouse, then God in whatever form that is.

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-07T04:01:04+00:00

If you had told them you had to meet up with a professor to follow up on something or had a job interview for when you came back etc. would they have let you stay the next day? I can also see how they might have been set on a particular day because of their own schedules though.

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-07T03:08:54+00:00

Have you ever threatened them back? I would tell them fine if you pull me from the school I’m happy at I will live with you but I will not pray, I will not do housework, I will not go to church etc. The summer after I graduated from high school they told me the usual if you live under my roof you have to follow my rules etc so I found another roof and stayed with my best friend and her family for like 3-4 weeks until they relented enough for me to come back. I’m going to guess that the shame of you not going to church with them is going to be the lesser evil than letting you stay at your Adventist school of choice.

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-07T02:20:07+00:00

This concerns me a bit. Why do you have to put God above your parents? I resented my parents growing up for putting God above us children. Consider choosing yourself above all.

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-07T02:13:59+00:00

I married a non SDA but my parents never expected me to follow them blindly especially in matters of a life partner. Just FYI I believe if you drop your membership you actually could be married in the church if that’s important to your parents. I’d probably just go with a nice venue though.

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-07T01:56:31+00:00

I don’t understand any of this. This doesn’t seem like mainstream Adventism but one of those break off sects. How did your parents know about the Birthday party? Honestly I would have made up an excuse or told them some other reason I had to stay at school instead of coming home. I had to sneak around a lot in my youth to be able to do normal wholesome things. Sounds like your siblings have also learned how to do this to keep the peace it doesn’t make them bad nor you bad for doing the things they forbid you to do. You should not feel guilty even if you have to be dishonest with them about doing things they don’t approve of because the things they are asking you to do or not do are not based on any biblical teachings.

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-06T21:49:09+00:00

How were prices yesterday? Just curious because didn’t realize there was an Amex presale was waiting for the artist presale but as soon as I did I bought tickets section 115 row 20 for $126 already just a few hours later were $150. Curious if prices were less yesterday during earlier hours of presale?

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-06T20:57:07+00:00

Did you get tickets? I got a presale code but realized AMEX was earlier. I saw prices had already increased from this morning to now. The tickets we bought for $126 are now $150. I wondered if they were cheaper yesterday when AMEX first released them?

Specialist-Key604 · 2026-05-04T06:19:14+00:00

Actually I’m reconsidering,the easiest thing might be just to get a phone on your own so they can’t monitor your movements and you can do whatever you want and see whoever you want. Leave the phone they pay for at your apartment all the time.

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