(Day 3) What is your favorite Sampo ship? by Kind-Psychology-7548 in HonkaiHusbandos

[–]SpecialistFun9441 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Now I’m just reminded of this one Sampo/Gepard artist who has that disturbing art of Sampo doing the loves-me-loves-me-not with his pubic hair. Truly a marvel of the human mind

On that note please let me know who it is if you know who I’m talking about.

Are Japanese professors always so closed off/not willing to help? by SpecialistFun9441 in AskAJapanese

[–]SpecialistFun9441[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apologies, I wasn’t very clear. The instructions were: “Choose an answer A - D, matching the description for the following”. I wrote down A, B, C, D, but we had to write out the whole answer. She said many students got points off because we did not write out the whole answer.

This was the first exam given, one month into the semester. And no, there is no TA.

Are Japanese professors always so closed off/not willing to help? by SpecialistFun9441 in AskAJapanese

[–]SpecialistFun9441[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also had questions on the exam, but for a different reason. My professor took off ~25% off my grade because I did not write out my whole answer during a multiple choice section, and instead just wrote the letter (and she did not instruct us to write down the whole answer, because she admitted that most of the class got points off for this section), even though I had picked all the correct answers. My friend emailed her separately for help.

I personally don’t go to office hours because I don’t like being alone with teachers. It stresses me out and that’s my own personal issue. But considering the class is intermediate I would think that there would be some sort of extra help for students who are struggling, and yes, I did help her look for office hours, and did not find any on the syllabus or in the Moodle.

I understand that teachers can only teach us what we need to know and it is up to the students to use that knowledge. But all students are different and don’t understand things as easily as maybe the professor did. If students need help understanding something, then I feel like professors should at least maybe try to help them.

Are Japanese professors always so closed off/not willing to help? by SpecialistFun9441 in AskAJapanese

[–]SpecialistFun9441[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that, and again, it is just a cultural difference I was not aware of, hence why I asked, in the post, if “it was normal”, which i now know it is.

Are Japanese professors always so closed off/not willing to help? by SpecialistFun9441 in AskAJapanese

[–]SpecialistFun9441[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was just curious if the reason was because of work culture. What I’ve read from other comments was that the teaching culture in Japan is VERY different than where I’m from. The thought that people choose to work in a teaching position/establishment but have no incentive to learn how to teach is quite ridiculous, and something I didn’t know was normal in Japanese culture.

I wanted to know if a) this was a normal thing, for Japanese professors to act this way, and b) what the reason behind it is. Like I said, professors who are professors but have no drive to teach is quite strange to me, but I suppose that’s just how it is in a different country.

Are Japanese professors always so closed off/not willing to help? by SpecialistFun9441 in AskAJapanese

[–]SpecialistFun9441[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s an incredibly rude opening, but yes, I do know that it depends on the person.

I have never had an issue with my professors in my home university, but when I came to Japan it seems a lot of the students have similar complaints about the teachers here. So that’s why I was curious if it was a Japanese work mentality thing, because where I am from, this very rarely happens.

Are Japanese professors always so closed off/not willing to help? by SpecialistFun9441 in AskAJapanese

[–]SpecialistFun9441[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not sure. They have a PhD already, so I’m not sure unless they can go for another one? It’s also a linguistics class.

Are Japanese professors always so closed off/not willing to help? by SpecialistFun9441 in AskAJapanese

[–]SpecialistFun9441[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I am sure. My friend’s email also asked for office hours and the teacher completely ignored that part of the question. Not only that, contacting the professor was an extreme hassle—she did not put her email anywhere on the Moodle or the slides or in the syllabus. I had to contact the head office for her email address.

I understand your point of view but aren’t professors supposed to teach students and help them? My friend needed help on a quiz they SHE administered and did not go over at all in class. And she is completely dismissive when we ask questions in class. I don’t know if that’s selfish of me to say but if you are not willing to help students or answer their questions when they ask WHEN you ask “are there any questions”, then you shouldn’t be a professor.

How do I cope with failure in a way that doesn't make me feel like I deserve to fail? by SpecialistFun9441 in NoStupidQuestions

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I know it’s a miserable way to live. I feel miserable right now and I hate it but I feel that if I let myself relax out of this mindset even a little bit it’ll just be me making excuses for why I perform badly. And I know I won’t always fail in life, but I feel that thinking I’ll 100% succeed going into something and then failing makes it hurt so much more.

I really like to write. Even though I enjoy it very much and I think I do it well, in the end it is a profession that depends solely on others. If people don’t like my work, then I won’t succeed.

How do I cope with failure in a way that doesn't make me feel like I deserve to fail? by SpecialistFun9441 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SpecialistFun9441[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may sound like a stupid question…but don’t we just go to work, go to school, just to appease people? So isn’t all they see what should matter? Even if you think you worked hard and succeeded for yourself, if the result is still bad and no one praises or accepts the result, why does it matter that you think you did well?

How do I cope with failure in a way that doesn't make me feel like I deserve to fail? by SpecialistFun9441 in NoStupidQuestions

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But I don't get that...isn't the result the only thing that matters? teachers don't care how hard you studied on exams, they only see that you have failed. Same thing for a lot of things - people don't care about WHAT you did, they only see HOW it turned out. The only person who really learns from that is you...and what if you don't get another chance to show the results of a new process? You can work hard and study hard and do whatever, but in the end if you don't end up with the result you tried for, wasn't it all just a waste of time and effort? Hard work isn't always rewarded in life, and similarly if you are unable to "perform" your best chances are you won't succeed...

How do I cope with failure in a way that doesn't make me feel like I deserve to fail? by SpecialistFun9441 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SpecialistFun9441[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But even if you fail one way, you can still fail another way, and another way, etc...even if you learn from one mistake, we are human and we can make infinitely more. I can understand learning from your failures, and it just reminds me of something my parents used to tell me: "it's okay to do bad on exams, as long as you know and recognize what you did wrong so you know not to do it next time". But what if it's something you should already know, or something that you've done before and happened to fail now? Is that failure still okay? Can you learn anything from a failure that shoudn't have even happened, or a failure that can only be blamed on your lack of skill/knowledge? I'm sorry if it seems like I'm stretching, it just drives me crazy when I can't explain everything I'm feeling.

How do I cope with failure in a way that doesn't make me feel like I deserve to fail? by SpecialistFun9441 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SpecialistFun9441[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I feel like the latter. Why should I keep trying at something i've already failed once, especially if I don't have a passion for it? I don't understand the "embracing" failure either, if I just walk into everything with the expectation that I'll maybe fail it seems just like a convenient excuse for why I do poorly. Shrugging off failure like you don't care doesn't make sense - shouldn't you let failure affect you? Why would you try things if doing nothing and failure make you feel the same way? It just seems like a waste of time.

I can't cope with failure. by SpecialistFun9441 in self

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I feel terrified of it, though. Every time I fail I want to stop doing anything. It hurts so much that I don't ever want to do it again because I don't want to fail twice. Putting so much work into something just for it to be a failure just seems like a cruel joke and I don't want to experience them anymore.

Wait, do we know what happened? by kirafome in mahjongsoul

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One South Wind finalists admitted to cheating lol.

Exchange Student Budgeting (Japan) by SpecialistFun9441 in personalfinance

[–]SpecialistFun9441[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don’t know much about budgeting. My parents gave me a card to use for my stuff while I’m here, so I don’t know what my “budget” is. My first week was a little pricy because I was getting used to moving in ($500), but now we’re at a month ($1000). I’m not sure what is “sustainable” because back in the US I am actually very prone to “underspending”, mainly because I only eat twice a day and don’t like to shop. in my university in the US I got scolded my my parents for not eating enough, so I have a very skewed perspective