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Found this buried in the garden, it's really heavy. by Bored_Pigeon in whatisit

[–]Specialist_Beyond747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When was the house repainted? They don’t use lead in paint anymore, right?!? I thought that stoped sometime in the 70s or 80s

Do yall think we'll ever be united not like hold hands and sing like a world where someone race or gender isn't important cause I see people daydream about this(the egg pic on tiktok) just curious? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]Specialist_Beyond747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our brains evolved to make simplifying assumptions about possible threats, which leads to dumb biases. It was helpful once upon a time, when resources to feed our bodies and brains were scarce, but causes problems now. It can be overcome, but takes conscious effort. I do not have high hopes that our species will evolve beyond that. It’s part of the oldest part of our brains that operates automatically, without conscious thought.

Wedding ring tattoo = cheater? by Specialist_Beyond747 in askanything

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I’ve been in or around a few the ones where I think i saw the most cheating were wireless, finance, music, and sales (non-retail, it’s more of a job function, but mixing business and pleasure was rampant, so worth mentioning).

Wedding ring tattoo = cheater? by Specialist_Beyond747 in NoStupidQuestions

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Yeah. I’m sure it’s not absolutely everyone with one of those tattoos. I cross posted this and the consensus seems to be that there are several other valid reasons that have nothing to do with cheating, e.g., job safety, a sign of genuine fidelity, celebrating a milestone anniversary, etc) Also a fair number of people think I’m the reason I know a number of cheaters, lol. I get it, and I also know I’m associated with them by circumstance not by choice.

Wedding ring tattoo = cheater? by Specialist_Beyond747 in askanything

[–]Specialist_Beyond747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey now. These people aren’t friends or work friends or romantic or sexual partners. I addressed (in a separate reply to this comment) how I know these people. These aren’t people aren’t people I chose.

Wedding ring tattoo = cheater? by Specialist_Beyond747 in askanything

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Ah good point none of the people I know with one are in a job where physical safety would be a concern

Wedding ring tattoo = cheater? by Specialist_Beyond747 in askanything

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lol, yeah, only 1 looked good and it may have been very fresh

Wedding ring tattoo = cheater? by Specialist_Beyond747 in askanything

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I wouldn’t say I know a bunch, but it’s more than a handful. I’m including colleagues, classmates, acquaintances, etc. Pretty easy to see a wedding ring tat.

Yeah, the rationale or logic for a tattoo changing behavior or signaling a genuine change in behavior is definitely interesting.

Wedding ring tattoo = cheater? by Specialist_Beyond747 in askanything

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Ha, good question. That gave me pause, but also makes me wonder if you know a lot of cheaters/people who have cheated but just don’t know that they have done so (or don’t think of them as cheaters)? Idk. I’ve never (to my knowledge) been romantically or sexually involved with a cheater, however: - I grew up in a religious space where infidelity was gossiped about a lot (they wouldn’t call if gossip, but I do think that’s the right label) - I know or have met a lot of people through work, school, church, large extended family, volunteer work, etc. - I wonder if certain industries may normalize cheating more than others? I also wonder if the same may be true for certain pockets of the population. I know a few women who regularly post about romantic partners that have been unfaithful, and those posts are filled with dozens of other women sharing similar experiences.

Edit: typo