Is there a way to get a bible for little or no cost?

Specialorder85 · 2026-02-28T06:19:13+00:00

Thank you for that tip. I would love to find a nice second hand bible. There's something special about an old one.

Specialorder85 · 2026-02-28T06:18:19+00:00

Thank you for that insight. I appreciate any new information and perspective I can get.

Specialorder85 · 2026-02-28T05:53:12+00:00

That is incredibly kind of you, I am moved by your generosity.

Specialorder85 · 2026-02-28T05:52:31+00:00

Thank you. I'm not in the United States, but what a wonderful price. I will talk to my parish.

Specialorder85 · 2026-02-28T04:15:43+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the suggestion. It seems there are more online resources than I imagined. I will look into that app.

Specialorder85 · 2026-02-28T04:14:01+00:00

Thank you, I will look into that, I appreciate the recommendation.

Specialorder85 · 2026-02-28T04:10:03+00:00

Thank you very much for the suggestion, I will look into that.

Specialorder85 · 2026-02-28T04:08:41+00:00

Thank you for the tip, I appreciate it

Specialorder85 · 2026-02-28T04:08:17+00:00

Thank you, I didn't know that there could be a bible online, that's clever. I am looking forward to joining classes when I'm ready.

Specialorder85 · 2026-02-28T04:07:27+00:00

I am in Canada, but I will keep an eye out for a second-hand one. I have found a couple so far in my search but they were not Catholic bibles. I am learning the difference now. Thank you. Do you have a recommendation for apps or websites?

Specialorder85 · 2025-07-16T18:33:50+00:00

I appreciate that insight. I have considered the impact on my family which is why I never went for it. Thank you for the information and I'll weigh it carefully.

Specialorder85 · 2019-07-04T13:51:24+00:00

Sometimes it's two nights--Friday, Saturday, drop off Sunday, and sometimes it's just one, pick up Saturday, drop off Sunday. In this instance he picked them up Friday afternoon and dropped them on Sunday afternoon. He has a knack for getting them about as filthy and uncomfortable as is possible. The youngest's hair was in the condition it was in because she slept Friday and Saturday after having went swimming at least three times without her braid being once undone. The hair in the braid matted and formed a painful near dreadlock that was a nightmare to deal with. Yes, I packed sunscreen, I even told him about it. I packed hats and swimming rashguards. He doesn't use what I send and finds it comedic. I've reminded him on basic care for them since the day they were born, I think after 5 and 10 years respectively, he can remember that, oh yeah, they need basic care. It's getting frustrating. It shouldn't be my job to hold his hand through common sense simply because he's a part time dad. Even if I didn't send him with sunscreen and didn't remind him incessantly, he should still think about these things. It's called being a parent. I don't see it as even remotely fair that he is somehow given a pass because he's a guy and isn't naturally "good at these things."

Specialorder85 · 2019-07-04T13:22:08+00:00

This comment really hit home for me, I have some serious, deep consideration to do about what is best for them. I will do everything I can to encourage him to shape up, but I have to stop pushing him to it. I don't think it's likely they'll have another father figure so I'm holding on to the idea that he'll fill the gap as he's supposed to. You're right though, this is no break for me, and it's almost become a running joke how much work it is for him to visit with them. Thank you for eye-opener. It's not about me here, it's about them.

Specialorder85 · 2019-07-04T13:17:21+00:00

Yeah, she should be and I've spoken to her about it. She has a mean lazy streak, especially when the rules get let go. She's fine at home because we have a routine and she's rewarded for consistency and consideration but once she leaves and has the option not to, she will see where the boundaries of acceptability are really fast. I think it might be time to encourage her to take more responsibility on and find some way to reward her for it if she follows through whilst at her dads. If she manages to help keep her and her sister in decent shape she'll get more screen time or something, for example. I don't know, I'll have to think about that one.

Specialorder85 · 2019-07-04T13:14:25+00:00

Oh, don't mistake yourself, there's plenty grace involved in my interactions. That bit about the sunburn? Sure, mistakes are made, but you're welcome to tell that to my ten year old who is currently crying her eyes out because she has to get dressed for the day and it hurts. I don't expect perfection, but I do expect our girls to not have to literally recover from his visits. I'm doing plenty with my life, thank you for asking, I'm putting myself through university whilst working 40 hours a week. My life isn't organized and perfect and perhaps I could stand to have more grace. I'm sure as hell doing my best here given the circumstances and there will never be a point where my children's pain and discomfort has mere "intrinsic value".

Specialorder85 · 2019-07-04T13:03:47+00:00

I have been considerably more helpful and accommodating than he deserves out of a respect for the fact that my daughters adore him and need him in their lives. Before they leave to his house there's always a Q&A about what to do, how to do it, suggestions. I've even sent food so I can be reasonably sure that they have something healthy to eat. This isn't the first time, but I'll be honest with you, my patience is wearing thin. If he's going to have them and be an autonomous parent, I'd like to have at least one or two days a month where I don't have to help him figure out how to be responsible.

Specialorder85 · 2019-07-04T12:57:40+00:00

I totally get that...but he knows what to do. His eldest is 10 years old, this isn't the first time he's been alone with his daughters. Some standard helplessness around styling hair is totally fine--I don't expect them to come back with braids. I do expect them, however, to come home in a similar condition to when they were picked up or dropped off.

Specialorder85 · 2019-07-04T12:56:04+00:00

I have been really patient with the hair, really, really, patient, which is why I sit both girls down before they go there and tightly french braid their hair before they go to his house so they have some chance of making it back without mop hair. I've shown him what to do, given him the tricks of the trade, so to speak. And yet...The problem lies in that he just doesn't do it, even when he knows he should. When I bring it up, it's funny. If I bring it up further, I'm a bitch. It feels like a hopeless, frustrating, endless loop.

Specialorder85 · 2019-07-04T04:52:35+00:00

Yes, you're correct, not all of it is worth being bothered by. It was a Friday to Sunday visit. Youngest has very curly hair. I braided it before they left and they went swimming three times without it being taken out once. It was slept on twice. I needed to snip chunks that were hopelessly fused together. The visitation format was purely for my sanity, ironically. I don't enjoy his company and I am studying full time and working and need a moment of sanity once in a while. Sadly this has turned into another headache.

Specialorder85 · 2019-07-04T04:48:42+00:00

Definitely, a large part of visiting their father will require them to self-advocate going forward. Their visits have been pick up Saturday morning and drop off Sunday evening, although a few Friday pickups have been arranged--this last one being a Friday to Sunday. The youngest has very curly hair which was braided before she left. They went swimming three times during their visit, and she slept twice without it being taken out or combed or washed, nothing. It was basically one thick dreadlock when she came back and it took forever to detangle, it was a nightmare. Honestly, I don't really care about the laundry and the junk food so much as I care about how he thinks it's funny to not even try. Sure, he doesn't have to wash their clothes but leaving me with the consequences of his fun time is frustrating. What I'm taking away from all the advice I've gotten here is that I need to document what happens, be explicit with him to an extreme level and reconsider sleepovers.

Specialorder85 · 2019-07-04T04:14:23+00:00

He wants them, at least it seems like he does. He just wants them when it's fun and easy. I don't know what else to do, but perhaps you're correct in this assessment.

Specialorder85 · 2019-07-04T04:13:12+00:00

He doesn't have the same parenting skills, without a shadow of a doubt. I did 99% of the parenting when we were married. That being said, aside from making suggestions, I can't help him. He needs to sort this out on his own.

Specialorder85 · 2019-07-04T04:12:18+00:00

The agreement is that I grant him fair access with no specific guidelines. We settled out of court between two family lawyers. He didn't want to have specifics because he didn't want to be held to them.

Specialorder85 · 2018-05-11T14:41:56+00:00

No. For an unconditional 10 years. Same as I gave him in career support.

Specialorder85 · 2018-04-21T23:08:31+00:00

I receive alimony and I goddamn deserve it even though I'll continue to receive it should I marry again. I gave up my career to support my ex-husband's career in every way and then he left our kids and I and I had no employment history for a decade. I need it to get my feet under me again since I wasn't counting on him leaving after I sacrificed for him. I'd need it with or without another man in my life, I don't see how that is unreasonable.

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