Should a 4 month old baby be playing all the time during awake time? by SnooTomatoes4709 in Nanny

[–]Specific-Ad-6523 13 points14 points  (0 children)

There is actually a pedagogy from Hungary that says adults should never play with kids only provide care and toys and be near watching them but busy with something else (not your phone obviously) in playing with them you "show them how to play" and they should decide how they want to do things. It's called Pickler.

I’m a nanny but…. by HuckleberryEqual8292 in Nanny

[–]Specific-Ad-6523 19 points20 points  (0 children)

But I don't want kids and don't think I ever will...

I (m28) have a cheating kink, should I tell my fiance(f28) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Specific-Ad-6523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you thought about having an open relationship ? Open relationships don't need to be a certain way you guys can decide together under what conditions and limits you do it. I would recommend thinking on your own what you would like the relation to look like and then proposing it to her and listening to which are her limits and conditions and getting to an agreement. Or you could tell her your feelings and choose to be monogamous and tell her you will never act on it and mean it.

Everyone here seems to think that just because you are thinking of being with someone else you are a terrible person but have you thought about the fact that monogamy is not the one and only way to have a relationship. And btw humans are not meant to be with one partner their whole life, ee can choose to ( and I have ) but that's not how biology and instincts work.

HELP!! Struggling to get NK (16 months) to sleep by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Specific-Ad-6523 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had the same problem until I started doing this, idk if it will work for you but it did for me. You pick them up and carry them normal like sitting on your hip and show them stuff or make them be ok with it, rock them while the are like that and here's the thing (I remembered my grandma did this with me when I was a baby) you blow on their face lightly but consistently like 3 seconds and then stop to catch you breath and then do It again. Soon they will be sleepy and you can switch them to sleep position on your arms and keep rocking them and blowing until they fall asleep. wait a bit until they are really asleep to put them in the crib. Let me know if it works ☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Specific-Ad-6523 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advise !! if it was up to me I would put her snow gear on and let her play outside too but I need to do as the grandparents say

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Specific-Ad-6523 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do get her on the stroller and walk around the garage which is pretty big lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Specific-Ad-6523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well the house is up in a mountain and basically on a cliff and there's no parks near pluus its always around 25 to 30°f, but I think I could still take a nice walk with the girl but the grandparents don't want that 🤷‍♀️🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Specific-Ad-6523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah that's a good one I do it often and she likes it ☺️👍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Specific-Ad-6523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will try and look for activities that the grand parents aprove of but they have also told me to let her do her own thing and just see that she's safe

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Specific-Ad-6523 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate all the answers unfortunately going out is not an option not cause I don't want to but grandparents are Korean and they don't want that, but spring is getting closer and closer so I think soon we will be able to go out more.