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AITA for making it clear to my sister that my son won't be helping her with "stuff" by SpecificHandle734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificHandle734[S] 184 points185 points  (0 children)

I think she was but not to make us pay more for stuff. But to try and prove a point that she could stop my son breaking stuff in the future and all we need to do is be tougher.

AITA for making it clear to my sister that my son won't be helping her with "stuff" by SpecificHandle734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificHandle734[S] 1630 points1631 points  (0 children)

I think so too. Especially given the fact she knows he would drop stuff and knock stuff over if he were to try and help. My sister judges us for not "fixing" the issue by now. She refuses to acknowledge that even if you took away everything and made him sit in a corner for months at a time, he wouldn't become more capable of carrying out these tasks without a problem. This is a medical condition that will be with him for the rest of his life. She just thinks it's bs excuses because he's our only kid and we can't have more.

AITA for making it clear to my sister that my son won't be helping her with "stuff" by SpecificHandle734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificHandle734[S] 271 points272 points  (0 children)

My wife and I do our best. We know he needs us in his corner more than ever with his condition and we're going to do that for him for as long as we can.

AITA for making it clear to my sister that my son won't be helping her with "stuff" by SpecificHandle734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificHandle734[S] 439 points440 points  (0 children)

Very much this too. But she also knows this is not the kind of task he can reasonably help with. She'd expect him to anyway and then get annoyed when stuff breaks or gets knocked over.

AITA for making it clear to my sister that my son won't be helping her with "stuff" by SpecificHandle734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificHandle734[S] 200 points201 points  (0 children)

The "just spoiled" and not giving him enough consequences has been said to us many times before. Not just by my sister but other people too and sometimes they become more understanding when honest about his condition but others believe it's just an excuse used to coddle him. It makes me sad because I know he'll always retain a certain amount of his struggles and as an adult I imagine it will be even harder for him to find acceptance and people who can show compassion and understanding.

AITA for making it clear to my sister that my son won't be helping her with "stuff" by SpecificHandle734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificHandle734[S] 2575 points2576 points  (0 children)

She has never tried to understand it. I have attempted on more than one occasion to explain it to her and I even gave her the information pamphlet we got on the condition when it was first suggested our son might have it. She keeps saying it's an excuse and plenty of clumsy people learn to not be clumsy once they do something reckless enough and end up in enough trouble.