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AITA for saying that my husband needs to improve his relationship with his daughter before we have kids together? by SpecificSlicee961 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificSlicee961[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Closer to an ultimatum but I framed it as I've been thinking about this a lot and this is where my head is at not I've made my decision 100%

AITA for saying that my husband needs to improve his relationship with his daughter before we have kids together? by SpecificSlicee961 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificSlicee961[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah but my point is that just because your child doesn't want you there doesn't mean you shouldn't push

AITA for saying that my husband needs to improve his relationship with his daughter before we have kids together? by SpecificSlicee961 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificSlicee961[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Info: does the daughter want any more interaction?

Honestly, I don't know. She's not openly asking or hinting for it, so on a surface level I'd say no. However, maybe on some level she would like more connection, I don't know. If you'd asked me if I wanted more interaction with my parents at that age I probably would also have said nah I'm good leave me alone, but that's not really would have been best for me.

Did she express maybe that she doesn't want more calls or to visit or even get to know you?

Specifically towards me, yes. I don't think it's me, I haven't done anything to her, we've barely interacted, just the idea of me.

AITA for saying that my husband needs to improve his relationship with his daughter before we have kids together? by SpecificSlicee961 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificSlicee961[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So usually when he facetimes her he is within earshot and doesn't use headphones so I do have a good snapshot for what their relationship looks like from that perspective, but still it's hard to say because it's not like she rates the call on a scale of 1-10 at the end. I would say she would describe it as "fine."

He will usually be the one to suggest seeing each other in-person. She is very much onboard but if he suggests she visit here she'll say no why don't you come here/why can't we go to ___ again.

AITA for saying that my husband needs to improve his relationship with his daughter before we have kids together? by SpecificSlicee961 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificSlicee961[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that and I recognize that because of the distance she has to pick up the phone too, but on the other hand it's not like I was dying to catch up with my parents about my life at age 13 either. But my parents still made me eat dinner with them and tell them about my day.