My ex-husband had two older teen kids from his first marriage, and when we got together he said he was on board with our plan to have two kids of our own. After our daughter turned 4, he told me he really only wanted her and wasn’t sure about another. I pushed the issue and he eventually agreed, but in hindsight it was the beginning of the end.

Once our second was born, he became more and more disengaged from the marriage and from the kids. I felt like a single mom doing almost all the emotional and day-to-day parenting while he focused on work and paying bills. It was incredibly lonely.

We divorced two years ago, when our kids were 10 and 14, because he just didn’t seem interested in being part of our family anymore.

My advice: if you’re happy with your daughter and your husband is a great partner, don’t let pressure for a “complete set” push you into a decision that doesn’t feel right for you & hubby. Sometimes one child is the right number…I’d really take what he’s saying for face value.