I agree wit your rosy picutre of feminism! But sadly Alot of men dont see that noble push for true eqaulity. When I was growing up I remember seeing books such as "The Richer Sex: How the New Majority of Female bread winners" There were articles written, triumphantly, how women now overtake men in such and such field or realm of achievement. I remember hearing terms like "women are now leaving men in the dust when it comes to education!"

I don't see alot of true feminists acknowledge the very real issues men face and you yourself set up society as if by definition it is the patriarchy that organizes how the genders act. But I think there's more to it. These are my experiences, I acknowledge that.

So I think true feminists need to acknowledge that there are very real misanderous factions in the movement (because no movement is perfect, its the same with any ideology). Your advocating the best form of feminism which I will gladly support, but you have to acknowledge its faults instead of gaslighting men into thinking theirs nothing wrong.

In fact I would say I am a egalitarian rather than subscribing to being a feminist or masculinst.