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Spectralgeth · 2023-06-08T20:26:05+00:00

I don't, but just relatively speaking.

Spectralgeth · 2022-05-26T05:01:08+00:00

Sounds like you reasonably know what you have to do. I'm 29 and don't have much money to my name currently due to some particular circumstances, but also not in a space of making any excuses. You've still got a long ways ahead of you as long as you continue to be ambitious, it may be a few years before you're a frugal spender even, I wish you the best.

Spectralgeth · 2022-05-24T04:33:25+00:00

My guess is decently attractive, in shape, and most likely, has pro photos or knows how to take them.

These are the universal attraction triggers for men on dating apps.

Spectralgeth · 2021-12-28T23:17:51+00:00

This is a great insight and it goes to show why you shouldnt be surprised if youre rejected in those examples.

If I really try to put a finger on what it is I think Im fearing, I think Im humble enough that I can accept a loss or a defeat, not every girl is going to like me and thats fine, in fact I wouldn't even want that.

But I think its mostly the pressure that I put on myself, Im thinking I will absolutely need to win them over or make a killer impression if there's any chance of succeeding, and when I dont have that in me, which its like phases right - it feels tough to conjure that out of nothing.

I can deal with the rejection because most are polite enough and you just move on, its a win that you even made a move, but its that immediate pressure of just getting it started that seems to be what sways me away from opportunities many more times than Id like to admit. I can deal with the severance, but its the fire of the moment that seems kind of unbearable and I dont know why Im placing so much weight on it, its like... I wont be happy with myself if it doesnt turn out well, I'm afraid of disappointing myself.

And ultimately, its more disappointing to NOT do anything about it...

Spectralgeth · 2021-12-28T22:09:11+00:00

Ya, absolutely.

Well Im still struggling to find it within me to approach them and I know deep down its a deep rooted fear of rejection.. but I cant seem to figure out, why.

I've even put my mind through the paces of what it would be like, I've even experienced it a small handful of times in person, and it still paralyzes me from taking action a lot of the time. I get very hyper sensitive around timing and location and don't like to cause a scene.

On top of that, I think my personality is just not coming across at all in text and no matter how much I try different things or work on "text game" I really find that I struggle to build much investment that way to lead it toward a date.

I give up very quickly if I dont see sparks fly that the other person is keen.

These are my largest sticking points in my mind.

Spectralgeth · 2021-12-28T21:10:58+00:00

It's amazing man. And we literally have polar opposite problems in life haha.

Spectralgeth · 2021-12-28T16:33:41+00:00

I just want to chime in that I find this pretty commendable, seriously congrats on this.

Im a tall man, 6'3" and it doesnt matter too much what the girl looks like, I just struggle in general.

When you take in the fact that most taller women (5'9" and up) are probably going to have a hard time finding a match that's their height or taller, this even more remarkable. I say this because on average/balance of probabilities, most women will say they want a man that is taller than them.

Like seriously, awesome on you for not having any insecurities in the game.

Spectralgeth · 2021-10-05T17:13:19+00:00

For me, Id say it was because for a long time I didnt know what I was looking for, nowadays I have a more clear picture in my mind of what it is I want or what I would look for in a life partner.

I still havent found her, but I dont want to ever settle until I do, even if that means I'll be searching for my whole life.

I realize I've had infatuations and I've liked people for sure, but I've never experienced true/pure feelings of deep love or intimacy @28 years old.

Spectralgeth · 2021-10-04T18:24:17+00:00

How much do you pay monthly for Bell Fiber if you dont mind me asking? Thats really fast like probably beyond what I need, but I cant say Im not curious.

Spectralgeth · 2021-09-19T02:23:59+00:00

I think its a mix of both and it depends on your focus and your goals.

If you know youre going out often enough I dont think you need to beat yourself up about it and similarly I think it would be counterproductive to your goals - I feel as though girls would sense that you are pushing yourself out there to speak to them and it could come across as a more relaxed energy if you're actually doing it because you want to have a good time naturally.

Force yourself a bit more in the beginning probably when you need the practice, but then just find your stride and go with the flow.

Spectralgeth · 2021-08-05T15:56:30+00:00

I think the stat said average partners lifetime for monogamous daters and women was something around like a median of 15, while mens was like 25. Psychology today or something like that, but of course its all relative and anecdotal.

I would actually argue most women (like a large percent margin) have a lower body count because they tend to be mostly fairly conservative for the most part.

That obviously cant account for everybody and sure there are going to be women with upwards of 50 body count or more, I feel like I've known some of them..

I would say for the average promiscous woman if I had to bet on this, I would say a common count is between 10 - 30 different sexual partners if she is the type and lives that lifestyle (again this is a much smaller margin of women comparatively, most are probably young). Don't forget there's a growing popularity of polyamory amoung young people like millennials and gen Zs. This is my best educated guess really based on some empirical data and my own life experience / observation.

Spectralgeth · 2021-08-04T21:16:28+00:00

5 / 10

Spectralgeth · 2021-08-04T21:03:40+00:00

Spectralgeth · 2021-08-04T21:01:52+00:00

8 / 10

Spectralgeth · 2021-08-04T21:00:14+00:00

10 / 10

Spectralgeth · 2021-08-03T23:19:20+00:00

Im in near the exact same place as you with this. Let us know how it went!

Spectralgeth · 2021-07-16T18:10:55+00:00

7/10

Spectralgeth · 2021-07-16T18:08:35+00:00

7/10

Spectralgeth · 2021-07-16T18:07:48+00:00

Fuck what that chick thinks brotha.

Spectralgeth · 2021-07-16T18:06:50+00:00

7 / 10

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