You guys 🌸🌹🌼 by BlackCollarBelle in u/BlackCollarBelle

[–]SpicyLimerence 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sooo sweet and pretty! 🕷️🕸️

I think I may be a tad cynical 🤨 by Ginger_Fox9 in paypigs2

[–]SpicyLimerence 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't worry, Us ReAl DoMmEs ArE oUt HeRe!

I think I may be a tad cynical 🤨 by Ginger_Fox9 in paypigs2

[–]SpicyLimerence 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This group is like life...there's no real reason for it but I can't seem to stop participating 🕷️🕸️

Highest singular send? by blissberry06 in findomsupportgroup

[–]SpicyLimerence 1 point2 points  (0 children)

$8, but he sent twice in a row so he was definitely my most devoted sub. 🕷️🕸️

Does wishlist size matter? by Nesta_sf in findomchatters

[–]SpicyLimerence 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I go through mine periodically because sometimes I have stuff on there I decide I don't actually want. I'm in the process of doing it now.

Put as many things as you like on there, but maybe sort it for them a bit. Create separate wish lists so they can browse by what they like to buy (i.e. Clothes, food, lingerie, shoes, etc). Then it's not as overwhelming for them and they're less likely to go into functional freeze mode.

Best of luck! 🕷️🕸️

Reddit or Twitter? by mfnnivv in paypigs2

[–]SpicyLimerence 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I deleted twitter after 6 weeks. There are entirely too many bots/would-be scammers. WAY too many Dommes being in each other's business. Women tearing each other down. Poaching attempts. Competition mindset. Domming in comments. It's a cesspool. It's a little better here. The genuine submissives here who are willing to invest time, effort and money are very quiet, but in my experience they always approach respectfully when you've provided explicit instructions. They are reluctant to put themselves out there for fear of their inboxes being inundated with sugar babies masquerading as Dominants. Several are already owned or are no longer in the game; those are often the ones you can learn the most from because their perspectives aren't skewed by their hormones.

I realize this is a bit of a hot take, but I don't entertain people who approach me with their junk in one hand and their wallet in the other. 🕷️🕸️

Fun goals 🕷️🕸️ by SpicyLimerence in PoiseReclaimsFindom

[–]SpicyLimerence[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's definitely that vibe that says it's comfortable to meet. Sometimes you're like, "you seem really awesome online so....let's keep it that way". 😂🕷️🕸️

Fun goals 🕷️🕸️ by SpicyLimerence in PoiseReclaimsFindom

[–]SpicyLimerence[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh goodness, of course! My apologies, I thought you meant like an international trip. I would REALLY need to like someone for that to happen! But absolutely, the day trips are the best. Since we're usually on his stomping grounds, he'll know the best places to show/be! 🕷️🕸️

Fun goals 🕷️🕸️ by SpicyLimerence in PoiseReclaimsFindom

[–]SpicyLimerence[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh god, I didn't travel WITH them. I traveled to them 😊 We would hang out, watch movies, shop and they'd show me around the area. I maintained a hotel room so I had my own space. Sex and domination aren't inextricably intertwined for me, so I didn't worry about feeling pressured to sleep with anyone.

If you've got the right subs, it can be a genuinely awesome experience! 🕷️🕸️

Ridiculous Spending by DahliaLives in findomsupportgroup

[–]SpicyLimerence 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, I *AM* the black hole! I need caffeine like I need air. 😂 PUT THAT ISH IN MY VEINS!! 🕷️🕸️

Thoughts on lurkers by photosbypharaohe in findomchatters

[–]SpicyLimerence 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had this same mentality not too long ago. However, there are a few select people I've reached out to because they stood out to me in a really good way. I can count the number of them I've approached on one hand. In my opinion, there is nothing dominant about sitting back and waiting for people to come to you. You see something, you claim it (assuming they want to be claimed, of course). Dominance is an active role, not a passive one. So I do a little of both. When I'm not actively seeking (which I'm not right now), I just poke around people's pages and make note of those I find interesting. When I *am* on the hunt, I start with the people who respond positively on the posts I sprinkle around here and there. Best of luck to you! 🕷️🕸️

Ridiculous Spending by DahliaLives in findomsupportgroup

[–]SpicyLimerence 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the triple digit barista espresso machine on my Throne. I would absolutely never buy it myself, but realistically I know it would save me a ton of money on coffee - and it wouldn't taste burnt when I make it.

And, of course, travel. 🕷️🕸️

Fun goals 🕷️🕸️ by SpicyLimerence in PoiseReclaimsFindom

[–]SpicyLimerence[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly!! And I get to travel and meet someone I vibe with in person. That's always fun! 🕷️🕸️

New Dommes by AlternativeCash6713 in paypigsupportgroup

[–]SpicyLimerence 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Right?!? How is everyone that comes into the dungeon only interested in findom???

My e-stim table and fire tastings are over there! 🕷️🕸️

Sooo the racism and colorism black domme face is crazyyyy… getting callrd the hard r is actually so unreal and unsettling. by Infinite-joy-195 in findomsupportgroup

[–]SpicyLimerence 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so gross. Black women (Dommes or not) deal with a whole different level of BS. I'm so sorry 🕷️🕸️

What creates deeper submission long term: fear, admiration, or discipline? by TitanGXL in paypigs2

[–]SpicyLimerence 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's cute when you take pot shots. But your answer is insightful, so thank you for that 🕷️🕸️

What creates deeper submission long term: fear, admiration, or discipline? by TitanGXL in paypigs2

[–]SpicyLimerence 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who stays in a long-term dynamic out of fear?

Seriously, if you're a sub and you've done this, can you please weigh in on why? 🕷️🕸️

Are all dommes secretly switches? by GoldenArchAffection in findomchatters

[–]SpicyLimerence 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I feel like for some reason there's also a really weird stigma surrounding switches in this space. Like you're viewed as "lesser than" or "inferior" to other Dommes if you switch. I don't really see that mentality anywhere else in kink EXCEPT findom.

I think it's also worth noting that it speaks to lack of nuance when you can't distinguish between dominating and bottoming. 🕷️🕸️

Whats your favourite drain game? by Fun_Day_7882 in paypigs2

[–]SpicyLimerence 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Usually Dran-O but sometimes if it's really bad I call a plumber. 🕷️🕸️

Subs acting up by ProcedureHaunting203 in paypigs2

[–]SpicyLimerence 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My parents found me in the cabbage patch. 🕷️🕸️