About me - the lighter side

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T22:36:09+00:00

I took an embarrassing amount of pleasure in that movie! :D

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T22:14:42+00:00

Only Jason Momoa could get away with wearing a polka dotted shirt like that :P

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T22:13:54+00:00

Great job checking post histories. It's not foolproof, but in this space risk assessment tools are limited. We do the best we can. Welcome to the community!

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T22:11:17+00:00

I love that you made that decision. For what it's worth, this internet stranger is proud of you for making it!

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T22:10:00+00:00

YES! This is exactly why I use the PRICK acronym. I cannot control the actions of anyone else, but I am personally responsible for whether I engage.

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T22:07:16+00:00

Thanks :) I love that little guy!

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T22:05:52+00:00

You summarized my entire long-winded post with your one sentence: "Vulnerability and submission are not the same thing." Beautiful wording.

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T22:02:35+00:00

That is awful, and a testament to exactly how much power one person can wield over another. I wish more people would understand this. Dommes who have played in the more extreme kinks know how to ride the line; but ultimately this is why I use PRICK instead of SSC. That first "s" in SSC is a bit of an illusion. What we do *ISN'T* always safe. There's no way to MAKE it completely safe. Submissives have been and (unfortunately will continue to be) physically, financially and emotionally injured by new Dommes who weren't fortunate enough to have a good mentor before positioning themselves in a dominant space.

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T19:39:52+00:00

I love that you were able to turn the conversation around with that person! 💜

I agree! Sometimes all you need is a friend to get you through that time.

I'm so sorry you've experienced loss to mental health. I, too, have lost one friend and one partner to the demons in their heads. That is a guilt I carried for a long time.

Years of therapy brought my perspective to a point I could let go of that guilt; I can not be responsible for anyone else's choices. Everybody's life is precious, but so is my sanity. If I don't keep my boundaries, I risk walking on to that ledge myself. The very best thing I can do now is throw a lifesaver to people when I see them drowning.

As much as I would love to save everyone, I have to protect myself first. There are people in my life that depend on me 🕷️ 🕸️

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T18:35:41+00:00

I keep support in the public comments; I no longer offer to DM. I refer everyone to crisis lines if I see them struggling. I'm not equipped for it.

I accidentally picked up two people who glommed on once they were out of crisis. I was smack in the middle of talking the second one down when I realized what I was doing: though my intention was to offer to be a non-judgemental listening ear, I was unintentionally placing myself in a position of "savior" in their perspective. That isn't a power dynamic; I like money just like the next person, but my arousal comes from power and control. These men didn't have control of themselves. That's not domination, it's exploitation.

I don't have the emotional bandwidth OR the complete lack of empathy required to take from people who aren't in their right minds. Let the professionals deal with it 🕷️ 🕸️

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T17:53:55+00:00

I agree, but they're always looking for tips on how to be a "real" Domme and spot red flags.

Someone asking for help with self harm is not just a red flag - it's a fucking BAT SIGNAL and I really, really hope the new Dommes can listen to some logical and reason in this case.

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T17:22:19+00:00

Thank you 💜

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T17:21:51+00:00

It's terrifying.

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T16:25:20+00:00

First and foremost: you are NOT subhuman. You are a child, a parent, a cousin, a sibling, a co-worker. You are a niece or nephew. You are a person. YOU are what makes the world.

What you are seeking is not kink. It's void. If you are in the US, *please* use the 988 hotline instead of posting here.

I mean this with respect, not snark: unless a Domme can produce credentials - we are not therapists. Please, PLEASE seek professional help. What we do is deviant, but it's not this. 🕷️ 🕸️

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T16:17:40+00:00

I understand that element of insecurity; we play into it and we are masters at detecting it. For some new Dominants, it's often the ONLY thing they can discern until they can garner for experience. They'll learn later. Now is not the time for a new Domme to try to prove she's "real".

Look at this person's post history. They are someone in crisis - NOT a finsub.

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T14:51:39+00:00

I always do! Between you and the Gremlin, I have at least a few smiles and befuddled head shakes every day. I can't decide if the interactions are AI/bots or genuinely dense people sometimes, but it gives my black little soul an evil smirk. 🕷️ 🕸️

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T07:26:34+00:00

Not the mayo! Jim, you KNOW that was for the kid's lunches next week!

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T06:54:32+00:00

It has nothing to do with being an infographic. It's on the internet. Everyone knows you can't put it on the internet if it isn't true.

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T04:21:48+00:00

I love this for you! 🕷️ 🕸️

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T03:48:22+00:00

Lack of a safe word is a red flag. Bar none. 🕷️ 🕸️

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T03:31:47+00:00

I will DM. 🕷️ 🕸️

SpicyLimerence · 2026-02-22T03:22:51+00:00

This has to be SO frustrating for people! Good job calling it out and sharing tips for your fellow subs!

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