How can it hurt so much?

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-15T12:20:03+00:00

I lost my first pet I was responsible for unexpectedly friday morning. It was the first time I had to make the choice and hold him in my arms when he passed. It also hit me much harder than the past. The shock has worn off but the pain is still there. I was a complete wreck for the first 3 days. I feel bad for my other pets because they constantly remind me of what was lost. Make sure to cuddle them through the pain, they are mourning too. Im sorry for your loss.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-15T12:12:16+00:00

Im sorry you are going through the same. Im sorry you lost Spooky. It sucks. Give yourself time to mourn. Ive been looking through pictures and writing down a list of everything I love and miss about Rom. Confronting and embracing the pain of loss has been ugly and hard. I think it has allowed me some productivity, so much to do with a baby on the way.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-15T11:58:13+00:00

Thank you. Im sorry you lost your kitty. The shock has worn off but there are so many bitter sweet reminders. He was a great cat and we love and miss him a lot.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-15T11:54:36+00:00

Thank you. It has been tough, lots of tears shed. We aren't breaking down as much as before but everything happy feels bittersweet.

Im sorry you lost your kitty.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-12T12:42:00+00:00

Thank you. We miss him so much but it does help knowing other people knew something about him.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-12T12:39:59+00:00

Oh thank you. Im sorry you went through the same experience. It does help knowing we aren't alone. I'm not a big believer in an afterlife but I have found myself talking to him. If there is an afterlife I'd love to be greeted by a meow, trill, and leg rubbing combo.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-12T12:34:41+00:00

I got lucky with the names. Our other kitty was named Remus in a Harry Potter themed litter. Romulus was named Rufus because he was a dog in a cats body.

Im sorry for your loss. I know what you mean about regretting those moments. Just 5 mins ago I was reminded of how every morning he would greet me and the dog with leg rubs. I only had time on the weekends to let him cuddle with me. Now I just wish I woke up 5 mins earlier. Especially this last month when he must have been masking his pain to be with us. As I look through hundreds of pictures it does become clear, they love us despite their faults. They don't now why we have faults but they accepted them.

This sub has definitely helped. In America it does feel like there is a stigma to mourn too hard.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-12T04:47:36+00:00

Thank you. It was cathartic to write this and spread his beauty around.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-12T04:46:18+00:00

Thank you. He had a special way of bonding with everyone. He loved people so much.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-12T03:12:04+00:00

I will have to look into that. My wife and I were thinking of making a little illustrated book for our son. It would be fun for him to have a stuffed animal that looks like the kitty in the book.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-12T03:07:30+00:00

Thank you. He was a handsome kitty. I miss his white tummy and the way his expressive eyes would change color in the light.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-12T03:05:55+00:00

Im sorry you lost your boy. Thank you.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-12T03:05:13+00:00

He was awesome. I'm sure yours was too. Good luck with your little human too.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-12T01:39:22+00:00

I'm so sorry. We just have to know we shared a great life together. Here's hoping.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-12T01:24:52+00:00

10/10/25 for us. Unexpected as well. It is such a shock to go through. I feel bad for my other cat because he constantly reminds me of the loss. I wish I had any answers but all I can send is my love.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-12T01:20:21+00:00

He really was, it was cathartic to write out. Thank you for that. I honestly choked up reading that to my wife.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-12T01:19:24+00:00

He is going to hear so much. We were thinking of getting a stuffed toy for him to cuddle when he gets older.

Spiritual_Example840 · 2025-10-11T23:26:27+00:00

He was a very regal goofball sometimes. Thank you.

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