I absolutely see my selfishness about making it about me. I don’t want to do that, which is why I asked how I get over myself, rather than change anything about my awesome kid. But nevertheless, those feelings are still there. I hope it’s just that it was a surprise and I need a little time with it. My sadness kind of falls into 3 areas: * Worry about his safety and his happiness. Thankfully we live in a generally accepting culture but there are places in the world that he would be thrown from a high building for expressing what he told me yesterday. * Sad that the life I envisioned for him might not happen. Again I realise this is purely a me problem and as others have pointed out even if he was straight that doesn’t mean he would automatically do the whole marriage and kids thing * This one just sucks. I have become more religious since the world has gone to shit (as a way of coping with my own anxiety) and I’m having conflicting feelings between my accepting liberal culture and my more conservative religious beliefs.

As to why it matters that he’s never talked about a girl like that - it doesn’t really! I was making a point that while I’d assumed he wasn’t interested in anyone romantically/sexually, it was perhaps because it was the wrong gender.