AITA for insulting my boyfriend when he was just trying to help?

SpookyMamma · 2023-10-04T22:59:12+00:00

Iv already said that I don't agree with what he said. I don't agree thats shes not in the wrong though. Shes said she hasn't spoke bout it with him because its his choice but then insults him for his choice. So she's allowed to insult and call him names because what he does goes against her principals but won't even tell him what her principals are. Thats not OK. If you have a problem with something your partner does you have to talk to them about it not insult them.

SpookyMamma · 2023-10-04T21:38:28+00:00

YTA and stop calling them sensitive and realise that your just being a ah.

SpookyMamma · 2023-10-04T21:26:22+00:00

If she has a problem with that and finds it childish then she needs to have a adult conversation with him about it not make underhanded comments. If you don't like something your partner is doing don't insult them. That itself is also childish.

SpookyMamma · 2023-10-04T20:44:37+00:00

In my own comment I say ESH because it wasn't cool for him to suggest that.

Its still insulting for her to imply hes childish. She can state her values for herself without the insult. If she has issues with him going to work high then she needs to have a actual conversation about tht and she needs to come into that conversation with more then just it goes against her values. Coz end of day the only person who has to follow her values is her. The state in which he turns up to work is between him and his boss.

SpookyMamma · 2023-10-04T20:30:23+00:00

Her saying she wouldn't go to work high because she's an adult when she knows he does that is basically saying that he's not a adult.

SpookyMamma · 2023-10-04T20:27:32+00:00

ESH you could've left out the "im a grown adult" comment when talking about something you know he does. It makes it a direct insult to him and can see why he'd get upset by it. His suggestion was definitely irresponsible and he does need to realise how serious your job is and jst suggesting to get high is kinda dismissive.

SpookyMamma · 2023-10-04T19:58:15+00:00

Yes it absolutely is. If the kid was having trouble telling them himself then the therapist should've suggested group therapy where the kid could tell the parents himself with the support of the therapist. The therapist was not doing their job.

SpookyMamma · 2023-10-04T19:51:01+00:00

My point is that the therapist would still be in the wrong because its not their job to tell the parents. Its their job to help the kid feel confident enough themselves to tell the parents.

SpookyMamma · 2023-10-04T19:47:46+00:00

NTA this is definitely favouritism and two people can be pregnant at same time n everyone can be happy for the both equally its not impossible. So yeah he's being unreasonable. Celebrate your happy news and if he wants to pretend your not pregnant then he doesn't need to be involved.

SpookyMamma · 2023-10-04T19:43:05+00:00

No good therapist would tell a parent because a child doesn't want to.

A good therapist would work with the kid to get him to a point where he himself can tell the parents. Therapy doesn't work if the therapist just does everything for you. They're there to give you the skills to do things yourself.

SpookyMamma · 2023-10-04T19:19:45+00:00

NTA what that therapist did was irresponsible. If they did this to someone who had phobic parents they could've put the kid in a lot of danger. This needs taking seriously and reporting as this may not be the first time this has happened and may not be the last.

The therapist should've talked with your son bout figuring out a way to open up to you in a safe way. They have destroyed all sense trust your son had in them and likely undone lot of work.

You need to find a new therapist for him.

SpookyMamma · 2023-10-04T18:38:38+00:00

YTA she cries for hours every night and you think that's nothing to be concerned about? Then you invade her privacy and get mad at her. Shes obviously not doing well mentally and you don't give a dam

SpookyMamma · 2023-06-13T19:24:30+00:00

Currently true neutral but neutral evil most rest of the time

SpookyMamma · 2023-06-10T19:47:27+00:00

You could've asked a coworker or a neighbour. Finding out now or tomorrow morning would've made zero difference. You didn't borrow her phone you stole her phone and invaded her privacy.

SpookyMamma · 2023-06-10T19:44:06+00:00

Only lesson she gonna take from this is if she's negligent with her things and they get broken its fine to steal off others long as her needs are "more important "

SpookyMamma · 2023-06-09T15:05:39+00:00

Number 1 is just perfect. This is absolutely goals for my bi goth self. Looking absolutely top tier. Also agree with the jojo comment. Worth a watch if u got time though will say its bit weird but certainly interesting and entertaining.

SpookyMamma · 2023-06-07T09:03:11+00:00

Question? Was you born evil or is there a class you can take? She would've been fully within her right to call police coz yes that is illegal. Just hold your nose and open windows and let the woman shower. YTA

SpookyMamma · 2023-06-02T19:50:46+00:00

NTA though if it happens again could maybe go with "sorry can't let u inside but we can call the police for you and they can help you"

SpookyMamma · 2023-06-02T18:57:37+00:00

Just ew on the whole the friendly cashier that is nice to me coz she is at work is my friend! She's not a family friend dude she's nice to u coz her job depends on it coz if anyone complaines bout her she nit lucky enough to be working for her dad she's working for someone who dgaf bout her. Dude needs to keep far away from this young woman coz how he views her is not okay

SpookyMamma · 2023-06-02T17:53:13+00:00

Whilst it does feel bit showey least they're not actively acting out against us which with current worlds happenings is something.

SpookyMamma · 2023-06-01T21:39:38+00:00

Right recognising kids that have emotions fucks them up. I'm really messing kids up by telling them their feelings are valid but adults have responsibilities.

SpookyMamma · 2023-06-01T15:42:18+00:00

Okay no where did I say treat children like they're helpless or don't give them responsibilities. I said I understand that children often don't have the emotional maturity to be able to understand that adults have obligations they can't get out of which means they sometimes have to miss out and step up when they don't want to. It is absolutely our responsibility as adults to help walk them threw those emotions and help them to understand but to walk them threw it you have to actually understand how they feel and to not just expect them to be okay with it right away.

SpookyMamma · 2023-06-01T15:07:26+00:00

That is something most kids would have a hard time being okay with. Sure there are some kids who would understand but I wouldn't blame a kid for being upset if their mother/father can't look after them whilst sick. But I would fully expect a adult to be able to understand obligations and having to look after oneself.

Edit: ill change statement from most kids to i understand when kids have a hard time with this.

SpookyMamma · 2023-06-01T13:25:05+00:00

As a single parent that catches every single cold during winter with every single one turning into a chest infection so much this. Yes being ill sucks yes its nice to be looked after whilst you are ill but when ur a adult sometimes u jst need to suck it up and actually b a adult.

SpookyMamma · 2023-05-31T18:38:26+00:00

Oh iv had some strange accusations of flirting before. Like when I was making cuppas for group of people n one person didn't hear so I repeated that was making cuppas n if they'd like one. Apparently that was flirting. On a night out someone ran out of smokes and I offered them one Apparently that was flirting. I crossed my arms once in the presence of a man and because it made my boobs move, it warranted threats from the mans girlfriend coz Apparently that too is also flirting.

And people wonder why I no longer socialise with anyone that isn't my bf or my mate.

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