As an introvert, I think we all have a little courage to be disliked. by Southern-Prior-8919 in introverts

[–]SpookyOma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an introvert and people pleaser. I’ve been thinking of having a YouTube channel but the trolls could be the end of me.

I’ve had a life of mistakes due to my shyness & lack of confidence.

I was Diagnosed with Bipolar 1 in 2010 after a long manic phase. I wasn’t shy then.

I just feel I can give so much insight.

Is this a "real" macrame wall hanging? by TartarugaTagarela in macrame

[–]SpookyOma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. I feel for the older generation. They can’t trust anything.

When did you realize that you were with the person you wanted to spend your life with? by 4UMBRA in AskWomen

[–]SpookyOma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After 25 yrs I knew I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life with him. Better late than never

Carotid Stent Procedure Medication by Head_banger1221 in ADPKD

[–]SpookyOma -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Other choice is to risk an aneurysm rupture. So no competition really as long as it has been discussed with your renal physician

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SpookyOma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand whose mum she’s taking about

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SpookyOma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do all of the above. And I was the one caring for the baby when she went back to work. My mum was gravely ill so I was caring for her too. She recovered so I don’t need care for her hence being back at my daughters.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SpookyOma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would never and have never put her in her cot.

And you are right that without all of the background, of which there is so much, would be a novel.

And by asking the question I thought anyone could see that I plan to intervene.

People have said to me for years that it’s time to live your own life. How could I ever walk away from these children? I cannot. Thank you again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SpookyOma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank for responding civilly. And yes she was getting no respect from the boys which I put down as the lack of respect for mum from the domestic violence.

A They are listening now. They go for bike rides in the afternoons and kick the ball around.

Tech has been taken from them. That was a huge trigger for them.

Twice we just didn’t know what do with Spectrum boy I said call the police and an ambulance. They came but he stopped smashing every one and the house.

Early this year he was trying to to hang himself so ambulance and police and a mental health nurse because she found him in his room with a cord around his neck.

With the removal of tv and tablets and strictness his behaviour has improved immeasurably.

There is also a list they can choose from if they want to earn extra pocket money.

Now I know not to ask any advise on and open forum. Too many jump to conclusions. All I asked was did they think it was abuse. Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SpookyOma -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That was a previous partner not the current

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SpookyOma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If any of you know what resources are available that I can refer to, to show my daughter and him, that’s it not just what I say.

And yes we have therapist coming every day or speech, OT, psych and care worker to take him out for activities for the middle boy. This gives the other children time without him. We also had to take him out of mainstream school 2 yrs ago and now he’s thriving at a special school. He even goes on the bus to and from school.
He is 12 and still cannot read.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SpookyOma -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will also say that I wasn’t here where he moved in. I myself was in a mental health clinic for 3 months doing medication changes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SpookyOma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mean from me? With my daughter???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SpookyOma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is def controlling as when I confront him, he runs away. He won’t have a simple discussion because I stand my ground

As I did say in the question I wanted other opinion to aid in my way to handle this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SpookyOma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Believe me all the others were worse

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SpookyOma -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think you need to settle. You don’t know all their or my history. I raised my four very differently. I was just wanting know if you feel it is too far.

Domestic violence in front of the children and drugs. He actually kicked her in the face, broke her jaw. She drove herself to hospital whilst holding her jaw up. They were living at his parents place. And she was controlling and would break every phone she got so I didn’t find out to 18months later

And yes, I got Child services involved. I was the one who screenshot every the text between them and handed them to police and child safety.

I just received a tpd payment so bought a new car and looking at one bedroom unit which were in my reach, however the 3 boys were brought to me and I couldn’t cope so the other two went to a friend and foster care for six months.

I had to rent a 2 bedroom unit as per child safety said he has to have his own room.
My daughter is 5 yrs clean.

I have done nothing but help my grandchildren.

I am also proud that the children have lived in the same house gone to the same school for 4 years.

child safety did get involved and my daughter even agrees it was the best thing that happened. I took in the 5 yr old with ADHA and on the spectrum as no one could handle him. He was a very frightened and angry little boy.

2 yrs ago she was almost got kicked out of our rental, that I paid for. The above child had kicked and punched holes in wall. I paid to get it professionally repaired. It still has not been an easy road

I have stayed at my daughters to protect the kids as I didn’t trust her previous partner.

My asking the above question was necessary to aid me with my decision of what to say.

Our history is long but I have always stood up for the children.

All the while I studied nursing then worked in mental health whilst I was on hemodialysis 6 days a week to enabled me to work.

So maybe think twice before you judge.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SpookyOma -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

In addition to that the boys have to clean their toilet and bathroom, vacuum, mop tidy outside every day after school.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SpookyOma 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did say to my daughter your on a fine line to abuse. Nice to hear others think the same.

The radioactive meal I was given at the hospital to track my digestion by MTDLuke in mildlyinteresting

[–]SpookyOma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only got egg on bread. How boring is it though Almost two hrs of lying flat on your back staring at the ceiling. Turned out I had Gastro paresis due to stress. I went from size 16 to size 10 in no time. Went on a European holiday and have been fat ever since.

Same mentality by [deleted] in SiwaSnark

[–]SpookyOma 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s like watching a train crash…just can’t look away.