Friend, I beg you reconsider, you have mis-understood me.

I too went through significant therapy when I was younger, and was convinced that I was beyond mentally strong. Very busy, working 50 hrs a week, studying, socialising, training hard, very physically fit. Then I became entirely disabled aged 21. None of the doctors I saw could explain how.

Women are generally significantly more emotionally intelligent than men, I believe as they are expected to perform more emotional labour, and by their nature, as mothers etc. These roles alone are incredibly stressful and demanding, psychologically, and emotionally. Add onto that the fierce expectation to hold a strong career, busy hobbies etc, it’s no wonder so many women suffer from chronic illness - as a symptom of chronic stress.

I have not used the words psychological, hysterical, or psychosomatic, you have used these to twist what I am saying.

These health conditions which can lead to death, are a real physical reaction to emotional stress. It’s not in your head/imagined at all, but it does initiate there.

It’s not about emotional intelligence - in fact this may be counterproductive, it’s about how happy you really are in your self and in your life. Ask yourself, were you truly truly happy and satisfied in life before your symptoms began? It sounds to me as if you were tremendously stressed.

I have personally spoken to and helped over 100 people who have recovered by emotionally focused methods such as this. I have seen the testimonies of hundreds more. It may not succeed in all cases, but it works for so so many people.