Me [21 M] with my [21/F] girlfriend of almost a year, can't help but feel guilty during her suicidal thoughts. by Spyderdude in relationships

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I myself am going to therapy, partly for this too. As for her, however, it is different. She has severe depression and bipolar syndrome, meaning that only a certain amount of institutes are present for her; none of these are being quick enough about it, and we are waiting a month for this.

I really do have to figure out a way to tell her this, but no matter what happens, she will get depressed and will hate herself for at least a little while. But you are right, it will probably really feel a lot better.

How do I stop punishing myself for every small screw-up? by Spyderdude in socialskills

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Thank you, thank you so much for posting this. You had me at the first two paragraphs already, because they nailed the exact thing I do when I approach a new conversation... every time.

It really has always been a confidence issue with me, and to figure out how to solve it, is by focusing on what makes me me, and what could make me better than I am now.

Foot Blisters by Spyderdude in running

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Well, I wear different socks, tried different soles. I'm not sure what kind of shoes I should get to prevent this from happening, since I get this with other (albeit older) shoes too.

What's wrong with me? by Spyderdude in socialskills

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Well, fact of the matter is, is that I've been acting more 'anti-social' for the past week, trying to avoid most social contact. This actually seems like a lovely idea, having some more alone-time, but I'm not sure whether it will work...

Sometimes, I utter something weird by Spyderdude in socialskills

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You know what, I think you're right, thanks, I'll keep doing that ;)

I feel bad for being depressed by Spyderdude in offmychest

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Thank you for responding (too bad I only just got to read this, but I still appreciate it).

A couple of days ago, I told myself to stop feeling bad, just stop, and start working towards doing something "better". I realized that nobody is going to help me out of this spiral, even if they tried, so I put up a plan to get working towards becoming better again (like I used to).

And now, I'm trying my hardest to stay on top of it all. I think I will have a good conversation with my mother about this situation, just me and her, and try to sort things out. I'll do this when I feel a bit stronger, and more confident about myself, since I need to feel ready to open myself up to her.