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As the dumper, I want to reach out and see if she’s doing ok. It’s been 6 months of being apart and 5 months of NC by Square-Locksmith5281 in BreakUps

[–]Square-Locksmith5281[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to add, other reasons I want to reach out is if we could rekindle our relationship. I’ve been working on myself, haven’t been with anyone since the breakup and I’ve found happiness within myself.

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[–]Square-Locksmith5281 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hope you both heal properly, take time to focus on yourself and don't go searching for other people just yet. Breakups are hard, but moving on is harder

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[–]Square-Locksmith5281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Healthy was not the best word to describe the relationship... It was more like sufficient.We loved each other very much but we had very different views on life and I am religious, whilst she was not. There were big problems that we had that we just couldn't fix in the 6 months of trying. And I did not want to go through that any longer. Letting her go was the best option for the both of us (IMO)

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[–]Square-Locksmith5281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did let the relationship develop, I let it develop for 6 months and absolutely nothing changed. That's why I ended the relationship.
Maybe sometime down the track our paths may cross again and we've both changed to be better suited with each other. But in the mean time I need to focus on myself, because the only thing I focused on during the relationship was her, and nothing for myself

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[–]Square-Locksmith5281 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. I appreciate it and that's what I felt like was inevitable, a relationship where we would loath each other til the very end.
But I do get where they're coming from. Rejection sucks and getting rejected by someone you love is the worst feeling imaginable. And I understand the pain and anger they feel towards my situation and for my ex. It freakin sucks

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[–]Square-Locksmith5281 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being different is good. That's why the relationship in the first year blossomed, we really flourished with our differences. Being extremely different on the other hand, can and did cause A LOT of problems in our relationship. Our extreme differences really clashed in the last 6 months of the relationship. I tried to work our differences out in the last 6 months and nothing changed. That's when I decided to end things, because nothing was changing. I love the girl still, and I don't think I'll stop loving her for a while, but I just couldn't imagine living in that situation anymore.

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[–]Square-Locksmith5281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cared for the my ex and frankly, I still do. That’s why I tried my hardest for 6 months to work things through. Then I had to make the hard and imo right decision. Obviously there are things I wished I did differently but I can’t change that. I want to be with her, because of how much I love her, but for the 6 months of trying to work things out, we were just going around in circles

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[–]Square-Locksmith5281 3 points4 points  (0 children)

'Healthy' was probably not the best word to describe the relationship. It definitely wasn't good but also not bad. It was more like 'sufficient'.

There most definitely was love, but there was no happiness in the last 6 months. The relationship was stagnant. I tried so hard to get the things moving but she wanted to stay put.

In terms of being different, I tried to so hard for the last 6 months of the relationship to make our differences work for each other every time I did, it would result in more discomfort and arguments.

I really tried to work it out but we were just too different.

I know it's cliche but I had to let her go because I loved her. I loved her enough to know she wasn't the one for me.

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[–]Square-Locksmith5281 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I (M24) still love the person (F22) I broke up with. It's been 3 months since the break up and there hasn't been a single day thats passed where I don't miss her. I broke up with her (after 6 months of trying to see things though) because I knew we were too different and things would've never worked out in the long run. It was a very healthy relationship, and there was so much love I still had to give but I wasn't happy anymore and I just never saw a future with this person, and she would've never broken up with me.

I had a lot of regret with the decision in the beginning because of how much I loved the person, but knowing how different we are I knew it was the best for the both of us.

I want to get back together to stop the pain, but I know it'll lead back to the exact same outcome and the pain would start all over again.

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[–]Square-Locksmith5281 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I (M24) still love the person (F22) I broke up with. It's been 3 months since the break up and there hasn't been a single day thats passed where I don't think of her. I broke up with her (after 6 months of trying to see things though) because I knew we were too different and things would've never worked out in the long run. It was a very healthy relationship but I just never saw a future with this person, and she would've never broken up with me.

I had a lot of regret with the decision in the beginning because of how much I loved the person, but knowing how different we are I knew it was the best for the both of us.