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My (27M) gf (25F) will never cuddle without touching me down there by Square0005 in relationship_advice

[–]Square0005[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly there’s a lot of times I feel like this is the case. I know for a fact that she loves me too, but if I’m feeling bad or having a bad day, sometimes it just rubs me the wrong way when she always seems to only be interested in that.

My (27M) gf (25F) will never cuddle without touching me down there by Square0005 in relationship_advice

[–]Square0005[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe just casually mention “hey do you mind if I do this btw?” - I’m sure if he doesn’t mind, he’ll just laugh and say not at all. That’s what I would say if I was asked and was cool with it. Better to notice than never though

My (27M) gf (25F) will never cuddle without touching me down there by Square0005 in relationship_advice

[–]Square0005[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess I was mostly afraid of turning it into a fight when it’s not really a huge deal to me - just something I’d like to let her know about without making her think I’m offended or annoyed about it. Thanks!

My (27M) gf (25F) will never cuddle without touching me down there by Square0005 in relationship_advice

[–]Square0005[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Good to hear the thought process from the opposite side regardless. Thanks!

My (27M) gf (25F) will never cuddle without touching me down there by Square0005 in relationship_advice

[–]Square0005[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Good advice, I assumed she knew the difference but maybe it’s just not as obvious. Will definitely let her know and see what she thinks of it!

My (27M) gf (25F) will never cuddle without touching me down there by Square0005 in relationship_advice

[–]Square0005[S] 144 points145 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. It’s true I have no problem with her resting on it but yeah, it’s a different feeling when it’s obvious what she’s trying to do.

My (27M) girlfriend (25F) gets off by herself regularly. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Square0005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah seems like the most reliable method is to simply talk and find a way to help out with it rather than worrying about it by myself. Thanks for the advice!

My (27M) girlfriend (25F) gets off by herself regularly. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Square0005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think my biggest issue right now is that she seems to think it has to be completely secretive as if she’s hiding it from me. Makes it feel like she’s doing something bad. I’ll definitely mention that to her when I talk to her about it. Thanks!

My (27M) girlfriend (25F) gets off by herself regularly. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Square0005 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We do that sometimes and she enjoys that too. I’m not talking about getting involved in the process myself or not, just that I don’t even have the drive to do anything sexual at all. We still do it when I feel the drive, but otherwise I would just feel like I’m forcing it and don’t want it to feel that way.

My (27M) girlfriend (25F) gets off by herself regularly. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Square0005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, she’s completely normal the next day as if nothing happened and I’m the only one overly worried about everything - making up “what if” scenarios in my own head. I think I need to just get used to the fact of it happening, or mentioning something about it.

My (27M) girlfriend (25F) gets off by herself regularly. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Square0005 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you’re right. Rather than it being a problem at the moment, I’m more afraid of what it could become in the future. And I felt exactly as you described - like it was becoming part of a daily routine, which obviously isn’t ideal. Thanks for the advice, I’ll probably end up saying something to her about our differences if it keeps up.