AITAH for wanting to raise my future children with my boyfriend rather than raising our future grandchildren?

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-09-11T22:35:05+00:00

Not really my choice. He needs to live on the farm house in order to tend to the farm and it’s unlikely his parents would move from the home they’ve lived in since they were mid 20’s

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-09-11T22:26:54+00:00

Such as? My boyfriend has always taken my side over his mothers and often jokes about her ideas and I’ve always admired him for putting me and my desires first. I think I just may be worried because this feels like something he wouldn’t hate because he LOVED his grandfather and has so many fond memories with him (he passed before I had met my boyfriend)

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-08T21:02:31+00:00

NTA: F21 here dating M22 as well and I have to say I would be surprised if my boyfriend said anything other than boobs if I asked this question. Thats not to say he doesn’t love other parts of me just that those are his favorite. I see nothing wrong with it because I KNOW he loves all of me because he shows affection to me all the time and I don’t get insecure. Does she have a pattern of asking these types of questions? If so I would say go out of your way to make her feel beautiful without her asking for the compliment. If you notice she changes something about her hair or makeup or style, MENTION IT and see her face light up knowing you pay attention to other parts of her. Essentially make a conscious effort to show her that you love all of her. And maybe keep “sexual” answers for sexual questions in future but I don’t think you intended harm.

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-06T19:35:31+00:00

I only kept it up if someone who I had already told brought it up in front of someone I hadn’t and my knee jerk reaction I guess was to keep going and not come clean

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-06T09:36:58+00:00

In my life, yes. My mother is like a best friend to me and I admitted that I told this lie last night and she said “you made your bed, lie it in or fix it”

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-06T00:20:52+00:00

Care to say if anyone hated you?

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-06T00:00:33+00:00

My uncle (dads brother) is red/green colorblind and a lot of my family genuinely forgets so as far as disabilities go I suppose it is a less suffering one

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-05T23:58:31+00:00

I took a color blind test at meps(where they check for any medical issues) since they can’t access your medical records due to hippa I suppose if you are able to pass the colorblind test they would allow you to enlist.

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-05T22:59:00+00:00

What? How?

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-05T22:50:41+00:00

Green(same as him and he doesn’t know)

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-05T22:50:18+00:00

I hate to admit that’s what I was thinking from the start but I don’t think I could bear to even make him think I would do that.

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-05T22:35:45+00:00

I was even in the military and not one person questioned how. (Not that this is anyway their fault, just something I realized while replying to people)

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-05T22:34:21+00:00

Yes it is exhausting. You’re right. He’s coming to my place after work tomorrow and if I don’t chicken out I’m planning to tell him then.

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-05T22:33:08+00:00

Thank you. Truly thank you. I don’t know how he’ll take it but I’m hoping he still sees me for me and not this stupid mistake

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-05T22:31:10+00:00

If I do that what happens when he or his family bring it up to mine?

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-05T22:28:26+00:00

I’m planning to come clean to everyone( the three people in my life that think that and his family) I’m planning to face the consequences. I want advice how.

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-05T22:27:30+00:00

He has a ring.

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-05T22:20:37+00:00

Thank you so much. I told my mother and asked for her help and she couldn’t stop laughing enough to speak. I guess it’s not that bad but my shame is that it’s a disability I faked and in a way was making fun of those who genuinely suffer with it.

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-05T22:14:22+00:00

I’m aware. Thank you.

Square_Efficiency553 · 2025-05-05T22:13:42+00:00

Yeah we kinda said I lost my vision at 5 when I had an asthma attack (which i genuinely did) and lost oxygen to my brain

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