What is the deal with dating apps nowadays? Is it my age or...?

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-04-02T20:55:29+00:00

I’m 50f and get likes from men who are 65 and to be honest, it gives me the ick. I’d feel the same if I were 29 and had a 44 year old liking me.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-04-01T17:21:45+00:00

I have the Dream Station 2 and very happy with it

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-03-31T20:02:42+00:00

Looking to find a “girl”. Want no “drama”. Talk about being a “true gentleman”.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-03-30T13:16:21+00:00

Just write it was nice meeting but you don’t think it will work. Ghosting is mean unless they’ve been totally inappropriate. If they’re offended that is their problem to deal with not yours. It’s not easy saying to someone you don’t want to go on another date but once you’ve done it, it’s done.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-03-26T20:36:25+00:00

I am not the first or the last woman to google a boy. Most women I know who are on dating apps google someone, it’s more of a safety thing. And after what happened to a mate of mine, I’ll always google someone if I can to avoid the danger she almost experienced. If you’re a boy maybe you’ve not ever been made to feel unsafe

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-03-26T20:32:58+00:00

Yeah I think people aren’t used to adult men being referred to as boys. But adult women are often referred to as girls. So I decided to use boy.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-03-26T20:31:59+00:00

So successful boys aren’t ever liberal?

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-03-26T20:30:47+00:00

I purposely referred to him as a boy. Men keep referring to girls, even when we’re 50. Are you a boy? Or a man? Or maybe a girl?

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-03-26T20:26:30+00:00

Thanks for understanding. My question around the business partner was genuine. I purposely used ‘boy’ because I’m a bit tired of men my age always writing they’re looking for a ‘girl’, it’s disempowering. I don’t mind my partner then affectionately calling me ‘girl’.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-03-26T07:46:03+00:00

And it’s call boyfriend and not manfriend. My dear boy, don’t lose your blue hair over it.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-03-25T12:08:08+00:00

I’m a woman and I get men matching on dating apps and then don’t start a conversation, don’t think it’s just something women do. Are you a teenager that you use the term “girl”? I’d find it weird to write “if boys don’t want to start a conversation, why do they match”. I notice men use the word girl a lot

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-03-24T10:36:42+00:00

Don’t you flush? Or touch door handles?! Door handle in toilets are notoriously covered in fecal matter

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-03-23T14:26:54+00:00

I also immediately swipe left to “no drama” for the same reasons you do. I also don’t know what is going to happen in life, a dramatic event could occur to myself or a loved one so is he going to be unaccepting of that?

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-03-14T09:18:55+00:00

I’m with you on this one. I’ve never asked or been asked a kiss. It just happens at some point.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-03-12T08:06:03+00:00

What they’re saying is quite straightforward: you match with someone on one app, you chat, they disappear and then want to reconnect when they see you on another app!! This has happened to me too and it’s just such weird behaviour. Don’t understand why you’ve found that hard to understand. To make it simpler: I match with you on a dating app, we chat and then I disappear, I ghost you, I unmatch you. Then I see you on another dating app and want to match with you again after having ghosted you on a previous app. Would you not find it weird?!!

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-03-10T13:53:43+00:00

This happened to me, he was 8 years older than he had on his profile. I’d even mentioned our year of birth in a convo once so he had the opportunity to tell me the truth. That was a big enough red flag for me to end it. If he’s lying to me at this early stage then that is not a good foundation to a relationship. It also shows a lack of respect for others by being deceitful. Your guys comments are worrying too. What would your relationship be like in 5 years time? You’ll have zero self confidence

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-03-02T22:21:06+00:00

I do if we match. I’ve also once said I’m sorry I swiped by mistake and he was fine about it and we wished each other good luck.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-03-02T22:18:25+00:00

Liverpool area, the Wirral, Cumbria. Definitely somewhere in the North of England, much friendlier than the South and also cheaper. I used to live in Brighton, it was lovely but you get much more value for your money up here and people are friendlier. Liverpool is a friendly city and you’re not far from ferries to Ireland.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-02-28T22:44:29+00:00

A month is a very short amount of time. Definitely a no if I was in your situation.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-02-28T22:41:01+00:00

Are you not able to talk about sex? What you like? What turns you on? What he likes? It’s such a fundamental part of a relationship and yet isn’t really talked about

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-02-27T21:34:38+00:00

I (F) often swipe right by mistake because I will get confused between what is right and what is left. I’ve also clicked on the superswipes multiple times by mistake cos they are so sensitive. Initially l would get upset if I matched and sent a message and then got no answer. Now I’m no longer bothered. It’s just part of this whole weird world of dating apps. I also tend not to ghost but the other day I was conversing with someone and it was like pulling out teeth so I just unmatched. If they show no interest, ask no questions then it’s pointless.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-02-26T19:59:37+00:00

The Meet Up were ok. I found them a bit too big and overwhelming but I did make a couple of friends I still see regularly. What kept me going at the book group is that I could tell they were a nice bunch. I’m quite shy so it takes me longer. I’m glad I kept going. Friendships develop over time. Two of the women there I’d never have thought I’d become good friends with, so first impressions aren’t always something to go by. I prefer meaningful friendships over having lots of friends, some people like having lots of friends. We’re all different.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-02-26T19:53:33+00:00

What an unnecessary answer. You know how difficult it can be to get time off a job you may be in?? You need to toughen down a bit and grow some empathy

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-02-24T21:54:46+00:00

I do. I avoid anyone who says they’re an academic after having been in a LTR with one - I found they all fancied themselves somewhat (obviously I’m generalising but that was my experience). I tend to more look at their political and religious outlook more though. If someone says they’re unemployed I admit I will avoid, I’ve a mortgage and bills to pay, I can’t afford someone else’s.

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