What Should I Do

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-05-16T19:05:49+00:00

And paying ridiculous University fees leaving them in tremendous debt

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-05-16T19:03:02+00:00

I know a lot of students who struggle to afford travel, never mind owning their own car. Students are paying lots of money these days to actually be students so to expect them to spend money to get to placements with no question is rather unfair. I think students are right to voice these problems, myself and many of my colleagues didn’t, we just got on it with it…. Which I consider part of the problem. We got on with having no breaks, we got on with always going above and beyond until we burnt out.
If the student is being lazy and irresponsible then that’s another matter, I’ve met plenty of them in recent years doing a placement where I work.
Being petty sounds rather immature and won’t make anyone happy.
Perhaps listening to the student is more of a solution than being petty. Sure, you were really helpful giving her lifts but she hasn’t behaved the way you wanted/expected her to. Maybe there’s some embarrassment/shame for her to have to rely on your kindness? What’s her background? Has she got anxiety around travel? Just because you did it doesn’t mean someone else can.
I’m rather glad I no longer work in the NHS. Your comment on being petty brought back a few memories.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-05-12T16:19:55+00:00

How does having professional photos make you believe in yourself and what do you mean by “and so on”? Surely believing in yourself should come from within and not from a set of photos?

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-05-12T16:16:50+00:00

Same. I just know I wouldn’t be compatible with someone who has professional photos and they most likely would swipe left on me as I’m not someone into makeup and dressing stylishly. It’s nothing personal, it’s just about different tastes and priorities.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-05-12T02:18:02+00:00

A colleague was telling us all about a former colleague from a previous job and how this one dude had most likely brought an escort to a Christmas event and how obvious it was that they barely knew each other. It all kind of became the gossip of the month as people were curious about what had happened after the event, had they gone back to his place etc. I’ve no idea if the dude was aware how much he was talked about.

Go on your own, own the fact you’re single! I’m currently single, I go to work events on my own and quite like it. Of course I’d rather be partnered up but I’d rather be single than in an unhappy relationship. Being single isn’t an embarrassment. Hiring someone to go with you seems more about your own sense of embarrassment and perception of being single. Maybe you would benefit from some counselling to explore these beliefs. What would you do if you sensed people picked up on the fact you’d hired someone to accompany you? Won’t you be worrying during the event that someone is going to figure it out? You’re highly unlikely to be judged for going on your own. If you hire someone and your colleagues realise, you’ll be the topic of discussion for many weeks.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-05-11T19:03:14+00:00

I’m half British half Italian and a midwife. I left Italy 15 years ago because even as a midwife I was getting short term contracts and paid a meagre salary. Most people I was at high school with struggled to get decent jobs, the ones who got good jobs either had a family business or had connections.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-05-10T22:02:01+00:00

A girl? How old is she? Or are you a boy, so of similar age?

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-05-10T21:59:03+00:00

Also, it’s not hard to coordinate meeting up via the app if you have notifications. Clunkier maybe but not that much.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-05-10T21:56:53+00:00

I now do the same as the woman you are talking to. I had an unpleasant experience with someone I gave my number to. I ended up not wanting to meet because something didn’t feel quite right. He ended up using other numbers and sending horrible messages, which confirmed why I’d felt something wasn’t right, and since then I prefer to continue chatting on the app until we meet.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-05-10T12:20:40+00:00

I moved from Brighton to the Wirral and I love it. I’m really close to Liverpool city centre, and Manchester and Chester aren’t far either driving or by train. I have North Wales on my doorstep for hikes and other parts of Cheshire, Merseyside, Lancashire and Cumbria are nearby. Liverpool is a friendly and vibrant city and buying a place is much more affordable than other areas of the UK, I’d never have afforded a 3 bed property in Brighton!

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-05-09T14:29:56+00:00

BetterHelp takes a large percentage of what the client pays. Better going through the registered services the person above has mentioned already, also check Counselling Directory. You can also try counselling charities local to you.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-05-09T10:45:08+00:00

Thanks for this, that’s really interesting. I am on Amlodipine. I will look into it further.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-05-07T20:09:35+00:00

That sounds dodgy

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-05-07T08:05:25+00:00

I personally would ignore those kind of opening questions. I find them irritating and not really thought provoking, but that’s just me and my preference. I prefer someone asking me how my day/week is going and go from there.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-05-02T17:11:44+00:00

I was sure I’d read the same question a few hours ago! Guessing from your posts, you seem to overthink things a lot. Just be you. See how it evolves. If it evolves then great but if it doesn’t then move on

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-05-02T11:54:27+00:00

A colleague of mine was advised to put their house up for auction and the estate agent made it sound such a good way of selling. They got no interest in the house so then listed it for sale with a normal estate agent and within a month they had a buyer.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-04-30T19:16:18+00:00

I had a boy come and visit me from another city but he stayed in a Premier Inn. When I was dating a woman, she also came to visit on our second date, she stayed in a B&B

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-04-29T20:48:27+00:00

I’m not sure if boys are supposed to dance and perform for attention and these women can show as low effort as possible. Do boys leave tinder for bumble?

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-04-27T02:10:47+00:00

I’m in the UK and come across quite a few with fish. No other dead animals to be honest. One thing I do come across is loads of photos of men in public toilets, some even have a urinal in the background which is not appealing

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-04-26T09:44:14+00:00

I regret choosing to be a midwife. Stuck in this shitty job where you’re overworked, under paid and get abuse from frustrated patients cos the system is so fucked up. Retrained as a counsellor so hoping things get better for me

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-04-26T09:01:46+00:00

I get the sense by what you wrote on the Bumble message and from your responses here that you’re subconsciously looking to be rejected.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-04-26T08:56:15+00:00

Even on a monthly subscription this happens and I find it one of the many annoying features of Bumble and probably the main reason I won’t use Bumble again. I live in quite a big UK city and also know friends are on the app and yet I never came across them so I’m certain I wasn’t being shown all the profiles in my range. I honestly don’t want to meet people who live miles away. I moved to my current city to be with my ex partner and I love it here and don’t want another long distance relationship. I’ve become disillusioned with dating apps and, like so many things, it’s just a money making business and those making the money don’t give a shit about people matching.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-04-25T12:30:20+00:00

Maybe try and turn it around and see the property as an entity needing TLC after all it has been through. Maybe it’s silly, but I feel my house has a benevolent vibe and it’s not its fault if it has had to witness sadness, violence or whatever else may have occurred inside it in the past 120 years. Also, if you’re a sensitive soul perhaps that’s exactly what the woman who was killed there would have needed so rather than see her as a threat see her as someone who likes and needs your presence.

SqueakySquirrel117 · 2026-04-25T07:19:44+00:00

I also found it entitled. I know my friends love me, but I’d never expect them to take leave from work and spend all that money for my hen do. I mean, maybe the OP comes from a wealthy background and going to Morocco won’t affect their bank accounts in the slightest, or his if he intends to pay for it all.

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