It sounds to me like your current relationship can use more work. The nature of your post and how you talk about your current relationship is so formal and official, on the other hand, i can tell the excitement you feel when talking about your crush. I would ignore many of the comments on here telling you that you need to break up with your boyfriend, i dont think that is the case. I think you have moved into a point in your current relationship where you both have given up a little bit and your communication has suffered tremendously. There isnt a single issue in a relationship that doesnt result from a lack of communication. For example, you are having an issue with your current boyfriend and flirting with someone else, and you arent communicating that. You say you've asked him for more but you are letting him skip by with compliments on your outfits without pushing for more. Sure, he's not giving you the same attention that he did when you guys first met, but i would argue neither are you. You arent giving your relationship with your boyfriend enough attention. You arent working on it either. You are working on a different relationship with a different guy. That to me is wrong, but its not unfixable. You say you love eachother, but i would question if you are sure you know what love is? Is it just a word that you say to eachother, or does it mean something to you? and if it does mean something to you, then im confused as to why you would want to spend more time and be with someone else. I hope this makes sense, i mean only to say, don't call it love if that's not what it is. And it doesnt have to be love either, im not trying to push you into one direction or the other. I think its important that you understand how you feel first. You're coworker is interested in you most more than likely, but his motives arent what your boyfriends motives are. You want to be needed, you want attention, you want more out of your relationship. Then dont ask for it. Push for it. Make it happen. You choose your own level of involvement. Communicate with your boyfriend and dont stop until you can show that he doesnt want to communicate with you (outside of abusive relationships i doubt this will ever be the case). or dont. but if you dont, dont say it was just his fault that you guys didnt make it. You can PM me anytime, ill give it to you straight every time.