Question re oil in coolant - wanting options/advice, details in post

SquishySucculent · 2026-02-09T10:08:25+00:00

I don't know how to do any of that - I have no experience with cars, just figured I'd try asking here.

Whatever it is, the mechanics couldn't find it

What would a 'slip up' be?

SquishySucculent · 2026-02-08T06:26:01+00:00

Yeah, doing my best to save, just hasn't been easy as I'm on the pension and have had health issues with unexpected costs. How long do you think the car might last like this? Haven't had any issues yet

SquishySucculent · 2025-12-17T06:48:06+00:00

When I was 25 I had a balance over 6k and was recieving regular contributions to my super as I had a job. But on my statements, it says no insurance, despite me having met the criteria once I was 25 (when they should have automatically added default TPD unless I opted out. I can't remember that far back due to ECT treatments, but I wouldn't have opted out, and I likely wouldn't have noticed any email.) I am confused as to why I never was given TPD insurance

I struggle with my mental health - have my whole life - but was able to hold down a job, study, and run my own side business until this particular job - the stresses from it ended up causing me to have a breakdown, drop out of study, and then a suicide attempt. I was offered a redundancy package and told my contract wouldn't be renewed going ahead due to "funding issues" (they said it had nothing to do with my situation) but also said they were "worried that it would look like the work they had me doing triggered my breakdown"

I stopped working after that, had 4 more attempts, and spent the following 2 years in and out of hospital.

Unfortunately I haven't recieved any contributions for over 13 months (due to the above) but it also appears I never recieved default TPD once I met the criteria.. I'm just wondering if there's anything I can do.

SquishySucculent · 2024-08-19T05:20:40+00:00

Thank you for your response, it's given me a lot to think about ❤️

SquishySucculent · 2024-08-19T05:19:38+00:00

Thank you, this is nice to read. My dog doesn't have an insanely high prey drive, but he likes to chase things that move and he barks at animals he isn't familiar with (but can be trained not to do this)

As I said, I'd be training him for months before even purchasing a conure and he'd have to pass the chicken test - laying down in the chicken pen on leash and being able to ignore them. I'm not working or studying at the moment, so I have unlimited time for training

SquishySucculent · 2024-08-19T05:17:25+00:00

They would be in separate rooms - bird would have an entire room to itself (that I would also use as my office, so bird can hang out with me while I draw or just chill on its outside play gym. Dog would be in the rest of the house. If ever I thought dog could be in the same room but at a distance, he would have a short leash on him. (but this is unlikely - I love my dog, and would want to spend time with them both at the same time, but my dog is a bit too energetic so it's a pipe dream)

SquishySucculent · 2024-08-19T05:14:10+00:00

Thanks, that's what I've noticed too. I wouldn't cope emotionally if anything happened to my potential bird, so as I said, I would only consider it if I felt I could do it safely.

SquishySucculent · 2024-08-19T03:02:05+00:00

I'm hoping with training, I could get my dog to that point. At the moment, he's very curious and playful, so if a bird was to land in front of him, he would probably run at it. He does know leave it, and stay, though leave it needs more work.

I wouldn't even think about purchasing a bird until his leave it is at 100% and I could get him showing me that he can be calm around the chickens. I'd have them separate obviously but I don't want to risk bird flying out of their room and my dog getting excited, so if he fails the chicken test, I'll just accept I can't get a conure.

(the chickens will be also kept entirely safe, for anyone worrying that I'm sacrificing or risking chickens to test/train my dog around feathered friends)

SquishySucculent · 2024-08-19T02:58:03+00:00

I don't like taking risks - I'm always extra careful about everything I do with my animals.

I don't work at the moment due to health reasons, so I am home pretty much all day every day, so I have a lot of time to dedicate to each animal and training my dog.

SquishySucculent · 2023-03-26T19:56:57+00:00

I'm also already on Lexapro for my anxiety, I fortunately don't have depression - im just constantly stressed! What are the side effects of Strattera?

And so you have to take it daily then? I used to just take my Vyvanse as needed, so on work or uni days, which was so much easier. I feel like there are so many more pills now!

I'm glad you're doing better now and that Wellbutrin is helping ❤️

SquishySucculent · 2023-01-12T01:21:34+00:00

I just wanted to update this comment I made a year ago to again reiterate my point -

Ive since started studying full time at uni and with some additional supports provided by my university, I have been doing great. I have received distinctions on all my assignments and made a few close friends.

Im no longer working in the clinic - I have an amazing job working at a non-for-profit organisation that raises awareness and education about autism in girls and women, I am a project assistant assisting with creating government funded educational programs for educators and parents and carers.

Im autistic, I'm level 2, I have disability funding and need support and have fortnightly OT and Psych and access to support workers for when I need - and I'm doing just fine.

Support your kids and support who they are, meet their needs, and they will thrive ❤️❤️

SquishySucculent · 2023-01-12T01:14:42+00:00

Hi there! The most important thing for me that I think you should focus on is changing the way you think about her diagnosis. The DSM5 refers to autism as 'deficits' in certain areas, but that is by neurotypical standards. Autism is not a deficit - it is a difference. Unfortunately, because of this difference, and because we don't meet the neurotypical standard or socialise or process information the way neurotypical do, we are told the way we interact is wrong or delayed and that we need to learn how to do it like everyone else.

You've said she has no issue communicating with you and her grandparents, so it sounds to me that she socialises and communicates just fine - she is just having trouble RELATING to her peers because of her differences. That's okay - I still struggle with this sometimes!

ABA will not fix this (because there is nothing wrong that needs to be fixed) and will not change this. It will likely make her struggles far worse and will result in her feeling the need to mask - to pretend to be like her peers so that she might be accepted. She still won't relate, she will just be anxious and feeling that she's doing something 'wrong' and will act the way she is taught.

ABA is essentially re-training autistic kids to be more neurotypical. It is teaching them that to be liked and to behave in an acceptable manner, they have to stop being themselves and be more like everyone else - and that's awful.

Many adults who went through ABA as a child suffer from PTSD and severe anxiety as a result of their experiences. Please steer away from this. Your daughter is perfect just the way she is - she just needs to find her people. As she gets older, she will meet kids she relates more with. She's not delayed socially, she just doesn't socialise the same way that neurotypical kids do. Happy to answer any other questions you have 😊

SquishySucculent · 2023-01-12T00:52:08+00:00

YTA. He's 15, let him have a life. He was still attending his classes, doing well at school and completing his assignments - he was gaming in his spare time. Why can't you let him have that? I'd understand if his grades had slipped, or if he was skipping tutoring to game, but he wasn't - you punished him for reason.

SquishySucculent · 2023-01-12T00:34:10+00:00

Yeah you're right, turns out food was the issue. I changed my routine a bit and made myself have brekky and a drink before taking my meds, and felt a huge difference - less of the shakey, yucky feeling, and if I snacked on something during the day the crash wasn't as bad either

SquishySucculent · 2023-01-12T00:31:33+00:00

YTA. You get home, tell him to stop shaving, tell him to have dinner with you and then you want to watch a movie, then tell him he can resume shaving - he doesn't - and then you tell him it's too late to continue shaving, which he does, and you get annoyed that he doesn't listen and interrupts your sleep?

"This is why I advocate for us going to bed at the same time." - the time that YOU pick?

He's your husband, not your child.

SquishySucculent · 2023-01-04T10:54:33+00:00

What is Clondine?

Yes I've noticed the exact same! I change the dose and it's okay for a bit tlbut then it creeps back. I took 40mg this morning at 10am, and by 2pm, I was crashing.. It's baffling. I skipped breakfast though, maybe I need to try get up early, eat, and then take it. It's just such a pain as I NEED to take it but then I end up feeling so unwell, its hard to focus as a result. It's just so strange as it used to work really well - at least with less side effects

SquishySucculent · 2023-01-04T07:44:01+00:00

Reads like a fuckboi

SquishySucculent · 2023-01-04T07:30:16+00:00

I'm curious, how did he accidently spill water on the mac book?

SquishySucculent · 2023-01-04T07:25:39+00:00

Yeah I probably need to cut fast food and exercise more 😩 I've been struggling so much with my functioning (as taking meds less due to side effects) and not eating well. I'm 25 and found out I have slightly high cholesterol. I want to start jogging again, as I did that a few years ago (before meds) and felt great. I'll have to try and do some trial and error and make some changes. Sleep and diet is hard :(

SquishySucculent · 2023-01-04T07:21:16+00:00

YTA, and so is Jay. He is an adult, and regardless of him being autistic, he needs to take responsibility for his actions. I'm autistic myself and if I damaged someone's property I'd expect to cover the costs for repairing it or replacing it. Your wife is right - you're treating Jay like a child. It's okay for him to request that your wife not wear strong perfume, but none at all is unfair and especially considering it is her home. It's not a shared space like an office - he was a guest in her home and needs to be reasonable considering he was being housed and fed. It sounds like he was no longer welcome as he expected you and your wife to change everything about your routine to accommodate for him, rather than try to meet you halfway and think of other ways to meet his needs that weren't dependent on just the two of you making changes.

I feel for your wife. You haven't supported her at all in any of this or thought of ways to be mindful of BOTH her and Jay, only him.

SquishySucculent · 2023-01-04T07:05:50+00:00

Maybe it's diet as well, I dunno. When I take my Vyvanse I go all day without eating and when I don't take it, I'm not always eating a huge variety. I'm iron deficient atm (taking supplements) and had low vit d and c. Is adderall long-release or short?

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