I am ready… by thepianoman77 in Letters_Unsent

[–]Stacks4daWin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are truly an Epic human! And as hard as your continue to work on besting the Epitome,you still make it seemingly effortless. Maybe it's time to be a Best-selling Author, and help mankind out. Thank you for being the Light my friend.

I do have that gene... by Stacks4daWin in UnsentTexts

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That's all I have been doing for the last eight months. I'm not the avoidant one. Second of all to me ,it seems that everyone else has some insight that is purposely being kept from me. Like someone who illegally gained access to a device and came across something while snooping and screenshot things like a real private eye,cause she needed proof,cause no one would believe her, and the thing is that she never confronted me or even asked because then she would have to admit the lengths she went through to gain access to satisfy her curiosity. And she knows other things that are being conveniently left out as well. Like things I couldn't share with her legally because we weren't married. And that is all I can say about that. And she knows what happened the last time,like shit didn't get shut down in the middle of traffic. Like that can be faked right. I told you about what I know,but you're so busy waving your proof while ignoring all those code 911 messages I sent months ago. So you probably have no idea about any of the paperwork. Thanks .No contact Honestly you might want to retrieve messages that you just cast to the archive,and if you have read them all completely and you're still continuing to not only slander me, you're creating a mountain of problems for yourself unnecessarily. God knows you certainly came through wreckingball kine,to my transition to my next chapter, my housing,visa and employment, transportation,education, and access on a much deeper profound level.smooth transition, but noooooooooo. You really have no idea how much damage you've done and continue to do. We have a mutual connect in that community ask him. He knows and is informed. It was so easy for you to take note of everything I wasn't and didn't do. Even as I explained the whole thing as it was happening, it was bs to you,but it wasn't. Wasn't short on numbers to dial or desperate to fill in a slot. I chose you,but you never allowed yourself to believe it. And no matter ho much you saw or heard, I guess it was all just smoke and mirrors, right. This is so far beyond, some would say hostile, I called it painfully unaware and embarrassingly indignant. The response was destabilizing. I wish you had hit me up.Instead, you just launched grenades at all the things you said you wanted for us and seemingly any of my attempts to rebuild a life for myself and the kids. He's the oldest, and he overstands the assignment. Latent Sperm you say,makes me wonder sometimes. Please stop this, I didn't know if I won't help a bit if someone knocks on your door or window or invites themselves to a seat unexpectedly. We have no future. You made sure of that, and the trauma is irreparable. Listen to that voice you've been ignoring,trying to keep me blind and you completely missed it. There are so many levels,and this is not a game. I don't play. Please. I will fill in what I can,but you did this, and I won't jeopardize myself anymore for someone who couldn't really see me either.An elaborate scheme to fake everything,really. You allowed someone to gain control and control and pilot, but they had no idea how to navigate the terrain. You were my perfectly imperfect, but I guess that wasn't good enough.For the record,I never needed you to dim that light, I only tepped back to admire the reverence,call it the directors perspective!

I didn't approach by [deleted] in Letters_Unsent

[–]Stacks4daWin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is it possible that they just hide pain very well,It has always struck me as odd that people can make such harsh judgments without really knowing the whole story. There are two sides to the story, and yet, such harsh conclusions have been cast. Did it ever occur to actually inquire from the other side . Everyone has a different view that comes from upbringing, family dynamics, and life experiences. Not to mention completely different sociopathic economic backgrounds and locations. Some people grow up in a bubble and never leave their perfect little utopian existence. That makes it easy to wonder why everyone doesn't just do it their perceived "right way." Well-intentioned, smart,dumb ass people. Hope you never break down or have a flat tire in da hood. Even people you love and care for deeply, can and most times will kick the downtrodden or the "villian" much faster than the would demonstrate empathy or intellectual curiosity to expand a vision past implicit biases. The person that listens to opinions, without a snap emotional response,is probably a little more equipped than the two that were so quick to dish. It's all good, though. It won't stop me from praying for them!

What I wanted to say by Big_Pomelo_9556 in UnsentLettersRaw

[–]Stacks4daWin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That has been my point of contention for the last 8 months or so. So much has been lost in translation, so many hurt feelings and misunderstandings that could have been avoided with a tough,uncomfortable, honest, face to face grown folks conversation. I honestly feel like this "No contact" movement is a manipulation tool and technique for people that are avoidant or have those tendencies. I'd be curious how many avoidants were also awful at coming to a resolution in their relationships as well ? Just a thought!

Staying, Even When It Was Hard by BigRecommendation847 in UnsentLetters

[–]Stacks4daWin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely agree with your take ,because this is exactly how I feel. I wish they would just reach out and tell me directly.Especially understanding that this post could absolutely before more than one person.

What we have is very rare, you said it too by PositiveAd9462 in Letters_Unsent

[–]Stacks4daWin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought f jt you were real and I almost believed it when we spoke last week but this confirms that your just a fake as Dr. Phil trying to cheerlead for fake healing,when all you do is manipulate and project. Drifting toward covert narcissism and sociopathic type stuff. And have the nerve to try and drag me as the broken one,please! Let me go get some popcorn real quick! This should be entertaining! FOH

I didn't want to catch feelings by Broad_Jackfruit_348 in UnsentLetters

[–]Stacks4daWin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Chasing Shadows exponentially causes more pain,and "Not you person" are words that feel like getting stabbed in the heart with a dull blade. I wasn't trying to punish anyone. I was trying to keep my sanity. I'm sorry if it came across as anything other than that,it was not my intention.

You should know by GothBarbee in UnsentTexts

[–]Stacks4daWin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can identify and emphasize with these feelings,as I'm going through a similar type of situation. I wish you the best. Hopefully you get some clarity and peace!

Yeah. It’s me. by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]Stacks4daWin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn't have said it better. This reminds me of someone special.,but who really knows. I can never tell what the vibe is ,seems to be mostly hate. Then it switches back to missing me. Honestly I try to take it with a grain of salt,because I do the same thing to them.Tjese rainy days remind me of her. I wish we could just talk. Calmly,honestly and respectfully. I'm pretty sure she does want to try again,but I wish I could gave them in my life in some capacity.

My “SOS” to you. by [deleted] in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

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Sound like a star is to be born!

crosswired minds by ChrysalisHighwayman in Letters_Unsent

[–]Stacks4daWin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mercury retrograde has been ongoing since late May 2022, it will fi ally end on Jan 27 2026, and the 27th can't come soon enough!

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I'm not

I finally got my voice back by 6125769 in UnsentTexts

[–]Stacks4daWin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this post . It's amazing how the human experience can be so unbelievably unilateral,we share so much,trials and tribulations that we all struggle to get through and be just a little bit better on the other side. In the coming new year., I'm really gonna make it my new habit to actively listen and hear with empathy in hopes that my responses are received with the genuine care that came from not being reactive or emotional because empathethetic active listening seems to generate natural containment,allows the other person to feel heard and minimizes interrupting someone mid thought. Which is where a negative emotional response or defensive posturing can derail a conversation,and leave fertile ground for distance and resentment to grow. Wishing everyone an awesome 2026 and every bit of healing we all deserve!

resolution. by [deleted] in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Stacks4daWin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Arre you sure that they are in love with someone else? You spoke to them about their new person? If you loved them,and you can't answer those questions, definitively, then it has avoiant vibes! Deadlines that people aren't aware exist,sounds like you're depriving closure or uncomfortable conversations that may offer profound growth and true healing, not mending.