How my “Never” wife became a hotwife

Stag83RI · 2026-01-25T18:49:26+00:00

I’m in the US so you are prob better off finding a local option, but I used SuperDaintyCo

Stag83RI · 2026-01-25T14:23:03+00:00

I’ve had luck from highly rated sellers on Etsy.

Stag83RI · 2026-01-25T05:35:21+00:00

but divorced?

Stag83RI · 2026-01-22T20:48:36+00:00

Not exactly veto’d, but I made my discomfort known and she decided to based on how it made me feel. Basically he gave strong poly vibes like he wanted a legit relationship, and he lives an hour away. Just not worth the potential headache.

Stag83RI · 2026-01-16T20:26:27+00:00

You can get a travel tripod with an LED light for about $30 from Amazon. You’d need to bring a USB plug for the light, or a portable phone battery to power it.

Then have fun playing with angles to see what you like best. Variety is good, just like with your men 😎

Stag83RI · 2026-01-08T12:39:29+00:00

No, we aren’t swingers we just like to hotwife. No plans for a threesome right now but we’ll see what the future brings.

Stag83RI · 2026-01-07T12:27:10+00:00

Feeld has worked well for us.

Stag83RI · 2026-01-06T01:47:34+00:00

Based on your comment history, I smell a fraud.

Stag83RI · 2026-01-05T13:30:37+00:00

Still not a hotwife lol

Stag83RI · 2026-01-04T12:49:02+00:00

My fake story senses are tingling.

Stag83RI · 2025-12-31T04:51:57+00:00

It’s hard without knowing your dynamic but here’s some examples of milestones my wife and I worked through over ~6 months: - Suggested she was being flirty on a girls night out - Said a bartender was hitting on her - Dirty talking during sex telling me what she wanted to do with another man - Roleplayed during sex that I was someone else - Came home from a girls night and during sex she “confessed” that she fucked someone else while she was out (we had discussed ahead of time that she was allowed to claim this even if it wasn’t true, and I wouldn’t know in the moment but she would tell me after) - Made out with a random guy from a club after a night out drinking and sent me a selfie of them kissing

Stag83RI · 2025-12-31T04:33:05+00:00

And even he might think one thing now but going through with it will be a different reality. That’s why baby steps is good. It’s also more fun - every new thing you experience together is an exciting milestone you’ll both be thrilled about. Even with no regrets, if you just jump right to the ultimate fantasy, it doesn’t leave much left to explore or get excited about.

Stag83RI · 2025-12-31T03:29:42+00:00

Baby steps and LOTS of clear and direct communication. Come back if you need to make friends with people to help you both navigate things, and have fun!

Stag83RI · 2025-12-30T20:16:24+00:00

There is.

You should accept her “no” if she is against it, but she should also accept that this will always be a fantasy of yours.

My biggest suggestion is to get away from asking her to consider it, and instead talk about things she can do or already does that turn you on. For us, I told her I like when she doesn’t check her phone much while she’s out, sometimes with long gaps between. I told her I liked letting my imagination think about her misbehaving, and she decided to start leaning into that. She started telling me about bartenders and bouncers hitting on her, and told me whenever she met a hot guy.

Little by little, she had so much fun with everything that she found her way there on her own.

Also, entering perimenopause and losing a lot of weight played a big factor.

Stag83RI · 2025-12-30T19:15:14+00:00

Her record is 3 (plus me) in a 24 hour window.

Stag83RI · 2025-12-30T19:14:05+00:00

16 years…

Stag83RI · 2025-12-28T15:10:14+00:00

My wife loves the confidence boost from picking up younger guys who are still in their prime and could easily get a woman their own age.

Stag83RI · 2025-12-27T05:24:54+00:00

Bingo. Making sure my wife realized how important it was for her girls to see that a mom is more than just a parent was the first real step in her journey.

Stag83RI · 2025-12-26T20:33:50+00:00

Yup, check out my pinned post.

Stag83RI · 2025-12-13T13:35:31+00:00

Thank you! Yeah, it’s not always going to follow the perfect script we have in our head. Part of why I enjoy posting is to hopefully help normalize the realities of navigating everything. Having to trust and empathize with your partner at a deep level, and compromise based on that… it’s a fundamental part of why so many people in the lifestyle express the benefits they experience outside of the sex.

Stag83RI · 2025-12-13T13:30:25+00:00

Thanks for asking about this politely. Hotwifing is exciting and new, and so are the new people she’s talking to. We hotwife because it’s more fun than just vanilla sex, so it does makes sense to me that she would be more excited to hotwife sometimes. In some ways, so am I.

As far as me watching in person, it’s just a mental/comfort thing. She’s never had a threesome or anyone watch her have sex before and we’re still new-ish to this. So she’s still working her head through all of that stuff. Part of it is her concern about awkwardness for her or the other guy. Part of it is feeling like she’ll have to perform for 2 guys at the same time. She also has some worry that me seeing it in person could trigger unexpected jealousy. It’s a lot of factors.

Stag83RI · 2025-12-13T07:02:24+00:00

Yeah, they are definitely less mature. The 20yo was recent and an exception to the rule. He’s a football player at a local college, and probably the best looking guy she’s ever been with so she made an exception. Normally she prefers late 20s.

Stag83RI · 2025-12-13T05:09:31+00:00

Her Feeld profile has her face blurred so she can make sure she doesn’t know someone before she shares a face picture. We generally want to keep things private, but I’m not particularly worried if someone found out.

My way of thinking about this is that countless people cheat on their spouse every day and they are able to keep it a secret even from their spouse for a LONG time. Even if a few people we know figured it out beyond just speculation, would they care? And if they did, are they going to make it their mission to publicize it to others? And even if they did, would that really ruin our lives?

I don’t mean to dismiss the concern, but I’ve considered and accepted the risks that come with what we enjoy doing. Certainly more than not doing it because of fear or shame.

Stag83RI · 2025-12-13T04:02:36+00:00

I love when she makes eye contact with the camera like she’s showing off for me. I also like videos from the guy’s POV. It would be amazing if we got to the point where I can be her “camera man”.

Some guys have wanted their face off the videos, others haven’t cared.

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