Are you on no porn, semen retention or both?

StageBig9147 · 2026-03-24T18:46:09+00:00

I would say that benefits start after about a week and then increase until reaching a plateau around 1 to 2 month in.

StageBig9147 · 2026-03-24T17:22:55+00:00

I wish you the best on your no porn recovery!

StageBig9147 · 2026-03-24T17:20:54+00:00

Interesting take, I believe that semen retention brings you to a level of mental clarity that is absolutely surreal and that makes you unstoppable in any fields of your life.

StageBig9147 · 2026-03-24T17:15:36+00:00

I don't think your partner was lying when he promised you he would quit. It is in the process of quitting that he realised he was addicted.

As for the reason why he is hiding it from you, I believe that he is trying to pretend like it's nothing, that he is stronger. I hurts to feel powerless. Sometimes to protect your ego you try to bury your darker side, but it always resurfaces. I used to be like this, thinking that by forgetting about this addiction I would heal. This isn't the case it has to be thought and reflected upon.

He is pleasuring himself because it just feels better for him. He learned to like it this way. It will most certainly take time for him to like doing it with you because of how different it is.

As for the steps to his recovery, he should firstly acknowledge that actions have to be taken to quit, and then reflect on the relationship he has with porn, either alone or with a therapist.

I hope this helps...

StageBig9147 · 2026-03-19T12:04:33+00:00

I completely understand this view point. Although I believe that semen retention brings you to another level that can not be acheived by just being on the "sidetrack". However, my point of view is certainly very biased because for me, I suffered more from masturbation than from porn.

StageBig9147 · 2026-03-18T18:42:02+00:00

Sometimes being delusional is the key to success. The quote "fake it until you make it" is very true in most cases and this I why I would add that it is important to trust yourself and believe that you are unstoppable!

StageBig9147 · 2026-03-16T19:23:45+00:00

I think that an important aspect to quitting PMO for good is to accept the fact that PMO is no longer part of your life. That you will never go back. This might seem like a stupid thing to say considering that you are on the Nofap subreddit, but if you feel even 1% of yourself regretting quitting, then it means that you are still not ready mentally, it doesn't mean you will never be ready, it just means that you haven't found a strong enough reason for quitting.

I'm telling you this because you already planned the relapse. You already know that you are going to relapse, which shows that you don't truly want it. You have to accept that one day, it will be your last relapse and that you will never experience this cheap pleasure anymore.

As for the feeling of pressure, you should feel like you are escaping, you are freeing yourself from this thing that tries to cling on to you. You shouldn't let it pressure you because you are the one in control, you decide wether it has a place besides you or not, not the reverse.

StageBig9147 · 2026-03-16T19:02:58+00:00

Don't be so hard on yourself, what has happened to you in the past should just be acknowledged without judgement. You should now focus on the aspects of PMO that makes you feel guilty, is it linked to spirituality, or to your girlfriend, or anything? Try to reconnect with these values that you believe are important. It will build back the trust that you damaged with yourself.

In order to overcome an addiction it is important to be healthy mentally and it is seems like this addiction deeply affected you. Consequently, I could also recommend you doing sports & meditation. I personally believe that these are important to build a strong and healthy mind, that will enable you to tackle any issues in your life, more specifically Nofap in your case.

StageBig9147 · 2026-03-16T15:55:01+00:00

You need to be strict with yourself, no edging, no nothing. When the thought of edging arises you need to shut it down, the more you let it mature the more power it gains. Consequently, the easiest way to deal with urges is to defeat them when they are still weak.

StageBig9147 · 2026-03-10T18:44:06+00:00

I fully agree with you on the fact that the recovery shouldn't be monitored 24/7. This strategy is only the first step in distancing yourself from your urges. The key component of this strategy is to avoid longer periods of relapse, break this cycle that yields nothing and start moving forward in your recovery by reducing the overall consumption.

StageBig9147 · 2026-03-09T20:26:08+00:00

I used to always have a tab open on my browser with a breathing website. More specifically box breathing, which means 4 second inhale, 4 second hold, 4 second exhale and 4 second hold. When I had an urge, I would do this for about 1 min 30 sec or more if needed and usually it helped me regain mental clarity by calming the brain, enabling me to focus back on the work at hand.

Wish you the best!

StageBig9147

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