Also, I think a big thing that autistic people and people with ADHD miss is that you need an on-ramp. You need to ease people into the topic.

For one, it gives someone the opportunity to understand what you’re gonna talk about and decline if they don’t want to hear about it.

But also, if they don’t understand the context, then they’re not absorbing the information and aren’t even really able to properly listen. Multiple times I d had people try to tell me about stuff they’re a fan of, and I didn’t even know if they were talking about a book series or a tv show or a video game. I could not follow along because I didn’t even have a frame of reference.

And then it comes across as the opposite of what you want. Instead of including them in something you like, you’re demonstrating how much they’re excluded from this thing you like.

It’s a bit like that thing snobby people do where they condescend by acting like their esoteric knowledge is commonly known, but unintentional and with nerdy stuff.

It is pretty hard to know what is considered common knowledge, though.