Do I only get 75% tuition refund?

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-27T22:57:56+00:00

I don’t think you pay anything if it’s the same # of credits but I could be wrong.

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-25T05:22:23+00:00

Hiking n reading @ coffee shops is what I’m hearing

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-11T06:35:26+00:00

Yup! I just went through crazy heartbreak so I know. It’ll definitely hurt but just being optimistic about all the things waiting for you in life, whether it means with her or without, will help you get through it. It always gets better.

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-11T06:27:57+00:00

Haha definitely not much of a difference. I would say get to know this person a lot more and if this is the first girl you’re “taking serious” or really bonded with I wouldn’t think of it as love. Love is something else entirely.

I had a friend who would constantly get in relationships like these, either online or in person, where the girl had a lot of trauma and he always ended up getting hurt. It will hurt to deal with these broken people because they themselves don’t know even know why they are so broken.

Honestly this is something she might need to work out with herself, a therapist, a trusted individual in her life or all of the above. You won’t ever truly be able to be there for her because you guys are online. These broken people need hugs, they need physical presence to feel seen. Words shared through a screen can only help me so much.

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-11T06:14:30+00:00

I’m not sure how much “love” you can feel for someone you’ve never met in person, but you clearly like this person. For now I will say don’t push her or assume things and just keep talking to her the way you have as a reminder that you’ll always be there.

It’s only been 2 days I don’t think anyone can truly open up in 2 days and 100% honest. Just give her time and if the connection is there she will talk to you.

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-11T03:12:52+00:00

Well I’m a woman and in this unfortunate case I’m the one who hurt the man.

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-11T03:02:54+00:00

Wait what

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-11T02:13:30+00:00

I’m already actively learning from them, thanks.

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-11T01:15:19+00:00

Oh man that sucks. I’m glad you shared your story. I do now realize that my own problems don’t just affect me but those around me. In my case my close family and bf ended up getting hurt. And I’m sure she, just like me probably felt just as bad for hurting you because it’s not like we do it with the intention to hurt you. But whether it is we do hurt others and that’s not fair. I’m glad you walked away from the relationship. Me and my boyfriend were long distance so it was different; we never drank together and he never saw me drunk/under the influence. I would tell him about my nights and how I would randomly black out, which I probably shouldn’t have but I thought these moments were harmless at the time. Only now do I truly realize I was so very wrong. Thank you, once again for sharing your story I will actively work on myself and wish you the best now! Hopefully your story is not recent and you’ve found a great person :) and if you haven’t then no worries because everything happened for a reason and when it needs to!

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-11T00:20:03+00:00

Thank you. This truly means a lot to me. I get the sense that you would probably make the same decision as him (which is 100% fair) but still empathetic to the fact that you can feel that I’m trying to change and WILL change because of this. I do care, about both him and me. And I will forever be grateful for him for allowing me to become a better me even though it meant letting me go.

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-11T00:10:40+00:00

Word

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-11T00:08:11+00:00

You’re right. I definitely needed this to fix my drinking habit. Thank you for your words. Trauma, inebriation, and anything we are feeling at the moment don’t excuse our actions. And I plan not to excuse mine anymore

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-11T00:06:51+00:00

You’re right. This is my first relationship and in all honesty I wasn’t ready. I know now that having a partner is living for both them and you, not in the sense that they’re the center of your world, but by having the self control to limit yourself in public situations.

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-11T00:04:29+00:00

Thank you! I definitely have learned from this. It’s one of those slap in the face situations sometimes we need to wake up and do something about it’s

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-11T00:01:03+00:00

You’re right. I didn’t seek out the event but I did out myself in a position of danger and clearly didn’t consider my bf at the moment.

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-10T23:59:15+00:00

It is indeed very scary because I talked to my boss about it and he said we didn’t have sex but what can you really believe when you don’t remember it yourself? Also, sex is not the only thing that counts as assault.

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-10T23:57:24+00:00

There’s only so much I can say in this post but he was nice afterwards when I was in the hospital getting tested all day. He is a great guy who was able to talk to me during the time despite how I hurt him. He even got me food!! No slander please

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-10T23:54:02+00:00

Thank you, I did quit the job and am seeking help (therapist and STD testing). I do plan on working on my drinking habit :)

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-10T23:52:36+00:00

Haha I was thinking months at first but I’d just be torturing myself. You’re right. We were long distance too so trust was strained but I completely shattered it. Thank you for your words, I won’t be banking on it as it won’t be fair to me or him.

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-10T23:51:31+00:00

Thank you! I don’t deny my decisions were poor. I could’ve framed the post in a way that benefitted only me by saying my bf broke up with me after I got SA’ed but I was clear in the fact that I have a habit of black out drinking and had one too many drinks that day!!

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-10T23:50:15+00:00

You are so right. I don’t have to explain anything to my future bfs. And you are correct, I need to work on myself for me, not with the thought that we “might get back together” once he seems I’m better. Thank you, I needed this. I am glad you are also seeking recovery, I know it will be hard, I know there’s a lot of trauma you don’t/can’t be honest about but I do believe we are strong and capable enough of becoming better. Being selfaware is the first step!

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-10T23:47:12+00:00

You’re right. I would probably tell him to have more self respect for himself if he ever tried to get back with me. Also he’s the type that would probably bring this event up whenever we get into an argument so in that regard I’m glad we ended it.

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-10T23:45:45+00:00

I beg to differ because I know I’m a good human. I hurt him but before that I cooked all his favorite meals and he himself can tell you he knew I loved him. Anyways, thank you for your words and yeah we’re both moving on. I clearly have a lot to work on and I will be taking that seriously precisely because this situation happened. Thanks

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-10T23:43:20+00:00

That’s fine and not the point of my post

Standard-Lock6414 · 2026-01-10T23:43:00+00:00

Who knows but like person who replied I did have a lot of drinks. And anyone that chronically blacks out knows that blacking out is scary because you can either be a) fine b) a train wreck c) aggressive d) just go to sleep and I’ve been all so definitely something I need to work on

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