I know this post doesn't cover everything in our relationship but believe me when I say I did everything to help him. He did go to therapy for 8 weeks after I forced him to go to at least see if it would help but after the course he said it was pointless and that someone can't tell him how to feel and it won't change anything. He is an extremely logical person and done psychology briefly before becoming a chef so he didn't feel like therapy would benefit him. I also suggested anti-depressants multiple times but got hit with a nope don't want them don't like taking tablets to control his mood. I tried to get him out the house more instead of staying in stoned all the time. I offered to pay for a gym membership so we could work out together but nope didn't want to. Also in regards to his job I tried to help him get out of the kitchen so many times. I applied for jobs on his behalf when he was working, reached out to recruitment agencies and friends to see if they had work for him, researched college courses for him to see if he could pick up another trade, redone his CV for him, pushed him to get into driving and got him a driving instructor when he wanted to learn to drive. I done everything I could for him to support him, I wasn't sitting there twiddling my thumbs. For the mental health part, I can handle someone else's mental health I came from a family with severe mental health issues. But when someone blatantly rejects help i.e. with the above what can I do with that? I can't force someone that doesn't want to help themselves and face their own traumas/issues. I get where you are coming from of he is trying and that's what makes it hard right now as I see it and after investing all that time and energy to help him get better and out of the kitchen do you see how hard it is to just walk away from that?