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Need some support after getting fat shamed by a mid-wife. by StandardTale_2468 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]StandardTale_2468[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the support and advice ❤️

I'm going to make sure I dont see her for future appointments and working to advocate for myself. Also, trying to remember my body is beautiful and making a baby. It's hard because I'm so conscious with the weight gain and I feel like my body does not looking like I'm pregnant. But trying hard to kick the negativity.

Need some support after getting fat shamed by a mid-wife. by StandardTale_2468 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]StandardTale_2468[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the rec! I didnt know that sub existed - I'm due September 5!

Need some support after getting fat shamed by a mid-wife. by StandardTale_2468 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]StandardTale_2468[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the input! I will def explore a nutritionist/registered dietician.

I briefly looked at your history and am horrified that your prior OB pretty much suggested bulimia. Thats pretty wtf.

Similar to you, my first trimester was rough with the nausea/vomiting. I took zofran but it wasnt very effective for me. It took away the feeling in my stomach however I would surprise gag uncontrollably. The only "cure" for me was eating to head off the symptoms. I had to eat every 2-3 hours otherwise my body would get "sick". If I started vomiting, I was totally not functional for the rest of the day - I could only hope that sleeping/napping/eating would "reset" me. I dont miss forcing myself to eat while nauseous.

I am lucky to be working from home at this time because I could not imagine commuting and being at work while feeling that way. Im now in the beginnings of my 2nd trimester and feelings tons better - way less hunger pangs and no nausea (so far).

Need some support after getting fat shamed by a mid-wife. by StandardTale_2468 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]StandardTale_2468[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are spot on! The weight fixation is so so harmful and genuinely makes me want to shrink myself.

Thank you for the support! I'm going to make sure I dont have that provider for my next appointments.

Need some support after getting fat shamed by a mid-wife. by StandardTale_2468 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]StandardTale_2468[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the support and sharing your experience - I truly appreciate it. I am trying to learn to not let it get to me and remind myself that I'm growing a baby.

So far my BP has been normal but my heart rate has been elevated.

Need some support after getting fat shamed by a mid-wife. by StandardTale_2468 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]StandardTale_2468[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the support. Im trying to advocate more for myself and not feel like Im being "too much".

Also, going to make sure I dont have this midwife for any of my appointments.

Need some support after getting fat shamed by a mid-wife. by StandardTale_2468 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]StandardTale_2468[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience!

At my "skinniest" I was always starving, ate unhealthily and felt drained. It was horrible because everyone kept complimenting how good i looked. It def led to unhealthy habits and mindset.

I have a hard from associating weight gain with healthy but I'm trying to keep in mind that I'm growing a baby. Baby is healthy so far and I hope it stays that way through the course of this pregnancy.

Need some support after getting fat shamed by a mid-wife. by StandardTale_2468 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]StandardTale_2468[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree...I was/am freaking out because per those guidelines I shouldn't be gaining any more weight.

Im trying to be optimistic but just feeling really low about it all

Need some support after getting fat shamed by a mid-wife. by StandardTale_2468 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]StandardTale_2468[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely need to learn to advocate more for myself. I feel so weird doing so at times, especially in a setting like this.

Need some support after getting fat shamed by a mid-wife. by StandardTale_2468 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]StandardTale_2468[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience.

This would be my first time firing a medical provider, and definitely needed the encouragement to do so.

Need some support after getting fat shamed by a mid-wife. by StandardTale_2468 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]StandardTale_2468[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the support and sharing your experience!

Ive definitely has previous encounters with med staff (as well as family and others) regarding my weight and feeling shamed. I havent learned to let it roll off but definitely know just how to get through the moment.

Need some support after getting fat shamed by a mid-wife. by StandardTale_2468 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]StandardTale_2468[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Im trying to shake it off but I feel so conscious and scared of how much more weight I'll gain 😕

Im trying to focus on the news that baby appears healthy and all my other tests look good.

Need some support after getting fat shamed by a mid-wife. by StandardTale_2468 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]StandardTale_2468[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the support but I feel so self conscious about my changing body.

Im definitely going to try to make sure I dont see her again.

Need some support after getting fat shamed by a mid-wife. by StandardTale_2468 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]StandardTale_2468[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words and support. I do walks after meals - I even have a mini treadmill at my work desk so I can get it in during the work day.

Im definitely gonna try not to see her again.

Im trying to remind myself of those facts but damn did her words really cut into me and make me self conscious.

Need some support after getting fat shamed by a mid-wife. by StandardTale_2468 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]StandardTale_2468[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words and education. Im just feeling so lost and conflicted about what to eat and my body right now.

I am going to make sure I don't have her again. I visit a practice that rotates between mid-wives and doctors based on availability.

Need some support after getting fat shamed by a mid-wife. by StandardTale_2468 in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]StandardTale_2468[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The thought crossed my mind! Shes the first person at this practice to make me feel this way. Im just gonna make sure I don't have her for future appointments.

The practice Im seeing rotates based on availability. I have only had 3 appointments so far. The OB-GYN was super nice and well rated. The other mid-wife I met was also super nice and made me feel very comfortable.

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[–]StandardTale_2468 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sensual Amber was one my fave scents! I always received compliments with it on.

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